Just be happy every day, don’t care what others say

A while ago, Miss Seven had to prepare for a qualification exam, and it was common for her to stay up until midnight reading and answering questions.

However, there are some naughty children downstairs in her house. They like to yell at 11 or 12 o'clock in the evening. What's even worse is that when they see the lights in her house are on, they look at her windows. Throw stones.

The seventh girl first opened the window and gave a few warnings. Instead of calming down, these naughty children started swearing at her unscrupulously and threw stones even more vigorously.

So, the seventh girl directly poured a basin of cold water down...

The world was only quiet for three minutes, and then several adults appeared, pointing at her and continuing to curse.

So, she poured a second pot.

There are three main consequences of doing this:

1. She was yelled at and scolded by her parents and went to apologize to others;

2 .Those children no longer dare to make trouble at night;

3. Her neighbors sent her text messages expressing their gratitude, thanking her for her "feat" of "eliminating violence and keeping her peace".

When she told you, she specifically asked you: "How is it, are you great?"

You replied: "Scallop wants to applaud him after hearing this. "

Then you asked again: "Why are you so angry?"

She giggled: "I have been good for a long time, and I want to be a bastard for a few days."

But in fact, she is not "a bastard for a few days", but "has always been a bastard".

A very annoying department leader criticized her by name and told her not to have a relationship during working hours. As a result, she responded in public: "He doesn't allow you to have a relationship in the office. Then you leave the office." Is he not going to talk about work with you?"

Several old ladies who always like to give advice on life persuaded her to get married early in front of her mother, but she replied: "If the time comes, You should get married when you are old enough to get married. Does that mean you should die if you live to an average lifespan?"

Several girls with very bad attitudes asked to change seats because they "wanted to sit with their boyfriends." . As a result, she responded: "I'm sorry, you also want to sit with his boyfriend."

Several distant relatives heard that she couldn't even knit sweaters, so they said to her: " He doesn’t even know how to do this, how can he still be a college student?” She replied: “He is so good, why didn’t he get into college?” The boy said to her: "What are girls doing so hard for?" She responded calmly: "To stay away from people like him."

A few people who love to talk nonsense The uncle said to her, "Just listen to you. You have eaten more salt than he has ever eaten." She choked and said, "You can eat two bowls of rice in one meal, but he eats two bowls of salt." "Look?"

A few aunts who couldn't speak said to her: "We haven't seen each other for half a year, and he has gained weight again." She nodded and said, "We haven't seen each other for half a year, and he has grown old again." "

The element of freedom must include the ruffian spirit of "If he doesn't like you, then he hates you."

What about him?

When others said, "Don't worry about it when you are old," he compromised with life and put his dreams on the shelf; when others said, "You are doing this for his own good," he compromised with favors, and in his heart I dare not bring up the idea again.

You guess he may have misunderstood something. Although the mouth is in other people's bodies, the road lies under his own feet.

Life is long, the world is vast, and the plot is complicated. As long as he can live up to his life and live happily, that is enough. He never owes anyone an explanation.

The best attitude is to ignore the sarcasm; to not believe it when faced with compliments; to not be impatient when faced with incomprehension; and to not get angry when faced with ridicule.

Then, do what you want to do, preferably the kind you enjoy; go see the people you want to see, preferably the kind you don’t get tired of; stay away from those who always cause trouble for you The best kind of person is the kind who never interact with each other until death.

Come and say to someone bravely: "Just take care of himself and stop trying to smooth your edges. After all, he does not have a business license."

Su Shan's mentality is surprisingly good. Knowing that she was average-looking and a bit fat, she always declared: "Beauty and ugliness are determined by destiny, fatness and thinness are determined by heaven." From time to time, she would also laugh at herself: "It was probably when Empress Nuwa made you out of clay. ”

If she has a bad time, she will visit the supermarket frequently. In her original words: "Going to the supermarket is the easiest way to be happy, because there is good news everywhere. There is a yogurt sale in the morning, durian on sale at noon, and cherry specials in the evening..."

Even if it is When she encounters something annoying, her countermeasure is also very effective - she immediately does the "opposite thing".

For example, if a thief steals her wallet, she will donate a sum of money;

If someone wants to cut in line, she will politely let the next person who wants to cut in line do the same. ;

When someone is in a bad mood and gets angry at her, she will be more friendly to the other person;

When her boss is dissatisfied with her work, she will try her best to give her subordinates more work High marks...

She lived a very transparent life.

A relative once urged her: "Who do you think he is, how pitiful it is to live alone in old age? He can't be so willful anymore. If he delays it any longer, he will be left behind!"

Result She responded with a smile: "Hey, the jewelry store will be closed after working hours, and there will be no rush to discount because the jewelry will not break. But the fruit stall will immediately sell at low prices at night, because it will rot tomorrow. That one is obviously a jewel, how could she be so pitiful?"

She also lives a very chic life.

He has determined from the beginning that "other people's likes are more important than one's own likes." So he kept lowering his profile and tried hard to make others like him, at least not hate him.

He is becoming more and more low-key and easier to bully; he will be frightened for a long time because of someone else's blame, and he will also be forgiven for his previous "mistakes" because of someone else's praise.

He was worried that he was an anomaly, that he would be embarrassed, that his words and deeds were a joke.

Therefore, the questions that often appear in his mind are: "If you don't get married at the age of 30, others will think you are a freak" "You are so ugly, they must dislike you" "What if If you don't attend this party, they will bother you"...

He had made sufficient preparations before the meeting, but an ambiguous comment or an evasive look from others made him panic; he spent money If you buy a piece of clothing that you really like, if someone's review is not very good, then he will never wear it out.

She once gave up her well-paid job despite her boss's persuasion to stay, just because she wanted to go to a mountain city to experience the secluded life of "taking care of waste and filth in the morning, and returning home with a hoe in the moonlight".

He also personally ended a long-distance love affair that lasted for eight years because he was "tired of waiting for him to grow up."

He also struggled to obtain a diving certificate despite being "afraid of water", "unable to swim" and "fearful of the deep sea".

It turns out that happy people are building their own inner world, while unhappy people only blame their outer world.

You know, he feels like he can't help himself. When he was a child, what restricted his freedom was the phrase "he is still a child"; when he grew up, what restricted his freedom became the phrase "he is already an adult."

You know, he is not very optimistic, just because there are too many people who want him to be happy, so in front of them, he can only pretend to be happy.

You know, there are two forces fighting each other in his body: one is thinking "let you be alone for a while" and the other is thinking "get together"; or, the other is drooping The head wants to stay away from right and wrong, and a clenched fist says "Don't become an alien."

The result is that the more he lives, the more he conforms to other people’s expectations, and the more he lives, the less happy he becomes.

There are many ways to not love yourself, the most common of which is to live your life completely according to other people’s opinions; there are also many ways to love yourself, the most effective of which is to live your life the way you like. lifetime.

At first, he stood outside the crowd, watching others compromise, and he felt sorry for him in his heart: "How can people live like this? They are so useless." But later, he also got into trouble. When he got into the crowd, he became the kind of person who said, "I'm so useless."

He always reminds himself what things he "should do" and "can do", but rarely thinks about what things he "want to do" and "can try" ".

His mentality is getting worse and worse. From the time when he was in his prime, he thought "sooner or later I will meet someone who has eyes for you", to the thought of "people like you, no wonder no one likes you". ".

His relationships all required him to be sensible and decent. After being hurt and let down time and time again, he almost pervertedly forced himself to let go gracefully.

His self-confidence is gradually eroded away, replaced by doubts about himself and you; his happiness is pitiful, and his fear of the future is endless.

Your suggestion is:

He does not need to Photoshop his face or legs to be so thin, first smile sincerely at the camera;

He does not need to make every scene He rushed to the wedding, so he replaced his instant noodles with a healthy meal;

He didn't have to do his best to borrow money from everyone, but first registered the interest classes he wanted to take.

Do what he likes, do what he thinks is right, do what he thinks is worthwhile, even if these things are "stupid" in the eyes of others, even if he seems "bad" at the time, even if He is said to be "crazy", but only he knows that these things are the cornerstone of his self-confidence and the source of happiness, which are enough to counteract the "unhappiness" of life and become his "secret happiness".

What you understand by "confidence" is not only feeling that "you are OK" and "you can do it" anytime and anywhere, but also including frankly admitting "you can't" after trying your best, and facing dislikes. People can say "you don't want to do it" openly.

What you understand as "happiness" is that your heart is filled with Coca-Cola, touched by something, and then swayed; it is when you walk on the road, you feel that there is no malice in the world. ; When other people see him, they think he must be happy.

When people live in this world, on the premise of not infringing on the interests of others, they should first consider "what do you want to do" and "what do you want", and then consider the impact of this matter on others, and finally Decide whether and how much to compromise.

If everything starts from his own feelings, his life will be very exciting.

Life is long, and if you are unhappy, it will be even longer.

Speaking of "happiness", we have to mention the talented painter Xiao Yongyu.

He went out to make a living at the age of 13, became famous at home and abroad at the age of 22, got a driver's license at the age of 30, went to Europe to study and sketch at the age of 50, appeared on the cover of a fashion magazine at the age of 55, and drove a red Ferrari to Drag racing...

He likes to keep dogs and has several at home. Whenever the dogs go out to fight with other dogs, he will help them. He himself admits that he "protects the weak".

When he was criticized, he was beaten frequently, but he never complained of pain. When he got home, he told his wife with a smile: "I got 265 blows today." Later, he was transferred to the countryside. After working hard, he would catch crickets and dig a hole to watch them fight.

When he was over 80 years old, he appeared on the cover of a fashion magazine. After the photo shoot, he went home and showed off to his wife: "How is it? He is a handsome boy. Wow, you are so good-looking too."

He is over 90 years old and still likes red clothes, and his view of life and death is also very naughty: "If you want to hold a memorial service before you die, find a recliner and lie in the middle, and listen to everyone's praise while you are still alive. You."

His life illustrates a sentence: People cannot live by their mood, but by their mentality.

Just like what he preached: "Love clearly, hate directly, like sincerely, stand magnanimously in the sun, and praise yourself loudly and unashamedly."

A lifetime is very important. Chang, every day is like a blind box, he doesn't know what he will draw, but he must accept the rules of this game. Then, no matter what you draw is what you are looking forward to or what you don't like, accept it as a gift.

In this way, he can star in the life series as he is, without having to guess "what others like" or worry about "how can you make others like it."

Take care of your own life, don’t be too busy telling others what you are doing.

If he sets a fixed personality for himself in order to please others, allows others to label him in order to satisfy others, and throws away happiness in order to appear normal, the consequence will be that he will become more and more unhappy. The more hypocritical you live, the more tired you become.

When he is defined as "good-tempered", then he will feel stressed if he occasionally wants to get angry;

When he is evaluated as "humorous", then he will not Be careful that showing sadness can become a sin;

When he has a reputation as a "cute", then his seriousness seems like an act.

Therefore, I hope that he can live a free and easy life, that he will not be too trapped by other people's opinions, and that he can use his enthusiasm and concentration on things that make him happy without any distractions. .

After all, he does not live to prove which way of living is right, but to be as happy as possible in his limited life. This is his life, and it is up to him how he wants to live it.

After all, it is better to follow your own wishes and live a bloody life than to bluff and become a walking zombie.

Always remember that external voices are only for reference.

Text/Xiao Ma

Nan Fenghui