The child wears glasses and says he looks like his grandfather.

Now children's material living conditions are getting better and better. With the continuous development of network information technology, the whole world is connected in series, and people can understand everything in the world through a small electronic screen.

However, the more things you see, the higher your horizons, but for some children, it is accompanied by a growing heart of comparison.

First of all, it is normal for people to keep up with the joneses, but it also needs a certain limit. It can be because the heart of comparison urges them to make continuous progress and improvement, and turns the heart of comparison into motivation. However, many children are not aware of this, and it is easy to make wrong judgments and choices because of the germination of the heart of comparison.

Some children are more knowledgeable and become more likely to feel the gap between them. Whether it is family or life experience, they will unconsciously compare with others, resulting in a psychological gap.

Under this psychological effect, if children are determined to study hard to improve themselves, try to catch up and narrow the gap, that's fine. I'm afraid some children will turn their attention to show off their family background or their parents' working conditions, and even compare their parents' values.

You should have heard of the variety show "Tales of Teenagers". There is such a girl in it. She is in the second day of junior high school this year, and her father is actually not old, but he is older in people's eyes.

On the other hand, when her father was at school, because his hair was gray and there were obvious wrinkles on his face, some busybodies laughed and said it was her grandfather, which made the girl feel embarrassed and had the wrong idea.

She felt that her father humiliated herself too much and made her lose face in front of her classmates, so from then on, the little girl stopped her father from coming to school to attend the parent-teacher conference.

In fact, it is not difficult to understand that the little girl has such feelings and actions. After all, she lives in a student group, but looking at this situation, she is also a victim, hurt by the comparison between classmates.

However, she was not convinced and thought that her thoughts and practices were also wrong, so after her mother knew about it, she strongly criticized her and said, "Everyone said that' dogs don't think their families are poor and children don't think their mothers are ugly'. Parents have worked hard to raise you. Why don't you feel grateful and disgusted? "

My mother's reprimand and teaching also made me regret it instantly. Looking at my white-haired and unsmiling father, I actually broke my heart for the livelihood of this family. I should have been a "sweet little cotton-padded jacket" but I still made such a hurtful move.

So when she realized her mistake, the little girl also signed up for the program "Teenagers Say", stood on the stage and expressed her thoughts, and sincerely apologized and cried that her father would come to school more often in the future.

The father standing under the stage was also in tears. In fact, he is very clear about this matter, and he is also very sad that he was attached to his daughter when he was a child. How can he not like himself when he grows up?

Then the program also explained the identity of the father. It turns out that this father is a flood fighter. Every time there is a danger in a certain area of the country, he has to rush to the front, so he will be covered with hair when he is young.

In the final analysis, the reason why children have comparison behavior is because their values are not firm and they can't tell right from wrong. Therefore, parents should remember the following points if they want to prevent their children from making wrong behaviors because of comparison:

1. Clearly inform your child of your mistakes.

In fact, it is not terrible for children to make mistakes. The most important thing is to let children realize their mistakes. When a child makes a wrong choice because of comparison, parents must promptly and clearly inform their children of their mistakes. Otherwise, children will not be aware of their mistakes and will not be able to form norms psychologically.

2. Cultivate children's awareness of rules

For everyone, living in this society is not completely free, and it is necessary to abide by laws and moral rules.

The reason why children have the psychology of keeping up with others is because they have no correct sense of rules. This requires parents and children to help them develop a correct sense of rules from an early age, such as not bullying the small with the big, not loving the poor and loving the rich, and not bullying the weak.

3. Establish correct values

Comparison is actually a very good opportunity. When a child has the psychology of comparison, it means that the child has a sense of competition. At this time, if parents guide them well, children can completely turn comparison into a driving force for hard work.

This requires parents to help their children establish correct values, let them know how to get what they want through hard work, narrow the gap with their own strength and achieve final success.

Parents should not panic or reprimand their children directly, but correct their wrong thoughts and behaviors. Only in this way can the true meaning of education be realized.