What is the way to subdue competitors?

In daily life, we often encounter such a situation: when we don't know what's going on, we are complained and accused by the other party; When talking with people, the other party often makes some unreasonable demands; In dealing with people, we are often attacked by others ... What should we do in the face of these situations?

I believe everyone has this experience. If you are late for an appointment, you will feel very discouraged and passive, and you can't do what you originally planned. On the contrary, if you arrive at the date first and feel better, you will easily feel superior and take the initiative to attack, especially in the face of opponents who are consciously difficult to deal with. Have a psychological advantage from the beginning, and almost all conversations will follow your footsteps.

When dealing with angry competitors, we must pay attention to focusing our firepower on the enemy's weaknesses. As long as this tactic works, the attacked party will always be in a passive position, and finally be subdued because it is unbearable. An opposition MP in Japan criticized Miki, a conservative politician in King's Landing, who was called the behind-the-scenes generation, and said, "How can you have four little wives when you are in public office?" Miki's defense is humorous and unique. He said, "First of all, I have to correct it. My lover is five, not four. " The audience burst into laughter, and the opposition party members were at a loss and could not ask more questions. Miki chose the opponent's attack flaw as a single breakthrough and responded boldly and humorously, so the effect was very good. However, if Mr. Miki seems to be at a loss in the face of Members' questions, the other side will definitely attack him with all its strength and he may make a fool of himself. Of course, this way of answering others should not be used indiscriminately, but also from the effect. Just like Miki said, "It's not a golden house, but five beauties", which can make the discussion focus vague and make the other party unable to answer. Otherwise, if you don't pay attention to the effect, you will probably make some jokes and put yourself in a passive position.

Generally speaking, when people comment on their closest opponents, most of them underestimate each other to gain their own peace of mind. Therefore, when subduing others, as long as you hit the other person's psychological blind spot, you will definitely let the other person relax, so it will be easier to do the work again.

—— Quoted from Yanbian People's Publishing House Management Rules for Highly Effective Persons.