Learn humorous speaking skills so that you can master the ability to speak humorously

Have you ever felt bored when getting along with others because you can’t joke?

As long as you know how to make jokes and create a relaxed chat atmosphere, you can solve this problem.

This method is to learn and improve your humorous speaking ability from jokes.

Many humorous jokes include coping skills for chatting. If we know how to learn humorous speaking skills from jokes, we don’t have to be afraid of awkward conversations or cold scenes.

Let’s take a look at this joke first:

“Hello, how can I get to the nearest police station?” A pedestrian stopped and asked passers-by.

"It's very simple. You smash the window of the store opposite with a stone, and you will be there in ten minutes."

Regardless of whether the joke is funny or not, think about it first. Where is the intended punchline of the joke? Once you find the point of laughter, you will consciously capture the point of laughter to make jokes in the future.

Could the answer be that passers-by did not answer their questions according to normal logical thinking?

The pedestrian wants to reach the police station in a normal way, but the passerby’s answer is to reach the police station in an abnormal way. Such a misplaced thinking is where the laughter comes from.

Applying it to real life, you joke with the opposite sex: "Do you know what the door to happiness is called?" The other party will definitely not know if they think according to normal logic, or they will just give a few The answer, then you answered: "Call us." The other party must have been caught off guard.

Sometimes humorous chats do not necessarily follow logical thinking. Breaking out at the right time can liven up the atmosphere.

One of the rules that breaks out is that you must master a predetermined laugh point in advance, then deliberately guide this laugh point in an unexpected direction, and finally throw out a laugh point.

So, when someone asks you some irrelevant questions, or some questions that you don’t want to answer, there is no need to think logically seriously, just answer them in this humorous way.

It’s like a girl asking you how to make yourself popular. This kind of question will lead to nothing to talk about at all. If you answer it seriously, it will be useless no matter how much you say. Others will just ask casually.

At this time, you can reply playfully: "If you can treat me to dinner, you will be one step closer to being popular."

As the saying goes, "winding paths lead to secluded places." , as long as you can achieve your goal, you don’t need to be too serious about being a human being.

Let’s look at this joke again:

“I stood under Xiaoli’s window and sang a love song to her, and she threw me a flower.”

"Then what's the matter with the injury on your head?"

"She forgot to take the flowers out of the pot."

Where is the intended punchline of this joke? Woolen cloth?

Is it because talking about a bad thing as a good thing makes our thinking unable to turn around for a while?

This joke expresses an open-minded attitude, which is an optimistic attitude when we deal with worldly affairs. If I hadn't held this attitude, then this joke might not be what it is, and it might become a serious complaint.

For the same thing, different psychological attitudes lead to different effects of dialogue.

For example, friend A told friend B that he confessed to his goddess today and was rejected, and he felt very disappointed. The humorous expression is like this:

A: I am today Confessed to the goddess.

B: What was the result?

A: She was so happy.

B: Did you confess your love successfully?

A: No! She was very happy that she finally had the opportunity to formally reject my pursuit.

I believe that not everyone can do this kind of humorous thinking.

Of course, I will not advocate forcing yourself to do this for the sake of humor. It's just that sometimes, you can adjust your bitter face a little, change the angle of looking at the problem, and don't be too arrogant when thinking; you can train your mind by knowing how to laugh at yourself.

After all, many times what we think is serious will gradually become insignificant as time goes by.

So when applied to daily life, when we communicate with others, we really don’t need to worry about everything so much. We can make fun of ourselves appropriately and expose some shortcomings to others.

Actor A said: "When I debuted on stage, the audience gave me many flowers, and I asked my wife to open a flower shop."

Actor B said: "This is nothing special. When I debuted on stage, the audience gave me a house."

Actor A: "Really?"

Actor B: "Really! When I performed, they gave me a house. The stones thrown here are enough to build a house."

What is the joke in this story? It's obviously an "exaggeration".

Of course, things did not really happen as described by actor B, but if actor B realizes that his performance is not very good and wants to laugh at himself, he can imagine such a scene to make fun of himself.

In other words, what he said was just an exaggeration effect, and it did not mean that the audience actually threw stones at him. In real life, we can exaggerate appropriately to highlight certain ideas. This is also a method of creating contrast in thinking.

You are hungry, and then your friend invites you to dinner. At this time, you can jokingly say: "Don't you want to invite me again next year? I don't know how long I have been waiting for this!" /p>

Also, if you suddenly run into a friend you haven’t seen for a long time, you can say something like this: "Wow! Has it been a century since we met this time?"

In fact, as long as When your mentality is relaxed, your thinking will be free. Don't limit your possibilities for handling things, being too rigid is not good.

Of course, everything must be reversed when it reaches its extreme. Frequent exaggeration will make you think that you like to exaggerate, so you must master this degree and know how to tease appropriately according to the environment.

Let’s look at this joke again:

A man and a woman were quarreling.

The man scolded: "You are talking like an idiot!"

The woman replied: "Really? Then we have the same language."

Is this way of coping the same as "treating others in their own way"?

From this joke, we can learn the language skills of counterattack.

Many humorous stories have this counterattack language technique, using the other party's logic to deal with the other party. As the saying goes, treat others in their own way.

If this technique is applied to daily life, we don’t have to worry about being “retaliated” by others, because we can also “retaliate” others in the same way.

Wife: I had a dream last night. I dreamed that you gave me a thousand yuan to buy clothes. You will definitely fulfill my dream, right?

Husband: Of course. I also had a dream last night. I gave you a thousand yuan to buy clothes.

In addition, many humorous jokes will not directly refute others, but will take the form of hints.

For example:

At a party, a traveler said to the German Jewish poet Heine: "I discovered a small island, and there are no Jews or donkeys on the island."

Heine said calmly: "It seems that only if I go to that island with you can we make up for this mistake."

Such a counterattack implies that the traveler is a donkey. .

Therefore, hinting is also a very useful method in the use of language skills.

For example, if you go to a friend’s house and your friend shows off his skills as a chef and cooks, but you don’t expect that there is too much salt in every dish, then you can playfully hint: “It’s really good. With my cooking skills, I can actually eat a ton of salt in a seemingly ordinary meal.”

I believe my friend will understand what you mean. It’s better to say it this way than to point out the salt directly. Too much will better protect the other person's self-esteem. After all, saying this will create an interesting atmosphere and reduce the psychological pressure of direct criticism.

A joke is a refined combination of language skills. If we want to improve our eloquence, reading more jokes will be of great help to us.

If everyone knows how to analyze every joke like me, until it forms a habitual awareness in the mind and dares to apply it in daily life, then everyone's language expression ability will definitely improve. The better come.

I hope everyone can learn from this article how to appreciate different chatting skills from jokes, and then learn and improve in a targeted manner.

Finally, I recommend a book to everyone, which is "Jokes, Humor and Logic". From this book, you can not only improve your logical thinking ability, but also transform this thinking and learn how to construct a humorous way of speaking.