26 simple and practical social skills

Invisible social rules make people confused. Here are 26 simple and practical social skills that I have collected for everyone. Welcome to learn from them.

1. Default a relaxed and comfortable social situation

We often feel nervous when dealing with strangers, so it is better to keep it in mind before meeting again. Just to add: You already know each other, and the rest of the conversation will go very smoothly.

2. Pay attention to the movements of the other person’s feet when approaching

When you have to interrupt a conversation, please pay attention to the movements of their feet when approaching. If they just move their body Turning to you, then this is not a good time for a long conversation. But if they move toward you, that's a good sign.

3. When arguing, stand beside the other party instead of in front of you

When you feel that the atmosphere in the argument is getting tense, you should go to the other party to reduce the tension between the two parties. Sometimes there is a sense of oppression.

4. When you need help, tell us directly

Telling you directly that you need help will greatly increase your probability of getting help. This phenomenon occurs because people are more inclined to show that they are capable of helping others and are unwilling to bear the guilt of not helping others.

5. If you want the other person to feel comfortable, you can restate what he said to you in the previous step.

People need their actions and words to be recognized by others. Paraphrasing what he said in your own words not only shows that you are a good listener, but more importantly, it shows that you are genuinely interested in what he has to say and makes him feel like he is being noticed.

6. Nodding your head from time to time will make it easier for you to gain approval

Clever hinting technique: nod when conveying information. People tend to subconsciously imitate each other and nod in response to you, and their actions will react on the brain, making them more likely to agree with your ideas.

7. Are others really listening to you? An arm-crossing motion is enough

When we talk about important things, we focus on the matter itself and rarely pay attention to whether the listener is listening carefully. The way to test the listener's attention is to fold their arms. If the other person subconsciously imitates this action, they must be listening attentively.

8. Repeating the other person’s name during the conversation can help you remember the other person’s name

Alex, how are you? Alex, do you know xxx? Alex, what do you think of this cake? Say After doing this, will you still forget that his name is Alex?

9. If the other party does not fully answer your questions, just wait quietly.

Keep quiet while continuing to make eye contact. If the atmosphere becomes tense, you can raise your eyebrows and the other person will often improve their answer.

10. Is it easier for people to treat people rather than things?

Even if you are going to talk about the most boring topic in the world, make yourself interesting: humorous or mysterious will do. . When the other person is interested in you, they will also be interested in what you have to say.

11. Confidence is more important than knowledge

Even if you have a dazzling doctorate certificate, if you are not good at speaking or acting young, you are still likely to lose to someone who speaks actively and behaves generously. College students.

12. Assume that you have done it

Every learning process will make your mind move in the direction you want: you are what you believe, you feel confident, You are confident, you feel charming, you are charming.

13. Maintain a tall and strong posture

This one is similar to the above one but more specific: a tall and straight posture and an approachable smile (even if it is fake) will prompt Your brain releases corresponding substances that make you feel more professional and confident.

14. Omit "I believe", "I think" such expressions will make your words more convincing.

Commonly used "I understand..." and "I" Will...? Such a sentence pattern will make you appear more confident and make others take you more seriously.

15. A clean and tidy environment affects all aspects of your life

Why do large companies spend huge sums of money to create a comfortable and tidy office environment? Facts have proved that a comfortable and tidy office environment can not only make people more Focusing on work can also make people more creative and even make them more punctual and considerate.

16. Tell a joke to understand the organizational structure of the other party’s members.

When everyone laughs at a joke, pay attention to the eye contact between the other party’s members. People subconsciously look towards the people they are closest to or most respected.

17. When you call someone to invite someone, act excited.

Remember: high emotions are contagious. People like positive emotions, which is why Fei Dong's "Happy" is so popular.

18. Body language makes you like a fish in water in interpersonal relationships.

When a respected person in the group becomes a friend, he will naturally gain some respect. Approach him by imitating his language and actions, and never approach him with your arms crossed when he is talking excitedly about something.

19. Don’t lose your grace even if you are accidentally offended.

Your angry expression will often make the other person go further.

20. Some small actions worthy of repeated emphasis

Standing tall and straight is easier to gain respect; do not put your hands in your pockets. If you feel at a loss with your hands, do not put your arms in your pockets; keep your hands before shaking hands Warm palms can help convey your sincerity; eye contact, eye contact, eye contact, say important things three times.

21. Benjamin Franklin Effect

Research has found that when a person does something to help another person, he/she will be more likely to do more to that person in the future. busy. Because he/she will prove his/her evaluation of his/her abilities in this way: I am valuable and I can help others.

22. Don’t be afraid of physical contact

Touching shoulders and knees can build a trusting relationship. If you refer to Article 12.

23. Staged request method

Make an unreasonable request that exceeds your expectations. After being rejected, you can make your original request. At this time, your request is accepted. The probability will be greatly increased.

24. Convert your request into a choice sentence format

The facts show: Are you willing to donate 5 yuan or 10 yuan? Than? Please donate? Can it be raised? More donations.

25. If you work at a bar or service desk...

Place a mirror behind you so angry customers can see themselves when they come to you. Look, no one wants to see his hysterical face.

26. Chew a piece of gum when you are nervous