What children really have to fight for is not IQ, but time management!

What kind of person can best become a winner in life? According to a Harvard study (this is a Harvard follow-up study that lasted for 76 years and cost more than 20 million US dollars.) "A warm and intimate relationship helps you move towards a prosperous life." And what is the cornerstone of a warm and intimate relationship? It's not IQ, it's time management ability.

Time management skills will lead you to spend your time where it should be spent. For example, Ivanka Trump, the daughter of the current US President, said: "I try not to chase the schedule, but try to spend my time where is the best. Where is I most needed. So, in my In all my work, I have been trying to think about how to balance myself. In my life, I have always put my family first. For me, my husband and children are always the most important. This does not mean that. My work pressure is not high or I have no pursuit of professional abilities, but my husband, children and my family always come first.”

So we saw Ivanka 18:00~20. :00, she spends time with her children at home and her husband from 20:00 to 23:00. In order to leave the office at 18:00, she must make up for her work elsewhere, so she starts working again at 23:00.

This story does not encourage unhealthy sleep, but shows that a warm and intimate relationship takes time to develop. As for children, they need their parents to open up their awareness of time management.

Heavy homework, cram school, interest classes. Children's sleeping time has been compressed, their meal time has been compressed, their rest and entertainment time has been compressed...

However, the rapid improvement in performance brought about by such compression does not essentially solve the problem, and even affects The child's physical and mental health; and parents also lamented: "Hey~ look at my child's dark circles, an 8-year-old child has dark circles like a 30-year-old, so pitiful~"

So, time The amount is not important, what is important is efficiency. High efficiency can balance study and life.

When studying, we will find two voices when assigning homework: Xiaoxin, who is ranked lower, will complain: "There are too many homeworks, and I have to do it very late every day!" Hermione would think: "Not much. Basically, you can do it easily at school. After you get home, you have a lot of time to do what you are interested in, such as reading books, playing the piano, and even playing on the computer."

In fact, there is also a "Matthew effect" in learning: the strong get stronger and the weak get weaker.

Everyone has an equal 24 hours in a day. No matter how squeezed or squeezed, it remains the same. But if parents guide them according to the following three time management principles, efficiency will be greatly improved. (Remember to seek speed. Guidance is a process. There is no exact number, but one year of guidance is essential.)

This is often the case when we read books. We sit down with the book and have just flipped through it. Page, suddenly thirsty, got up and drank a glass of water. I read a line to see if the circle of friends has been updated. After putting down the phone, I stared at the book and thought about what to eat later. Half an hour passed and nothing was seen. Not to mention children.

This is a sign of inattention. In this colorful world, it is normal for all kinds of information to interfere. If you don’t deliberately practice the ability to focus, then reading effectively is empty talk.

I recommend you a very useful method: the Pomodoro Technique.

Set yourself 25 minutes each time you study, set an alarm clock or countdown, and once the time is up, take a 5-minute break.

Why set 25 minutes? Because a large number of studies by psychologists have found that any conscious concentration generally does not exceed 25 minutes.

Therefore, the Pomodoro Technique uses the principle of attention to break a task into multiple 25-minute periods, making it easy to start and execute.

Another method is called the 5-minute state method: watch 3 jokes or 3 connotative jokes. After 3, decisively stop, start studying, and focus for 25 minutes.

It can be completed in two levels: 1. It can be completed within the specified time. For example, arithmetic problems can be completed in 15 minutes; ② Only part of the matter can be completed in the specified time. If you stop reading after 25 minutes before going to bed, you have completed today’s task. Suitable for sports, reading, playing piano and other things without deadlines.

If there are too many things that you want to do on the to-do list and cannot be completed, it will only make the child lose control of time, and thus lose the confidence that he can control time.

On the contrary, if it is too easy, everything can be done in less than 10 minutes. It's a piece of cake. Although it is completed for the child, there is no sense of accomplishment at all.

When making today’s to-do list, children are still young and do not have the ability to consider the overall situation, and they do not even have an idea of ??how long something will take. As a parent, please note that you are not helping your child make a list, but patiently discussing with your child how long the task will take. Guide the children to speak out and write it down themselves.

It doesn’t matter if the child’s prediction is inaccurate, as soon as the task time comes. If the child cannot complete the task, or there are too few tasks to complete in advance, parents should discuss it with the child in time to guide them to make corrections next time. As long as you are guided in this way for a period of time, your child will be able to control time much more accurately.

With reasonable tasks and the Pomodoro method, I believe that children’s control of time will be improved to the next level

Humans are not machines. Their energy is limited and needs to be replenished when used up. , 25 minutes of study requires 5 minutes of rest, and a full day of operation requires a full night of adequate sleep. And I need to take a nap at noon.

Scientific research, suitable sleep time chart for children

Research shows that children who go to bed at nine o'clock in the evening are more responsive.

Remember that 8-year-old kid with dark circles under his eyes? He was supposed to sleep for 10 hours.

Time is constantly passing. From another perspective, time can be accumulated. As long as you are willing to believe, the time invested in something can be seen. So if you study for 10 days and you will be able to breaststroke, if you practice pen calligraphy for half a year you will be beautiful, and if you play the piano for ten years you will be able to perform smoothly, you can see the time. Are you willing to lead your children to practice time management and see that they can see their time?

There is also a very important reminder: practice it ~ help children establish a sense of time ~ let them have an efficient life ~

Let us grow and progress with our children ~

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