Reality version of "Fan Meisheng": The girl once said that she would rather spend money to buy out her family. Is this possible?

The real version of the word "fan" has been hanging on hot search all day. I read the report and read the dynamics of the dead girl before her death, and my mood has been very heavy.

Lolo was born in 1996. She is the same age as me and has never been married. She is suspected of being ruthlessly demanded and squeezed by her family for a long time, which leads to great psychological pressure. 20 19, 10, Lolo was in a bad mood, went for a walk by the Qiantang River, and was hit by the high tide, so the teenage girl fell.

My daughter didn't. Generally speaking, my parents' first reaction should be to be heartbroken. However, what Lolo's parents did was irritating and eye-opening.

0 1.

When Lolo had an accident, it was at work. As it was already off duty at that time, Lolo's accident had nothing to do with the company, and the company did not have to take responsibility for it. Lolo's parents found the company and wanted to claim compensation. The company can directly refuse. However, out of humanitarianism and the good impression that Lolo left on the company before his death, the company gave Lolo's parents 60,000 yuan.

Spending money to eliminate disasters is the idea of many people, especially those who do business pay more attention to credibility. However, if you meet a person who is greedy enough to swallow an elephant, you are helping them to have an easy appetite.

Three days later, Lolo's parents came to the door again and claimed 4 1 10,000 from the company.

Knowing the purpose of asking for money, netizens are even more angry. It turns out that Lolo has a younger brother who needs to buy a house. In order to buy a house for their son, they demanded high compensation through their daughter's death.

The daughter's life is not as good as her son's suite, and the parents' deep-rooted preference for sons is terrible. If they hadn't put too much pressure on their daughter, Lolo might not have lived such a miserable life.

How much pressure parents put on Lolo, and how much preference is given to boys, just look at Lolo's former Weibo.

"When can I have a good sleep?"

"Family is really just a burden to me, so let me be a heartless tiger."

"I am always not sure whether I am loved or not, so I am determined to tear my love."

According to the content on the Internet, Lolo's mother asked her daughter to buy her the latest mobile phone and let her use the one she eliminated, and her father borrowed money from her. In their mouth, money is the theme.

02.

Lolo once said, "I would rather spend money to buy out my family, and we will never be in debt."

Spend money to buy out family ties, break off relationships, and then go their separate ways, no longer bound by family ties. This is the idea that girls once had. However, is this possible?

The answer is obvious, it is impossible.

Family, based on blood relationship, simply keep buying. In the eyes of those parents who prefer boys to girls, you have no independent personality, just their personal belongings. They can fight if they want, and scold if they want. Everything about you is given by them and belongs to them. So, no matter how much money you give them, they should. There is no upper limit. Once you don't want to give it, a sentence "We are your parents" can make you reasonable and unreasonable.

I have people around me who think the same way as Lolo.

My best friend Song Wenjing got married, and my parents asked the man for a bride price of 280,000 yuan without any dowry. Song Wenjing was not convinced and went to make a scene with his parents. At that time, her mother said, "I raised you for 25 years and received 280 thousand colorful gifts." You will be someone else's family in the future, and you won't give us a pension. This 280 thousand is your filial piety. We will be all right from now on, and I will never ask you again. "

280 thousand bride price bought out the family, and the money earned from then on belongs to oneself, so you can live a quiet life. Song Wenjing and her husband thought and thought, and finally agreed.

However, will Song Wenjing's mother really keep her promise? How is that possible?

After Song Wenjing got married, the phone number that bothered her parents like a nightmare before marriage still didn't disappear. Her parents still call her from time to time, crying for money. When she contradicted her parents, a series of hats such as "unfilial", "heartless", "disobedient" and "I won't let you feel better without paying" were buckled on Song Wenjing's head, just like a mountain.

"They came to my mother-in-law's house several times, made my mother-in-law sick and hospitalized, and went to my husband's company to make trouble, forcing us to move."

In the end, Song Wenjing got divorced. She gave up the custody of her son, packed her luggage, disappeared without a trace, and cut off contact with familiar people. It is a big joke to spend money to buy out family ties. For those hopeless parents who prefer boys to girls, as long as you have breath, you are the cash cow for them and their sons, and they will not be satisfied with how much money you give. The stronger and richer you are, the more they will cling to you and try their best to drain you of everything.

In the eyes of these people, your son's happiness comes first, and your marriage or even life and death doesn't matter. If you live well, they will be jealous of their son and think that all this is his; If you have a bad life, they will be indifferent and will only dislike you.

03.

Girl, don't be silly, don't believe that money can buy family ties, and don't believe such nonsense as "just this once, promise not to look for you again". There is nothing you can do to treat such parents except be grumpy and tough.

They want money, and you can't pay a dime unless it's due; If they want to make trouble, you will accompany them to the end. Anyway, don't meet their demands for the first time, and don't compromise. Once you give in for the first time, there will be a second time or even countless times until you are cornered.

Repaying parents' kindness does not mean sacrificing everything to meet all their needs. It is their choice to raise us, and it is our obligation to support them and give them basic living expenses. Besides, you don't need to do anything else.

I hope Lolo's tragedy can remind women to be strong and not to be a cash cow from a family. I hope other girls don't ruin their lives by living like Mei Sheng, a fan.