What should parents do when friends tease their children with wine during the Spring Festival?

Chinese New Year is a time of year when few relatives and friends can get together. In retrospect, the Spring Festival when I was a child was almost spent in firecrackers, red envelopes and teasing by adults. Many adults who don't see each other several times a year always like to use jokes to bring themselves closer to their children. Some jokes are still interesting, but others cast a shadow over many children's childhood.

There is no doubt that the Chinese New Year is a very rare opportunity for everyone to sit together and socialize and enhance their feelings. Presumably, parents don't want to turn their faces easily because of some trivial things, but it is precisely because of these parents' hesitation that some inappropriate jokes are unscrupulous.

Xiaolan's family only strengthened their determination to stand up and protect their children at a New Year's Eve party in the face of malicious ridicule. At the end of the year, Xiao Lan and his wife took their children to a friend's house to attend a party. The child was very shy and finally got used to the strange environment and began to eat. At this time, the well-fed friend saw that the child was so clever, so he dipped chopsticks in wine and stuffed it into the child's mouth.

Xiaolan's child is five years old, and she is obviously not used to eating things handed over by others, let alone dipping her chopsticks in wine. However, no matter how the child refuses, friends should put chopsticks in the baby's mouth, and they will never stop until they do this. One to two, this is a joke, but the two are deadlocked there. Xiaolan and her husband saw this scene and didn't know how to react at first. Later, I found that my friend was pushing his luck and immediately turned his face. If your children don't protect themselves, don't you just let others bully you in front of you?

After returning home, the child told Xiaolan that he was particularly scared at that time and he never wanted to see that uncle again. If the parents don't agree at that time, it will leave a shadow on the child's heart.

Has your child experienced the following situations?

1. Force children to drink.

There may be many people who think it's no big deal to feed their children a little wine. But forcing children to drink will harm their health. Secondly, this kind of untimely joke will also make children feel resistant to relatives and friends. Fortunately, the child has grown up and directly defended his position with his own attitude and the support of his parents.

2. Tell the child's mother not to want you.

The child's sense of security is worn away by this joke. Many times, a joke played by an adult will be taken to heart by a child. The person who said this may be just a lip service, but he has planted the seeds in the child's heart that his mother doesn't love me. Once this seed takes root in the future, the impact on children will be almost devastating.

3. Throw the child into the air and catch it.

Perhaps in the eyes of many people, throwing children up to catch them is a fun interactive way. But every year, many tragedies happen in the process of having fun. Children are eager for novelty and excitement, so throwing them away once may be all right. However, children always save adults for the second and third time. Repeatedly repeating this dangerous action is likely to lead to an accident.

I believe that adults who joke with children often mean well. However, for adults, many things are just frivolous jokes, while children know too little about the world, and excessive jokes can easily have a serious psychological impact on children. If we only aim at hurting and teasing children, we can completely avoid the above three problems and make contact with children within a reasonable interval.