Professor Li Meijin: What ruins a child's life is often not games or playfulness, but his or her parents.

As children grow up, they will always make mistakes and do things that make their parents angry. So what attitude should parents adopt when educating their children?

Xiao Wu’s son is just eight months old. Recently, Bao’s mother is teaching the child how to eat by himself. Xiao Wu is also a very careful mother. When educating her children, she always reads parenting books. They say that after children can eat complementary foods, they must slowly get used to eating by themselves.

Therefore, Bao's mother also decided not to feed her child anymore, but she had a great headache in letting her child learn to eat independently. On this day, after Xiao Wu prepared the child's complementary food, he let the child sit alone at the dining table and eat by himself. Unexpectedly, the child became playful after eating a few mouthfuls and poured all the complementary food on the table.

Xiao Wu was very angry after seeing it. Not only did he slap the child several times, but he also said something outrageous: "If you don't even know how to hold a spoon, what's the use of raising you? When you grow up, you can still What are you doing?" The child was still young and couldn't understand what his mother was saying, but when he saw his mother's angry expression, he cried out in fear.

Many people think that children’s addiction to games or playfulness will ruin their lives, but Professor Li Meijin said: It is often not these things that ruin children’s lives, but their parents. Parents do not care about their children. self-esteem and say things that hurt them.

First: Negate the child

Some parents always like to deny the child. No matter what the child does or what ideas the child puts forward, the parents will always criticize or say that the child is not good enough. Sensible, or they are disobedient. Parents think that by denying their children in this way, they can motivate them and make them better, but in fact this will only make the children doubt themselves.

Second: Threatening children

There are also some parents who always like to threaten and intimidate their children when educating them: "If you do this again, your parents will no longer want you, so they will leave you alone." Give it away". These words that parents say may be a joke, but children will take them seriously because they lack the ability to judge and feel that their parents are really giving up on themselves when they say this, and they will be overly anxious.

Third: Laugh at them in public

Adults have dignity and self-esteem, and so do children. Some parents don't care about their children's feelings and laugh at them in public. Especially when children do some childish behaviors, parents will publicize them as a joke, which will seriously hurt their children's self-esteem.

For children, verbal violence from their parents is the easiest weapon to harm them, and parents must put an end to it.

1. Have a correct attitude

Some parents will get very angry when they see their children making mistakes or getting poor grades. They feel that their children are unsatisfactory and useless, so they constantly verbally correct them. The child exerts pressure. In fact, when educating children, the first thing parents have to do is to correct their own attitudes and not blame their children excessively. When you are emotionally excited, you must first learn to calm down your emotions, and then communicate with your children on an equal footing to teach them how to use their strengths and how to change their weaknesses.

2. Appropriate encouragement

No matter how old a child is, what they want most is the encouragement and praise from their parents, which cannot be replaced by anyone. In the hearts of children, parents are the people they trust most and are the most important people in their lives. When children fail, a word of encouragement from parents can cheer them up. When children do well, a word of praise from parents can help children gain more self-confidence, gain greater motivation, and make themselves better. .

No matter how old a child is, verbal violence will cause huge harm to their body and mind. If parents do not know how to control their words and deeds and use evil words to attack their children, it will have a negative impact on the child's character and psychology. will cause serious harm.

Therefore, for the future of their children and for them to grow up healthily, parents must encourage their children with love so that they can gain more strength.