Married a daughter-in-law in the countryside and became a "poor household" after marriage. Why can't the high bride price come down?

Marrying a daughter-in-law in rural areas is very ostentatious when getting married, and the most important thing is the bride price. Nowadays, it is very expensive to marry a daughter-in-law in rural areas, and many families have put a lot of pressure on it. After marrying their daughter-in-law, they became poor households in the village. The bride price money has become the main burden of farmers, but it has not been cancelled because of traditional concepts and customs. In the final analysis, it is for the sake of the face of the two old people. People who want to marry their daughters want to save face.

1, the problem of traditional ideas and customs

It has been passed down from generation to generation, and the wedding custom is to pay a bride price. How much energy and time has my daughter spent raising for so many years? As a husband's family, it is natural to give a bride price. If there is no bride price money, it will be laughed at by others, especially in rural areas with strong traditional concepts. Whose daughter gets married and forfeits the bride price? People will laugh. If a family member marries a daughter-in-law, the villagers will laugh at him if he doesn't have the bride price. The formation of this marriage custom has been passed down from generation to generation, and it is difficult to get rid of it for a while.

2. The woman's family disagreed.

Who wants to marry a child for nothing? There is no bride price. Even in the city, as my husband's wife, I will take out some bride price money to buy a house, a car and give a bride price, not to mention that in the countryside, every household is more concerned about this matter. If you can't get the money, as a woman, you will feel that the man doesn't value himself, and the man doesn't love the woman enough, so he won't give the bride price money. It is not easy for a woman to raise a girl. Every family has food and clothing, but when they get married, they get nothing. This in itself is unfair to the woman, so if there is no bride price money, the woman is definitely unwilling to marry. In reality, many families parted ways at the last critical moment of marriage because of such a thing.

Now the state calls for changing customs, just to avoid the heavy burden of high bride price money on farmers. So today's young people should change their ideas and abandon the traditional customs inherited from the older generation. After all, the debts owed are finally paid by the young couple, and this kind of life pressure is also great.