The customs of holding funerals in some rural areas are relatively vulgar. What do you think?

Recently, especially in rural areas, vulgar performances such as dance groups are often invited to funerals, and ordinary people also like this kind of performance. There are many reasons for this situation. I think the main reasons are the following:

First, the lack of spiritual civilization. Everyone didn't think this kind of performance was vulgar, but found it quite interesting.

Second, in recent years, rural living conditions have gradually improved, coupled with the influence of old feudal ideas, money worship and hedonism have grown in the countryside, and various corrupt and degenerate ideologies have emerged, and The advanced socialist culture is not rich enough and has not yet spread rapidly in rural areas. There is still room for vulgar performances to survive in rural areas.

Third, supervision and crackdowns are not strong enough. Many places have neglected rural work and do not want to meddle in rural affairs. Supervision is not strong enough, and they rarely crack down on the "pornography, gambling and drug" culture. , there are still many blind spots and dead ends in the anti-pornography and anti-illegal work.

Breaking this bad habit cannot be achieved overnight. We need to build rural entertainment facilities and create more places for people to relax and entertain, so that people have a place to "play" and let people learn to "play". Let the common people realize ideologically that this kind of behavior is vulgar and consciously resist it, so that this kind of pornographic culture will lose its market.

Thanks for the invitation! I was very shocked when I saw the questioner's description! It is indeed too much to have vulgar things in a funeral. Although some people in rural areas call weddings and funerals weddings and funerals, after all, holding a funeral is a solemn and serious matter. It does not matter what to sing, and the performance of stripping is indeed This is the greatest disrespect to the deceased!

This kind of thing happens in many rural areas, and it also happens when others are grieving for losing their loved ones, which reflects the poor character and quality of all the members of the song and dance troupe. The Chinese say that the dead are the most important. The song and dance troupe performed such a program on this occasion, failing to show their basic respect for the deceased. It lost the purpose and significance of the family of the deceased inviting the song and dance troupe. It was not so much for the excitement. , rather it is the greatest insult to the deceased, his family and the audience.

Although rural areas are far away from prosperous towns, it does not mean that rural areas should lack spiritual civilization. To build a new socialist countryside, we must mainly work hard to improve the spiritual civilization of rural areas. Not only must we break the shackles of feudal superstition and old ideas and concepts, but we must also make a fuss about solving unhealthy habits such as ostentation of weddings and funerals in rural areas, not to mention pornography, gambling, and drugs that pollute the rural environment.

Based on the vulgar customs raised by the subject, white affairs are a very serious and solemn matter. They spend a lot of money to hire drummers, mourners, singers and dancers, especially stripteases, which I think is a great disrespect to the deceased. As the saying goes: A bowl of water in front of parents is worth a thousand tons of ashes on the grave. The deceased should be given a piece of pure land and allowed to enter heaven peacefully.

Nowadays, governments at all levels are advocating strict economy and simplicity in both red and white matters. Each village office has established a red and white committee, which is very popular among the people.

I once saw the news that in some places in the countryside, an old man passed away. During the funeral, the host’s family actually invited a song and dance troupe to sing, dance and dance. The most shocking thing is that some very few song and dance troupes actually performed some vulgar dances!

It is said that the reason is to attract popularity. During the funeral for the elderly, whichever family is more popular and has more people attending will have honor and dignity.

Oh my god, there is such an operation!

It feels incomprehensible, unreasonable, and simply nonsense.

When an old man passes away and his relatives grieve, a farewell ceremony is held to send the old man on his last journey and to send his departed relatives on a happy journey. This is human nature, a traditional custom, and a form of commemoration, so there is nothing wrong with it.

Who knows that in the real society, some people are ingenious, full of tricks, and independent, and they have to come up with some fancy tricks.

The death of an elderly person in the family is an infinitely sad and sad thing, but to do it in such a "singing and dancing" manner is really a bit nondescript and makes people laugh and cry.

There is always a kind of person who, when the old man is alive, does not take the exam well, does not serve the old man well, and even abuses the old man. When the old man passes away, they become "spiritual". In order to show off, to show off one's abilities, the funeral was made "vigorous" and "earth-shaking."

The extravagant extravagance and squandering are almost like turning the funeral into a grand performance.

However, their purpose is only one, which is to gain popularity and win glory for themselves.

When I think about it, it feels ridiculous and incredible.

This kind of actions and practices are very disgusting. Besides, how do you make the old people who are still alive feel? How can you make them feel embarrassed?

The best way to treat the elderly with filial piety is to raise them well but not bury them. Don't make these "cheesy intestines" that are hard to accept and look awkward.

This bad trend really cannot continue.

I am a rural person, and I have attended the funeral of the richest man. A client’s father passed away. There were 110 tables of people attending the funeral, and thousands of people came to express their condolences. Each table The standard banquet is 550 yuan per table, 50 yuan for a box of cigarettes, and more than 100 yuan for a bottle of wine. Even the mineral water is a very high-end drink. The specifications and standards of the entire wedding are very high-end and elegant. The level of boldness left me dumbfounded. Being ignorant and ignorant, I discovered for the first time that simple things can be done in this way.

Frankly speaking, although the extravagance of this event surprised me, the whole process was very respectful and there was no waste or luxury. There were many people present. Helped to maintain order. Although there were many people, the scene was not chaotic at all and the crowd was very quiet. Everyone followed the established procedures and did everything step by step. The whole white matter gave people a very grand, solemn and serious feeling. , of course it is also very expensive.

In fact, I personally don’t feel anything wrong with such extravagant white affairs. After the old man dies, the children and grandchildren have the ability to do the white affairs in a more dignified manner. This kind of thing is understandable and will benefit future generations. Use your own money and do your best to send the old man away in glory. This is face. When the old man was alive, his children and grandchildren were filial and filial to the old man. This is face. Just imagine that everyone wants face and everything, and they all do well. A very good family, what reason is there for people to hate that? Let me ask again, which old man doesn’t want to have a glorious funeral when he is dying?

In April, I went to a rural area in a nearby province to purchase raw materials and stayed in a small mountain village for a few days. I happened to encounter someone in the village who died and witnessed a very strange funeral. It really makes me feel ashamed that things have turned out like this. Such a trend for future generations makes people feel ashamed.

It was an evening. After having dinner with this local friend, he said that there would be a special event in the village tomorrow and there would be a performance in the evening. He said he would take us to see the excitement. We haven’t arrived yet, so it’s so far away. I heard bursts of singing, and the songs sung were very strange. They were all brain-burning songs about love. I asked a local friend, are you sure this is a funeral? Do you all sing this kind of song at funerals here? My friend said nonchalantly, "What's the point? There will be something more exciting next."

The girl who sang was dressed in fancy clothes. The weather in April was not very hot, but the girl who sang was dressed very refreshingly. Although she sang like a mess, she did a good job interacting with the audience. It was very good. Sometimes they were blowing kisses, and sometimes they were asking for applause. It seemed very speechless, but the people around them looked calm, shouting, cheering, taking pictures, and applauding. The scene was actually very lively.

About the time the performance was about to end, the whole scene reached its climax. Five or six very coquettish girls dressed in colorful clothes actually danced on the stage, and it was a very ambiguous and vulgar dance. The dance was filled with screams and shouts. I couldn’t stand it anymore, so I walked outside. I was surprised to find that there were several people wearing mourning clothes outside, and they were also watching the performance with great interest. , that scene made me feel that everything here was too terrible.

When I returned to the hotel, a local friend told me that in the past few years, their weddings here were actually very traditional, and there were not so many messy performances. However, in recent years, the economic conditions in the village have improved. , everyone’s pockets are bulging and they have money. I don’t know who took the lead in doing such a thing at the funeral. Then everyone followed suit, and now it has evolved into this. Basically every family does this for weddings and weddings. , if someone has something to do, if they don’t invite the song and dance troupe to perform, they will become a different kind and make everyone laugh.

Several months have passed since this incident, and I have been unable to recall it for a long time. How did the inheritance custom become like this? Would the knowledgeable old people in the underground also like this kind of thing? The customs of holding funerals in some rural areas are relatively vulgar. What do you think?

As an authentic farmer from southwestern Shandong, I have lived in the countryside for more than thirty years. I have participated in hundreds of weddings and funerals, large and small. Relatively speaking, the weddings and funerals here are Most weddings and funerals still retain very traditional and ancient practices. In terms of traditional etiquette and customs, they have been passed down relatively completely. Whether it is weddings or weddings, they basically retain the original style of the past. It is old-fashioned and vulgar and not extravagant or wasteful. No matter what happens at home, the villagers and villagers will always come to help and they get along very harmoniously.

I personally cannot accept some vulgar and outdated funeral ceremonies in some rural areas that make people stunned. The holding of vulgar funerals is completely a bad habit and an unacceptable ignorance. Behavior, reverence for life and reverence for traditional customs is a concept that we all should have. It is a good thing to do old things with new things and innovate. However, this kind of vulgar and immoral performance at a funeral is just a show that ignores life and traditional customs. ugly behavior.

Spend your own money and do your own family affairs. Of course, others have nothing to say, but what you do must have a certain degree and a limit. You must abide by the village rules and regulations. We must keep order, not act arbitrarily, and not use our actions to challenge everyone's moral bottom line. We must not forget our roots as a human being.

After the bad customs are formed, many farmers will compare with each other. They will compare each other on this ignorant and bad habit. In the end, the customs of the entire village will be ruined, and the people in the village will They will be influenced by each other until it becomes out of control. Such behavior should be stopped and directed as early as possible, and it must not get worse.

Nowadays, people in rural areas have funerals, that is, rich people bury money, poor people bury people, and rich people hold large funerals. The dead person is left at home for seven days, and more people follow the ceremony and treat the dead person as a deceased person. It's a money tree. People without money can't hold a big funeral. If they die the day before, they will be buried the next day. No one will give them gifts, and they can't afford the daily expenses. As for blowing the whistle, I don't think it's good. It's a natural phenomenon of birth, old age, sickness and death. Come to the world happily and go to heaven happily. Descendants should follow the wishes of their elders and not be upset by excessive bragging.

Those with low customs are all run by rich people, setting up ostentation, inviting singing and dancing groups, eating and drinking, which is beyond Fan Tao, who has a new funeral and changed customs.

According to the general customs and habits of funerals, it is common to invite a gong and drum troupe to join in the mourning and music on the day of the funeral. In the first seven days, several Buddhist monks are invited to chant sutras and perform meritorious deeds. These are all available and are based on The theme is diligence and frugality, and anything beyond the scope is done by wealthy people.

As long as the family of the deceased is happy, outsiders don’t have to waste words.

Thanks Wukong for the invitation.

After reading the questioner’s introduction to the customs of holding funerals in rural areas, I also feel that this unhealthy custom should be paid attention to.

I remember one time when we were traveling through a rural area, we saw local villagers holding a funeral. At that time, I also thought it was strange that a "big stage" was set up for the funeral, and the actors performed "two-person turns" on the stage. The unpleasant language and movements were extremely inconsistent with the scene. Someone told me that this was a local As for funeral customs, rich people will "set up a stage to hold funerals", and say "new funeral arrangements", saying that the descendants will have a good life in the future, so that it will be lively when there are many people.

In my mind, I saw that one time. Funerals in most rural areas are relatively traditional. However, I have seen similar reports in videos and TV. The performance eventually turned into a striptease, which was really immoral.

Some "acrobatic" actors stripped down to bikinis while performing, completely ignoring that there were some minors in the audience, and some of the actors looked young, which made people feel that the funeral was held and the atmosphere was extremely inconsistent. , and makes people feel physically and mentally uncomfortable.

It should be said that this bad custom has been basically eliminated now, but this bad custom may still exist in some more remote places. The main reason is that now that some people in rural areas have become rich, they like to organize "special" funerals. Not only to make money, it is just to show their filial piety. In fact, it is also an excuse to seek stimulation for spiritual emptiness. This does not look like a funeral, it is simply a waste of time. A low-level taste.

I really don’t know how to evaluate them when they say they are filial to the elderly. The parents of these people may not have spent so much money on funerals for their children before they were alive. It feels so good to show filial piety by doing things like this after someone dies. In "fooling ghosts"!

I still hope that relevant parties will pay attention to this kind of "custom" in rural areas in certain places and prevent such vulgar performances from becoming a bad trend. There is nothing wrong with the new funeral arrangements. I think it is good to play the suona like in the past. This kind of "performance style" should be banned. Because this kind of performance not only changes the rural funeral customs, but is also detrimental to the physical and mental health of the next generation. Comparison style in the countryside! There are many things that you can do without, but you must have them.

During the Spring Festival, the countryside of my relatives is always extremely lively. Nowadays, almost every household comes back by car. Just like the atomic bomb, it doesn't have to be used, but it must be there. If any family doesn't have a car. It feels like if you go out to work hard, you will not be as good as others, and there will be a gap in your heart and you will feel inferior. I started to get rich in life, but I was very poor in spirit. I thought I was honoring my ancestors, but I was desecrating the souls of the dead.