Middle-aged couples, the man would rather listen to strangers than to the woman. What kind of psychology is it?

Women are not stupid, but they must be traditional women. The reason why men do this is also influenced by tradition. They think that listening to women will make them fall in price, and listening to their wives will make people say they are afraid of their wives. Besides, he won't do anything important, he will only haggle with his wife and act like a man.

I know a man who wanted to do something, but as soon as his wife encouraged him, he gave up as if his wife were going to kill him.

Later, his wife told him everything in turn, saying that she didn't like what she asked him to do, and he really did it, with good results.

Some men listen to everyone in order to show that they are men, but not their wives. Everyone is right, but his wife is wrong. This kind of man never understands his wife and has nothing in common with her, which makes her very nervous.

Divorce him. There is nothing wrong with him. Besides, he has children. Don't divorce him. This kind of life is boring and depressing.

Don't mention standing on this man. Don't give him face. The more people there are, the more you find fault with him, the more depressed he is.

A woman must have her own opinions, or she can not listen to her husband's advice and let him taste the bitterness of marital discord.

Women have to show off when they should, and good people need to be sharp.

Not just middle-aged couples. I've seen a few. When this man was young, he ate seafood with his friends all day. When he comes home at eleven or twelve in the evening, he can eat half the food. Pickles, barbecues and junk food are called parties. His wife tried her best to persuade him to eat more, but she refused! Outsiders and female colleagues know that he is delicious with pickles and salted fish, and sometimes he doesn't often get some for him. Friends drag him to drink today, others drag him to drink tomorrow, and all wineries run so happily! When I was in my forties, I suddenly found bloody stool. Only then did I know that I asked my wife. The wife immediately realized that something was wrong and quickly took him to the hospital for examination. I had an operation during the investigation! It was also God who took care of him. Everything is a beautiful expectation. As a result, I forgot the scar and ignored my wife's words! Two or three years later, as soon as his friends called him, he began to eat seaweed, regardless of his mouth and hair!

My wife's words are harmful to him! Being told by friends that eating and drinking is good for him!

Alas! Also speechless!

Women have long hair and short vision, and Zhang Shigui's blind bag doctrine. From marriage to middle age, I can drink a bowl of soup and eat steamed buns, but I don't know that her heart is broad. I don't study at ordinary times, don't care about state affairs, and plan in my own nest every day. what do you think?

So men are really in trouble, and they are willing to ask for advice from outsiders, rather than listen to their wives' nonsense.

What psychology? The man knew his wife like the back of his hand, but looked down on her psychology and acted accordingly.

Marriage and family of another man:

My wife is full of lies and empty words, but there is no truth in middle age. Where did she go to earn so much money?

I clearly heard you talking and laughing in other people's houses. When I came back, I asked her. She didn't recognize your voice. There are many tricks every day, some are true and some are false. When I came back to greet you, I was happy and smiling, but it was not true and sincere.

Look at that thin man, fat wife and money in socks. Tell me to knock on the door in the east and meet you in the west. I am exhausted every day. Can I still listen to you?

I listen to a stranger, but I don't listen to you That's the mentality.

It is estimated that this man has a strong mother or relative and sister, and he has developed the psychology of confronting women since he was a child, that is, as soon as you open your mouth, he thinks that you just want to change him and control him, so I don't care if what you say is right or wrong, I won't listen to this logic. I have had this kind of thing around me. My husband is driving at a speed limit on the highway, and my wife is afraid to tell the old man to slow down. The husband didn't listen, quarreled with his wife, saying that he didn't exceed the speed limit and there was no safety problem. At this time, my husband and friends on the side could not help but say that he also felt very unsafe and had better slow down. My husband slowed down immediately. Male chauvinism and psychological deviation from childhood.

For middle-aged couples, the man would rather listen to the opinions of outsiders than his wife. For this phenomenon, some people say that the wife is incompetent and has poor judgment, so she can't give her husband good advice. Some people think that this is because the husband lacks trust in his wife and thinks that his wife is unreliable. In fact, these are superficial phenomena and excuses. I think the most fundamental reason is that the relationship between husband and wife is very weak, which leads to this strange psychological phenomenon.

Let's take a closer look at the families around us. Usually, this kind of psychological problem will happen in a family where the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, but the couple with deep feelings will not. Then let's analyze the role of marital feelings in this phenomenon.

A couple with deep feelings

In a family with deep feelings between husband and wife, when things need to be solved, they all seek opinions from each other, discuss them fully, and then make a decision by combining the opinions of both sides, and rarely act arbitrarily; Even if you ask other strangers without asking your wife, this strange phenomenon will not happen.

Husband and wife should be interdependent objects. When encountering difficulties or unsolvable things, the first thing that comes to mind is your other half. Even if the other half can't give them a solution, they will still ask her for advice. This is a kind of respect and attention to their other half, which shows the importance of her position in their hearts.

Couples with weak feelings

In many families, the relationship between husband and wife is very fragile. Although we live under the same roof and eat together, we seldom communicate. Even if we communicate, it is not smooth and impatient. When they encounter differences, they often reprimand loudly or simply ignore them, resulting in communication stagnation.

Some people simply look down on each other from the bottom of their hearts, and even think that their wives are not worthy of themselves. It is because of her that they are holding back. If it weren't for her, she would have developed on her own. Therefore, in this distorted psychological situation, it is hard to expect him to ask his wife's advice, so it is not surprising that he would rather ask a stranger than waste time discussing with his wife.

It can be seen that only couples with deep feelings will avoid this phenomenon of asking strangers without asking their wives. To correct this abnormal phenomenon, both husband and wife need to truly realize the crux of the problem and enhance their feelings. In this way, they will treat their wives as their own and ask their wives when they encounter problems.

I don't think the more incompetent a person is, the more he behaves like this. Often this kind of family is not very good, because the husband and wife are not harmonious, the family is not peaceful and everything goes wrong. Perhaps this means that the three views are inconsistent!

I don't have the ability, I want to control the overall situation. In fact, he doesn't understand right and wrong. He doesn't know that having a wife and children is his only support, which is really good for him. She also thinks it is good for him to play jokes on others. He didn't know that the people who saw his jokes were from outside his home. To put it bluntly, this is stupidity!

You can let him try, no matter what, dead or alive. It doesn't matter whether he comes back or not. Ignore him and see if others will take care of him and give him food! He can taste it in less than two months. Whoever is kind to him should listen to him.

Sometimes a woman pays blindly, and he doesn't know you, but you still take care of him without hesitation, and he won't think what you say is good for him.

This kind of thing is also true, that is, many women listen to others rather than their husbands. There is something wrong with such a relationship, which is a big problem. There is no trust between us. You think everything you say and do is for his own good. But in his view, what you say and do happens to be torturing him, binding him and controlling him. He will be more rebellious, and will gradually alienate you and neglect you. Even as soon as you appear, he will face you with a sad face. By the way, it seems that he ignited TNT explosives hidden in him. He's getting angrier and angrier. Blow you in the face, Chad. You're baffled. Husband and wife have held grudges for such a problem for too long. After marriage, from trivial matters, to the problem of children's growth and education, and then to the problem of supporting each other. It also involves the use and distribution of each other's economic income To put it bluntly, the problem is that we no longer trust each other. Suspicion of each other, no one trusts anyone. I would rather believe the words of passers-by than my lover.

Couples with problems should learn to sit down and talk. Let's talk openly, and talk openly with each other. Heart for heart, love for fraternity. Don't wait until the cold war to get divorced and regret it. It's too late.

It's true, but it turns out that every time I don't agree, he does something secretly, and there is no good result. My friends don't bring relatives to work. I said that people who don't need to be invited, why invite them? Besides, relatives have something to talk about in the future. As a result, I didn't listen to it for two months because I played games almost every night until morning, so I got hurt, paid the medicine fee as usual, lost money, and brought my relatives to make trouble for several months. I want to be a friend's partner. I said we can cooperate only when the money is in place, but I didn't listen. As a result, I was cheated by hundreds of thousands. I want to rent a big factory. If I don't listen, I will lose 10 thousand every month, so I can't move, thanks to hundreds of thousands a year ...

I feel that outsiders are literally serious and don't listen to anything. I feel hopeless.

When a couple reaches middle age, and then something happens, the man would rather listen to outsiders than the woman. There are several possibilities.

1. This man is actually very inferior in front of his wife, but he is unwilling and afraid to admit it, so it is actually better to comfort himself by denying his wife's advice. Denial is one of people's self-defense mechanisms. When people can't get something or reach a certain goal, they will comfort themselves by denying something, which maintains a temporary psychological balance to a certain extent, but it will also hinder a person's psychological growth.

2. This man holds a kind of psychology that "family members should tolerate themselves no matter how they treat themselves" and "make a good image in front of outsiders". Some people take the image of foreign companies for granted and pay more attention to being kind to their families. They think that as long as they please outsiders, they can have a good image in society, and outsiders can go home and vent, so they choose to listen to outsiders.

3. Family environment. He lived in such an environment since he was a child, and so did his parents when they were young. He only listened to outsiders and became his former parents.

4. Very serious male chauvinism. A man who is too macho despises women very much and thinks it is shameful to listen to women, even if she is right, he will not listen.

5. Husband and wife look at each other. Although many couples have been together for many years, they hardly communicate and have nothing in common. Therefore, whenever something happens, they would rather listen to outsiders than their own families, because they feel that there is nothing to say to each other.

Well, I really find that many couples have this situation, and it has nothing to do with stupidity.

That's what my parents do. What dad says and does, mom always thinks he is talking nonsense, or that he is unreliable. But if it is someone else, like some neighbors, she will feel very reasonable and reliable, and immediately support it. For the record, my dad is a very stable and decent retired cadre. For example, my father likes to practice writing at home, and my mother is not happy. A big man says at home every day that he has nothing to write, so he might as well do something. Later, when my neighbors saw my dad's handwriting, they all praised his handwriting. My mother was very happy and made a lot of paper for my father to practice.

So is my aunt and uncle. I often hear my cousin complain that they often disagree. My aunt didn't agree with anything my uncle said, but after listening to others around her, she immediately agreed to do it.

My parents-in-law are even more unwilling to listen to each other's words, and sometimes they deliberately sing the opposite. First, my father-in-law is always unwilling to listen to her mother-in-law, and then her mother-in-law learns from him in a rage. After a long time, it becomes a habit.

I think it should be that two people are too familiar, familiar as themselves, and also a kind of self-distrust. At this time, if others are sure, they will immediately confirm that they are right. Many people will have this kind of psychology, but they may not realize it.