The most chilling thing is always "this sentence"!

Xiaomi called me and vowed to break up with a friend.

Xiaomi's family is relatively good. There are two houses at home, one for living and the other vacant. In May, a friend said that he would come to Shenzhen to find a job, and talked with Xiaomi about the pain of finding a job and renting a house at the same time. Xiaomi has always been warm-hearted, and after listening to it, he bravely said that he would let his friends live in his own home, with complete furniture and bags, and wait for his friends to find a house before moving.

Before that friend moved in, Xiaomi specially cleaned the house inside and outside.

It's a good thing that my friend lived for a few months and moved away after finding a stable job. Xiaomi, who felt that he had helped his friend, was very happy, but when he went to get the key, he found that the house was in a mess.

As soon as I entered the door, I saw waste paper and boxes everywhere on the ground. The white sofa just bought in the living room is full of oil stains. The garbage can that has not been emptied gives off a rotten smell. The refrigerator door is open and the bath water has not been put away. There is a layer of ash below, and the millet I see is disgusting.

It turns out that my friend didn't clean up at all when he left.

Xiaomi was a little angry and called a friend to ask what was going on. At first, the friend said very cooperatively, Oh, I was in a hurry when I left, and I may have forgotten to pack.

Because my favorite sofa is dirty even after being used, I don't know if it can be cleaned, so Xiaomi always feels a little uncomfortable: my sofa is also dirty, and the garbage didn't fall into the house.

As a result, my friend casually shouted: Oh, I said I forgot. What's the big deal? You are too stingy. I'll go back and tidy it up for you another day.

Xiaomi was very angry. He kindly lent her the house and confiscated a penny. I'm just a little unhappy to see my house in a mess. I asked her a few words and felt that Xiaomi was stingy.

Xiaomi told me on the phone: You don't even know. What she said made my heart cool.

Because I usually like reading and writing, I will write full-time after graduation.

A friend often calls me and asks me to write something for her, such as public relations materials, soft articles and reports, and give it to me in another way. I have a headache every time.

However, every time she calls me, she is always pathetic. I can't refuse to be scolded by my boss or deducted from my performance, so I can only bite the bullet and stay up all night writing to her. This situation probably lasted for nearly two years.

Her salary has risen rapidly in the past two years, at least half of which is because the leaders think she can go out to practice martial arts, run activities and write public relations materials. But I haven't asked her for a dime in the past two years, thinking that there is no need to talk about money when friends help each other. Besides, she occasionally invites me to dinner once or twice.

Once, I stayed up for two nights to help her write five soft articles. I just learned that she got a salary increase again. I joked: You got half of my military medal. Do you want to share a bonus with me?

I was joking, but her answer surprised me: aren't you a full-time writer? What's the big deal about writing a few soft articles? This is not for you. Why are you so stingy?

In a word, I want to slap my mobile phone in her face, and my heart is mixed. Not to mention how many times I have helped you, it is not too much for you to give me all the bonuses. Even if you really give me a bonus, I won't take it.

I write full time, but there are also experts who specialize in making rockets. Doesn't mean that what you do is effortless. I stayed up all night for you, didn't you see?

She later said that she would invite me to dinner, but I declined. I seldom write for her anymore, and my contact is getting less and less.

"What's the big deal, you are too stingy", which should be a sentence we often hear in our lives.

Maybe some people really think it's no big deal when they say it, but the people who listen are just uncomfortable.

First of all, when you say "what's the big deal", you say that what the other person values is worthless, which is a great disrespect.

Losing someone else's favorite thing, "what's the big deal"; Ask friends for free help, "what's the big deal"; Lend someone money and don't pay it back. "What's the big deal?" If you just look at the problem from your own point of view, and you think it really doesn't matter, then others will give you a knife and say, "What's the big deal?"

Secondly, if you accuse the other party of being stingy and making a mountain out of a molehill, the other party will be unhappy. You ruined the other person's beloved things, ruined the other person's kindness and dedication, and the other person was angry. This is stingy.

Others are willing to help you out of friendship between friends, so don't say others are stingy easily. No one in this world has the obligation to contribute selflessly to you.

Confucius said, "A word is for rejuvenating the country, and a word is for national subjugation." Many times, a sentence you think is irrelevant is a cold knife in the eyes of others, stabbing you in the heart and bleeding.

Therefore, when communicating with people, don't be hot-headed and dare to throw anything out. Before you speak, you must think clearly, consider each other's feelings more, and be clear about what to say and what not to say.

A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June.

Don't just want to make yourself happy for a while, but let others feel cold. In the end, you will really live alone. Do you like this article? Share this article with more people ~