A two-and-a-half-year-old child is stubborn and won't listen to anything. What can be done to correct it?

Two-and-a-half-year-olds are stubborn and don't listen to anything for a reason. Find the reason and correct it. Children in this period have just entered the first rebellious period of their lives. If parents don't understand their children's psychological demands and educate their children in a single and rude way, they will develop a rebellious character. Two-and-a-half-year-olds are stubborn, mainly because of these two factors:

First, two-and-a-half-year-old children have begun to form a sense of independence, but parents don't respect their children's ideas. In addition, children have no logical thinking and cannot communicate with their parents in complete language. Sometimes they can only fight with their actions, which makes their temper very stubborn.

In this case, you should be patient enough. You have to spend time with him to understand his unique language, because at this time, the child's language is incomplete, sometimes a word becomes a sentence, and sometimes a word becomes a sentence. For example, when he said apples, sometimes he wanted to eat apples, and sometimes he wanted to play games with apples.

If he wants to play games with apples, you understand that he wants to eat apples and peel them for him. He doesn't think it's fun to peel them, so he will make trouble. Therefore, he will only make friends with you if he fully understands the child and understands him. If he makes friends with children, he won't rebel.

Second, children have been spoiled in the family. From birth to now, parents have been acting according to their children's preferences, and children mistakenly think that the rule of this world is that everything is up to him. This situation is terrible. If you don't educate him well now, someone will teach him a lesson later.

When he loses his temper, you can distract him, move him out to play for a while, change the environment, or bring him a toy he likes to coax him. If he continues to lose his temper, give him a cold treatment, and let him cry to sleep when he is tired.

At this time, don't buy snacks and toys to coax him, or cater to his wrong ideas, and don't compromise with him. If so, he thinks crying is his best way to ask for trouble, and it will get worse in the future.

Mastering the three great wisdom, 1 skills can solve the problem of stubborn temper of children.

The subject mentioned that when a baby sees something he likes, he must get it. If he can't get it, he will cry. What should parents do in the face of a baby in a bad mood? At this point, my suggestion is this:

Say to the baby, "Are you angry?" Let her know directly what she is feeling. Then you can go on to say, "I know you are angry, let's be quiet." When the baby is not stressed, she will listen and interact with you.

If she still insists on buying toys, and you don't want to buy them, you should try to distract her. You can say to her, "You like this toy very much, don't you?" Mom likes you and will tell you stories. Tell it a story if you like, ok? "

At this time, you should open your mind and design the rules of the pretend game. For example, pretending to chat with toys, pretending to call toys ... After the baby is emotionally stable, playing and pretending to say goodbye to toys is a perfect ending.

In the process of playing pretend games, we must remember: speak softly, act softly and have a slow pace. Let the baby immerse himself in the joy of playing and give up the desire to buy.

My baby 1.5 years old started playing pretend games. After playing for more than two years, the road to play is getting wider and wider. Pretend to chat with dolls, sing songs, tell stories, see a doctor, take injections and take medicine, cook, feed water and nurse … pretend to be cucurbit dolls, Tyrannosaurus Rex and other characters …

Her brain hole is getting bigger every day, and I, who has been acting with her, have gradually upgraded to a director to help her create more pretend games together. We found this pretend game amazing.

This seems to be a fake game, but it can not only enrich her imagination, but also meet his unreasonable demands.

If you have enough brains, you don't have to buy many toys, just think about it. You can pretend to buy bread if you like.

Mom: Hello! I want to buy bread.

Baby: Welcome!

Mom: How much is it altogether?

Baby: A total of 15 yuan.

Mom: Help me play cards.

Baby: Di, Alipay has arrived 15 yuan.

H: Ha, ha, ha. I bought bread. I'm going home to eat bread. (Happiness holds hands, next)

Pretend that the game is so magical and interesting that you can abandon material to meet children's needs, because imagination itself contains everything.

The three wisdom of accompanying children to grow up are: speak softly, act softly and walk slowly. Master the skills of pretending to play games, and your child's emotions are under your control.

In addition, I will send you five more suggestions to make you more icing on the cake on the road of parenting. You know, you must cultivate yourself first.

Children's first imitation object is their parents, so they should always use positive language to guide her. For example, say "Don't litter" as "Please throw the rubbish into the trash can."

Sooner or later, the way we talk to our children will become the way they talk. The same sentence can be expressed by language, body language or eyes. This should be practiced more when playing together.

It's the pretend game mentioned above. When you play normally, you can play a game repeatedly, or you can improve the game through practice. When there are contradictions, we should also design games to resolve them.

It is necessary to understand that the deep psychological appeal behind children saying "no" is to want to be independent. We can give her two choices every time. Once you have a choice, your baby will have the feeling of "being your own master" and will not blindly say "no".

If you say to the baby, "I'm thirsty, let's drink some water!" " "Maybe the baby won't do it right away. At this time, you should pick up your own cup, drink it with relish, and then hand her the baby's cup, and she will learn from you and drink it with relish.

Parents are children's first teachers and role models. Parenting comes first. No matter how angry you are, please keep calm, so that you can treat your child's performance rationally. Correctly guide education and grow healthily and vigorously!

By the way, how is your relationship with children? Is the parenting style consistent at home? When the child is stubborn, can you gently and persistently know where you want to lead the child?

Only by answering these questions can you clarify whether you have the ability to guide him.

As netizens said, 2-and-a-half-year-old children reach the sensitive period of self-awareness (a certain period of children's psychological development is easier to learn certain knowledge and behaviors than other periods, and a certain aspect of psychological process develops most rapidly, which is called "sensitive period". ), like to say "no", "smelly" and other things that adults don't like. At this time, the child began to distinguish between "you" and "me".

Before I was 2 years old, you said, go and bring me the bench.

The child said: Bring me the bench.

He won't say: I brought you a bench!

It is also fun to say "no" and other things that offend adults. He began to think that these words could cause adults to go crazy or express different feelings.

That won't do. You can still cry and make trouble. ...

This mother can't, but dad can. ...

Slowly, children can do whatever they want!

The first thing you need to do is to know that your child has grown up like this, and then you need to exercise your stability. If he is stubborn, you know what is reasonable and what is unreasonable. When faced with a reasonable request, you will meet it in time. No matter how hard you cry, you will give a "gentle and firm" refusal, and you will not be impatient or shout.

If you persist in this way, you can achieve your goal!

"What kind of children do you want to raise?" -this question is very clear, so it is possible to correctly understand and spend this period of children.

I wish you a stable mood and don't be influenced by your child's crying.

At the same time, I also know exactly where to lead my children!

@ Jingjing Jingjing, and you are on the road of parenting and family education!

Two-and-a-half-year-old children begin to enter the first little rebellious period in their lives, which is the embryonic stage of self-awareness formation and self-cognitive exploration. This is a critical period for children to grow up. Don't label children as disobedient. At this time, children need our patience to accompany them.

Wish the baby grow sturdily.

You can't educate at the age of two and a half? Ask such a question? This is a family education problem. Parents are the first teachers of the children. How can such a small child grow up if he is so disobedient? If he says something unpleasant, he will be willful in the future. When he grows up, he can only let the state educate him [cover his face].

First, conduct behavior education as much as possible when speaking, pay attention to actions and pay attention to tone.

What does behavior education mean? Is to use body movements as a primer to communicate with children. For example. For example, we stand here and say to the child, come and hug you. Children may ignore you. But if you stretch out your arms, squat down, look at the child and ask, he may come over and give you a hug.

This example is to tell you that you say to your child by behavior: I want to hug you. He didn't really understand the literal meaning, but he gave you positive feedback. When we do actions, the tone will be more natural and the expression will be more in place. For example, when parents kneel down and say hug to their children, the tone must be soft, attractive and not particularly blunt. Children can naturally understand their parents' intentions more clearly through this information.

Second, communicate with children and try to express a single meaning with simple words.

Sometimes children can say a lot, a lot of words, but that's just some mechanical repetition. He doesn't necessarily understand the meaning, and skillfully uses it in a relatively complex thinking logic mode.

Therefore, if parents tell their children too much and too complicated at once, the children will not understand, they will feel annoyed and may ignore their parents.

You can observe the kindergarten teacher carefully. They can communicate smoothly with their children, often because she is always expressing a single meaning, such as: "Children, let's go out to play"-children know that they have gone out to play; "Everyone holds hands"-children know to hold hands; "Follow the teacher"-the child follows her.

Of course she didn't say, "We're going out to play. If we go out to play, be sure to follow me hand in hand, and I won't take you out. " .

Therefore, when parents communicate with their children, they must not talk a lot at once with the complicated logic of adults. Use logic that children can accept to express a single meaning concisely.

Third, observe what the child is doing, and then slowly integrate into his current situation.

Before talking to a child or asking him to do something, parents should pay attention to whether it has anything to do with the scene he is playing. If there is no connection, the child's thinking will not change immediately.

This requires parents to know the child's state in advance before talking to the child, and then think about how our content or behavior should be related to the child's current state, and then gradually lead to what you want to communicate with him.

For example, if the child is playing with toys and the parents want him to eat at once, we might as well think about it. The child was in a good mood and was suddenly interrupted by you. Without any transition, how can he be willing to do what you ask him to do? In fact, at this time, adults can eat their own food first. When children are playing, they smell delicious food and see their parents eating, so they will think "I want to eat too" and come over by themselves.

Fourth, talk to children with emphasis on praise and encouragement.

We have always advocated "encouraging children more". Why? This is because when we say encouraging words, our tone, expression and actions must be very pleasant, so that children can easily relate to what they are doing. In fact, people are very sensitive to pronunciation and intonation. No one likes to listen to others' anger and anger. When they hear loud reprimands, they must be excluded. If we yell at our children, they will feel scared, very scared. In this case, parents say it is even more unacceptable.

We often see parents reprimanding their children: "Don't do this again! Remember! ..... "The child was crying and there was no other reaction. In fact, in this case, the child doesn't listen to his parents at all, because he has been scared, and there is basically only one idea in his heart, that is, he hopes that his father or mother will stop yelling.

So, how to praise children in a way that makes them understand? The main principle is: in a relatively narrow range, praise children on the basis of facts.

For example, when I came home from work today, my child brought you slippers. If parents say, "The baby is really the best, the most filial and the best child in the world". This range is too big for children to know what they have done. If we say, "Baby brought me slippers today, that's great!" He understood. I brought my mother slippers today, and my mother was very happy. I'll bring my mother slippers next time.

I want to tell you today that it is not difficult for children to listen to us carefully and understand us. As long as we learn behavior education, talk to children in simple language and simple sentences, first integrate into their situation when talking to children, and encourage and praise them in appropriate ways, then our communication with children will be smoother and smoother.

You said a two-and-a-half-year-old child was stubborn,

But have you ever wondered why the cute and lovely children started to get angry and stubborn at this age?

I think we should first know what a two-and-a-half-year-old child should look like.

When a child is 2 years old, it is usually called "terrible 2 years old". Whether you are gentle or rude to him, he will refuse all the advice you give him.

In other words, "don't" is his mantra.

Also, at this time, the child's vocabulary has increased a lot, and he can keep nagging his dissatisfaction. ......

When my daughter is over 2 years old, no matter what she does, even if it is something she likes very much, she will say "no" first.

Me: Baby, how about wearing this little skirt today?

Child: No!

Me: How about wearing this?

Child: No!

Me: Get dressed. Didn't you just want to eat cake?

Child: No! Hey, what did you just say?

Me: Do you want to eat cake?

Child: Yes!

In addition, she will suddenly "get angry" without any warning, or break into a furious rage after being frustrated.

Actually,

Since most children of this age behave like this, isn't there a good way to slow down the outbreak of children's temper?

Of course there is!

The child has a stubborn temper. How stubborn can a two-year-old child be?

Just because a child is dissatisfied with something, he will show dissatisfaction.

What about satisfying the children?

Does this mean that children will not be dissatisfied and no longer stubborn?

Of course, children can't be satisfied without principles. As long as it doesn't harm their healthy growth, we can satisfy them appropriately.

When children's demands exceed our principles,

What should we do?

Mom likes to eat cold food, so there are cold drinks in my freezer all the year round.

In winter, my daughter has to eat ice cream when she has a cold.

Of course you can't agree with that.

So the child began to lose his temper and didn't listen to anything. She shouldn't be satisfied just because she lost her temper, which would aggravate her illness.

That's what I did.

Since I don't listen to anything, I won't say anything, but saying nothing doesn't mean I don't like her, so I watched her lose her temper.

In order to vent their dissatisfaction, coupled with the discomfort when they were sick, the child wailed for nearly ten minutes and cried quietly for twenty minutes. She saw that I was indifferent and stopped crying when she was tired of crying.

During the period,

I prepared warm water for her to moisten her voice and continue to cry;

I took a towel and wiped my face.

These actions are to show her that although you are crying and losing your temper, I am still your closest relative and I still love you.

Similar examples have happened many times, and the child will gradually understand that stubbornness will not make us give in, but good positive communication can achieve the goal she wants.

Now my daughter has just turned 3 years old and has passed the terrible stage of 2 years old.

Although I'm still stubborn,

But she knows that stubbornness is useless, and only by talking well can she achieve her goal.

After all, she is still a child. We should understand that she can't control her emotions.

get dressed

Me: Can I wear this skirt?

Child: No.

Me: What about this one?

Child: No.

Me: choose one of these two clothes? If you are not satisfied, please don't waste my time. Look for it on the hanger yourself.

Often the result is that children choose one of these two clothes to wear, or find their own clothes and come to me with them, saying, "Dad, can you help me?" I can't get dressed. "

Summary:

At this age, it is not that the child is stubborn, but that the child should be like this, because he wants to be independent and get rid of our arrangements for him, but there is nothing he can do.

We can't ignore his feelings. Give children enough care, treat them equally, live in harmony, and establish good living habits.

As long as we get used to it, we can do anything!

Two-year-old children have gradually formed self-awareness and started to have their own ideas. If they are disobedient or have a big temper, it may be caused by some reasons.

Parents should first treat this situation with a calm attitude, understand why the child is angry and communicate with the child calmly. And parents' attitudes towards their children must not be too different. When the children calm down, they should solve the problem together.

Secondly, children with this symptom may imitate adults. After solving the problem, parents need to deeply analyze their children's daily behavior habits and ways of speaking, and analyze whether the family situation and atmosphere of their children's lives are harmonious.

Two-year-olds can still spend less time taking care of them. The key is that parents should be able to bear it.

First, time can be balanced, and everything must be insisted that children admit their mistakes, maybe two hours. Maybe 4 hours .............................................................................................................................................. is the second, and the attitude can be faked, and the children can cry, make noise and roll, so that the children can see the firm attitude of their parents. Third, determine the person who mainly makes rules for children. This man stands firm and doesn't easily feel distressed by the child's crying. It takes enough time. Don't beat and scold. If you make trouble, let your child cry. Give him time and space to take care of it once. It doesn't matter if you don't eat or drink once. If you pee, you should clean it up.

When the child cries intermittently, ask the child if he can talk well. If the answer is yes, then communicate with your child well and don't be casual.

Those who discipline should be calm in the face of children's crying. There is nothing to talk about except good communication.

Parents and other adults should not be distressed to intervene. It's best to ignore them, or just ask the children if they can talk well and not cry, so that the children can see the attitude of everyone in the family. No children are lucky. If the rest of the family can't stand it, they can leave, leaving room for the children and the supervisor.

When the child has cried enough and expressed his willingness to communicate, he should be reasonable and state the rules: 1. Crying can't solve the problem. I will cry again in the future, even if it is possible. What can't be done will never be compromised by crying parents. Maybe discuss it, just discuss it. At this age, you can still do it for a few hours at a time. You can also establish rules by doing it several times, and it will become more and more difficult in the future.

It's not easy to say that you stand firm. You can't feel bad about such a small person's falling flesh! I'm worried about whether the child will cry.

Just think about what is really good for children; Moreover, with the passage of time, children are older, habits are formed, and self-awareness is stronger, so it is not the time for parents to work hard. What should they do?

The crying of children is actually a game between children and parents. In fact, it's nothing if the child wins. The problem is that children form such habits, no matter whether things are good or not, there will be fierce contradictions between parents in the future! Children still have time to listen to their parents!

When things come to an end, the last step is very important: hug and kiss the child, tell the child that mom and dad are just restraining his bad behavior habits, and mom and dad will always love him. Parents love him, but they don't like the way he cries to get what he wants. As long as the child is willing, it is better to be closer to the child at this time. Inputting love into him from an early age is not to let him do whatever he wants, but to love him is to keep a growing small tree upright and repair its side branches at any time.

Take real-life phenomena as examples, otherwise children won't understand the truth.

The first concept is indoctrination, so that children can remember it. The second is understanding, which can only be achieved by analogy. Cats, dogs, flowers, trees, weather, etc., all children are exposed to and interested in, which are the theme of metaphor.

For children's daily requirements, promise to tell the reasons for the promise, and appropriately let the children delay the satisfaction for five minutes, ten minutes and half an hour, but keep your word.

If you can't agree, tell the reason for not agreeing. Make a serious voice, show your attitude very seriously. Emphasize unreasonable demands, no matter what attitude you adopt. See if there are alternative ways to communicate well.

In any case, in the face of children, we must do what we say!

When my daughter was over two years old, she was also a "little devil". She is tight-lipped about whether she wants it or not. When you asked, she refused.

At first, I was also very upset. After a long time, every time she is unreasonable or stubborn, I even yell at her or scold her. It was very useful at first, because she was never scolded by me since she was a child, knowing that her mother would be angry and would not say "no" or lose her temper easily.

But what I didn't expect was that one day she was eating in the dining chair, and I sat opposite to watch her eat. While eating, she suddenly smiled and asked me, Mom, are you angry?

I felt a little strange and said, no, mom is not angry. Eat quickly.

After that, she lowered her head and began to eat, but after a while she asked, then why don't you laugh?

It suddenly dawned on me that when a mother lost her temper and shouted at the child, it would make the child think that her mother was angry, which meant something to the child. It's useless to cry and pretend to be poor at ordinary times, and mom won't hug her anymore, which will make children feel that mom doesn't love her anymore.

I began to reflect on what I had done before:

During that time, I felt that my daughter really had a problem and was psychologically hurt. As long as I don't laugh or keep silent, she starts asking me, Mom, are you happy? Or mom, are you angry?

In short, it is another way to ask: Are you in a good mood? Did she do something wrong again?

As soon as she makes a mistake and I become silent, I will start to get angry and yell at her, and she will immediately run to a small corner to hide. I chased her out, but she refused. I pulled her out, and she barely stood on the empty ground, afraid to look at me and avoid my eyes.

I kept silent when I asked her questions. Answering them is also the answer that makes you angry. In this back-and-forth question and answer, I really couldn't help yelling at her, and she also began to cry, standing in the same place pulling clothes and rubbing hands. She really wanted me to comfort her, but she was afraid to come over ... I cried bitterly, and I refused to comfort her. I continued to say that I dared to do such a thing until she begged.

In fact, I regret it every time, but I didn't know how to control it at that time, and I didn't know it was a good way to make my children listen to you. It is only useful to educate children by yelling.

But in my heart, there is always a voice saying that my daughter is not in the right state, and she is more and more attached to me and more timid. ...

One day after I yelled at her, she suddenly said loudly, I hate my mother the most! Then hit me hard.

I was surprised and wanted to ask: Who taught you to say that?

But when I look at my daughter, I recall how I yelled at her and scolded her so many times before. She kept hitting me when I didn't speak again, and then I cried ... full of guilt, just like seeing her innocent little face sleeping, trying to pull her soft little hand, and I regretted it.

I tried to hug her, but she pushed me hard and kept hitting me. I told her that her mother was wrong and I shouldn't have yelled at you. I'm sorry

She was still very excited, struggling to break free from my arms ... and then ran away. Leaving me squatting in the same place, crying silently like a loser, I don't understand why I gave up so much and stayed at home with my children, and now it has become like this.

After reading a lot of parenting books, I learned that children over two years old began to have rebellious psychology, and they were determined to go against their parents. At this time, they have just formed self-awareness, but their thoughts are still in the primary stage, and their logical thinking is too chaotic. In addition, parents often treat them like babies, and children will feel that they are not respected. When they are dissatisfied, they have no ability to express clearly, and they will cry to express their dissatisfaction.

For children at this stage, patience is needed. If parents' own negligence makes their children emotional, then parents must put a low profile and apologize to their children in time. Try to appease the child, or distract the child, take the child out of the existing environment, go to another room or do something else to attract his attention.

If the child is unreasonable blindly, it will recover to a very serious extent. First, think about whether children are used to making trouble at home at ordinary times. If they are not satisfied, they will lose their temper and be arrogant. If so, parents must not be soft-hearted and must resolutely refuse.

Let her know what she can and can't do. No matter how much she rolls, she can't be satisfied. Once may not be impressive, but two or three times will definitely remember.

Please refer to my family's situation for specific operation methods:

Once I took my daughter to the supermarket, and the parking lot was across the street. When we crossed the street, she insisted on walking by herself and wouldn't let me hold her hand. I reached out to pull, and she ran very fast. I pulled the cart after her and ran out of the parking lot at once, so I didn't care so much. I put down the cart, strode forward and picked it up. Maybe I was too anxious and too strong, and I hurt her.

But I still put her under my arm and walked back, pulling the cart in one hand and getting back to the car.

Get on the bus, put it in the safety seat, fasten your seat belt, listen to her cry quietly and let her make trouble. At first, she began to cry hard, shouted no, turned red, kicked her feet hard and lost her temper. Gradually, her voice became hoarse and louder. I still ignored her.

I cried for a while and gradually stopped crying. I asked her if she was still crying. It's okay not to ask, but to ask, and start a new round of kicking, louder and more wronged.

I continued to ignore her. When she stopped crying, I asked her if she still wanted to go to the supermarket. She sobbed and said, if you want to go, I said, let mom lead you across the street, or sit in the cart.

She nodded and her mouth shrank again. I saw her let go, took out a paper towel to wipe her face, untied it from the safety seat, held it in her arms, and told her mother not to let you run around alone, because the parking lot and the road were too dangerous, and a car might come at any time. You are so young that the driver and uncle on the bus can't see you at all, which is very dangerous.

She continued sobbing puzzled, and I reached out to wipe her sweat. Then she relaxed, buried her head on my shoulder and whispered grievances. I think she listens to everything, so she got off and went to the supermarket.

From then on, when crossing the road and trying to run around without holding hands, she asked me to hold her hand when I said a few words casually.

For children, this method is very effective for all problems. At present, my daughter is more than three years old, and she has been obedient a lot. She no longer needs to communicate with me every time the weather is dizzy. She knows where my boundaries are, so under normal circumstances, I will try my best to let her be free without touching the principles.

In the final analysis, children still have to deal with it in the way of children, and arguing and yelling blindly with adults' thinking can't really solve any problems. In the long run, it will also hurt the parent-child relationship, make children timid and unconfident, and may also affect their lives.