Why do "shameless" people often live with more face?

Du once said: "We should eat three bowls of noodles well in life, one is decency, the other is scene, and the third is affection." In the final analysis, it is "face." It is true that China people pay special attention to face, but is face really that important?

Not long ago, my friend made a long flight for work, but after boarding the plane, he found sadly that because it was summer vacation, the whole cabin was full of children, no, it should be said that it was all Xiong Haizi, so that the eardrum was always full of noise after taking off.

Soon the children began to learn the barking of dogs, cats and frogs. The friend was bitter, but he still suppressed his displeasure until he heard the harsh hiss, and the mother didn't mean to stop him. My friend was finally angered.

So he said to the mother, "Can you please educate your child well and let him know how to obey public etiquette?"

The mother's face suddenly changed: "What are you doing with the child?"

Hearing this, my friend tore it back mercilessly: "Don't excuse your educational incompetence. Your children are so old, and you are still so arrogant and yelling in public. Is this the right mentor? " After quarreling for a few minutes, my mother felt that she had lost the battle and the world was silent again.

I can't help clapping my hands and praising: "You can do this, your face is not as thin as before, and you will tear it back."

The friend replied, "Life is so bitter. If you don't want to endure it, you don't have to endure it. Let alone learn to be shameless, and life will be much easier. "

I couldn't agree more. I have heard people share successful experiences, which have three elements:

1. Insist

Be shameless

3. Insist on being shameless.

According to Qin Sang, people can't be too proud when they are alive, and they can't be too proud.

The "shameless" here is not to tell you to turn your back on morality, but to have the cheek to fight for what you want when necessary. The longer you live, the more you will find that once you have shameless courage, life will be different.

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It's good to love face, but it's foolish to love face too much.

In life, people are often tired because they are too proud.

I know a boy who loves face very much. He usually makes fair-weather friends, and bragging there is a kind of hype. One day someone asked him to borrow 20 thousand yuan, and he didn't have much savings himself, but he thought, "You can't lose face if you lose it." So I lent all the money in my card, but I didn't want it back for two years, and I was embarrassed to keep urging, so I called Shui Piao.

Isn't this the so-called "saving face and suffering"?

Qin Sang believes that one of the secrets of a happy life is not to take your thin face too seriously.

Everyone has this experience. When I was a child, I was late for school, scolded by my parents, the teacher couldn't name the problem, or fell down in public ... and I blushed instantly. When I grow up, I will feel humiliated when I am ridiculed by the leaders in public, exposed by the scandal and lost the election, as if the eyes of the whole world are watching me. Worried about what others think and how they discuss it, the past is still very bitter, saving face and pride, and being thin-skinned.

But as Ni Kuang said: "The vast majority of people who think they have no face and don't know how to step down are not serious at all." Everyone is very busy, and there is no time to reassure you.

It is a good thing to love face, but once you love face too much, you may make a joke.

In Living Together in Time and Space, the heroine Gu was angered by her best friend, so she made the poor young man pretend to be rich. As a result, he made a fool of himself in a high-end restaurant. Gu was so excited that he threw his "diamond ring" on the iron plate where he cooked, and it melted on the spot, causing his friends to laugh their heads off. Originally, I wanted not to lose face, but I became even more humiliated because I was afraid of losing face.

Zheng said in Pipiru and 4 19 Crimes: "The result of saving face is mostly losing face." We often live in the eyes of others because of face, afraid of making mistakes, making a fool of ourselves, not knowing how to refuse, trying to please everyone, but in the end it often backfires.

Thick skin is not a bad thing. People should be thick-skinned when they are alive. This is also a fear of losing face, and that is also a fear of losing face. In the end, nothing can be done.

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As long as you learn to be shameless, all injuries are skin injuries.

The same is true at work. Being too proud will make you more vulnerable.

A friend was originally a good woman who was easy to talk to. After several years of experience in the workplace, she successfully turned into a domineering lady. In her words: "Every day is basically a large-scale X-tear scene."

Other departments don't cooperate, pass the buck, throw the pot to you, tear it! The unclear handover of your own department led to the accident. If you don't clean up, you will clean up, deliberately making irresponsible remarks behind your back and tearing it up! "Even if she was scolded by you, she would pretend to come back to comfort you like circumstances. "Honey, it's okay," what do you mean it's okay? ! I rolled my eyes and came back. I was bullied by my sister if I didn't lose my temper. "

"Since shameless this armor, all injuries are skin injuries. At first, I really cared about the opinions of other colleagues, but as the number of times increased, I gradually became cheeky. For useless faces, beware of villains and fight for their rights. "

People whose face is more important than the sky are often vulnerable inside. The real inner strength is that after practicing a suit of armor, you will no longer be easily stabbed by others, so as to strengthen your goals and live freely and transparently.

"Shameless" is a learned skill, which can be acquired and consolidated through long-term stimulation. Once we learn to be shameless, our hearts will become stronger and we will not be easily knocked down. Leng Mei and gossip can't hurt us.

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Shameless now, you can grow a face later.

French writer Usain said: "The dirtiest thing in the world is self-esteem." For young people, this kind of self-esteem is often equal to face.

When my cousin just graduated, she went to do real estate sales. She meets fierce customers every day, suffers a lot of grievances and is complained for no reason every day. Of course, her boss won't ask why, he will just scold. She feels ashamed and always hides and cries alone.

But a colleague told her: "thin skin is not suitable for sales." It suddenly dawned on her that she learned to put down her face and take every difficult order seriously. Later, when her business level improved, she always overfulfilled her tasks and gradually got a promotion and salary increase.

Excellent people have long understood that face is the most useless thing when they have no money and no ability.

As Li Ka-shing said, "When you put down your face to make money, it means that you are sensible. When you still stay there and drink and brag, you know nothing but love the so-called face, so this is your life. "

Being too proud when you are young is a huge stumbling block, which will expose your inferiority and sensitivity and give you an excuse to escape and retreat. But the world never cares about your inferiority and sensitivity, it only cares about your achievements. So when you accomplish nothing, please throw your face into the toilet and wash it away.

Kitano Takeshi, a famous Japanese director, made a living by performing in strip clubs before becoming famous. At that time, people came to see striptease, and no one came specifically to see talent. But even if no one listened, he and his partner had the cheek to go on. In the industry, they are often suppressed by their predecessors, and they are also put to perform things to appease the audience's emotions before the finale. However, they don't admit defeat. Instead, I work harder and more sincerely every time. The struggle of talented people will always be a life-and-death struggle, too proud to have a future.

Year after year, as their programs get better and better, they go to better places to perform and accumulate more and more fans. They finally knocked down thousands of people and became popular in Japan.

Most people enter the society from the bottom, and are doomed to be despised and looked down upon, but remember to tell yourself that the present bow is for the long-term rise in the future. Don't give up because you are too thin-skinned Such people can't escape from the cage of humbleness and poverty all their lives.

Li Ao once said something I like very much: "When I meet a beautiful girl on the bus, many people are embarrassed to chase after her, for fear that others will not lose face. Then prove that face is more important than this girl, and you are worth missing. "

Life is nothing more than laughing at others, and then letting others laugh at themselves. Instead of putting up with everything to save face and make yourself feel depressed and regretful afterwards, it is better to resolutely refuse uncomfortable demands, tear them up if you don't like them, bravely ask "stupid" questions, make good use of the resources around you and not blindly pursue luxury goods. ...

Be yourself and don't be afraid of losing face.

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