Why do you cling to the past?

The university we studied at that time was a very ordinary college, majoring in chemical engineering, and the degree we got after graduation was a junior college. I was interested in chemical engineering, but I couldn't help falling asleep in the experimental class. Anyway, I don't think I can be a scientist in my life. At that time, I dreamed of becoming a reporter, so I began to take the journalism exam again. I finally get it. I think it's okay. I finally gave myself an explanation. In fact, this card is basically useless at work and no one reads it. It's no use having a Harvard certificate if you can't do it well. Sean is very serious about chemical engineering. She also went to a food factory when she graduated. She may have met someone who said that she had a low education during her work, and she also struggled with it. Later, she also took an undergraduate course, but she didn't recognize it herself. She feels that the new degree has no gold content, and the previous college degree has become a knot in her heart, and it is annoying to think about it.

I sometimes think of the past and regret it: if I had worked harder, why didn't I get into a famous university? ...

This is a common problem of many of us: we always regret what happened in the past, and even seriously affect our present life.

A few days ago, a girl chatted with me and said that although she broke up with her ex-boyfriend for two years, she still scolded him and scolded herself every once in a while. Curse her ex-boyfriend because she thought he was bad to her at that time. I scolded myself because she didn't leave her ex-boyfriend earlier. She knew he didn't deserve her. She endured the injustice and accompanied him for some time. Later, in the agony, she finally got up the courage to leave. She said that when she remembered it, she hated herself at that time, why she was so weak, and why she couldn't say goodbye smartly. This matter has also become a thorn in her heart.

I still have one thing I regret very much. I often criticize myself when I think about it. It was when I was building materials that I screwed up a big project, drank a lot of wine, invested a lot of money and lost everything. How confident and overbearing I am, this incident has caused me a great blow and made me have a comprehensive doubt about myself. This is a big failure in my sales experience, and my teeth itch when I mention it. However, when my mood is stable, I will analyze it calmly and rationally: I have tried my best, and sometimes I can't control all the links myself. I'm not a fairy, I can count.

We often regret the past, in fact, there is an unrealistic illusion: regret, those things may change.

Can your regrets really change the past? Besides watching time travel in TV series, I haven't seen anyone who can make time to go back in real life!

Besides, even if you can let time go back, do you think you won't repeat the trajectory of your life at that time? You will probably continue to make mistakes, because mistakes are inevitable when you grow up.

If you can choose, everyone wants a perfect life. Born in a rich family, with inexhaustible money, I have been fed and clothed since I was a child. Your parents educate you tenderly and lovingly, and ask famous teachers from all walks of life to train you so that you can speak eight languages from an early age. When you grow up, you will become elegant or handsome, graduate from the top universities in the world, and never have to worry about not being loved. Even if you are lovelorn, it doesn't matter There are plenty of spare tires. If you are afraid of something, change it.

Did you have a good trip? There must be, but it is also a minority, and it is completely out of our life circle and out of reach.

For us ordinary children, it is almost one step at a time, stumbling, stumbling and embarrassing. Sometimes you get stuck in the mud and cry in pain, while others stand by and sneer, watching your jokes and waiting for you to make a fool of yourself again.

We didn't do well in the exam and no one will comfort you. Maybe your parents will kick your ass. Lovelorn, you dare not say, for fear that people will laugh at you for being stupid. If you lose your job, you still have to carry it yourself. I haven't seen anyone pay welfare yet. We are not easy, why are we still clinging to the past?

You have been regretting what happened in the past, which leads to a waste of time now, which is very uneconomical and easy to lead to a vicious circle. Regret-sadness-inefficiency-regret-sadness ... you will fall into this strange circle.

For those things you regretted in the past, find reasons for yourself and analyze them objectively.

For example, we are candidates in Henan, and the geographical conditions are relatively bad. Few people can go to famous universities, which is beyond our control. Moreover, when we were in high school, we studied very hard. Psychological problems, no one will pay attention to you. People will only look at your grades. It's good that we can survive. If you really feel that your education is a pity, you can take the exam now and save money for a master's degree or something, so that the education problem will be solved. Will you regret getting a master's degree? There is an upper limit to academic qualifications, and the maximum post-doctoral degree is the upper limit, but learning is endless. Many people have graduated from primary school, but they have been studying. What they are worried about is that their ability to improve is too slow, not that their academic qualifications are too low.

For example, a girl who cursed her ex-boyfriend should learn to forgive her past. You can scold your ex-boyfriend, but say don't be hard on yourself. In my opinion, you did a good job. Why do you say that? When people are emotionally fragile, it is difficult to make a decisive decision. Hesitation is normal. You should allow yourself to have that moment. Even tough guys cry for their feelings. It is said that a big boss like Liu can cry at the movies. Why do you have to be an invulnerable and cold-blooded person? You were wronged, but then you bravely chose to leave him. At this point, you have surpassed too many women. Don't you know that many women have been cheating, domestic violence, cheating, etc., and have been holding back and staying with love rat? They have spent their whole lives in failed relationships, not to mention leaving, just thinking about it, I'm afraid. So you should give yourself a compliment.

How many past regrets do you have hidden in your heart? Take a notebook and write down the reasons why things happened, and you will know how helpless and lonely you were at that time, and you also had many difficulties. You should thank yourself for getting through it. Then let go of the old you. Those things can't be changed. Don't lose the present again.