What should my mother-in-law do in the face of her daughter-in-law's various spits?

I saw all kinds of gossip mothers-in-law in the group today. After all, every family member is different and has different personalities. Mother-in-law said that mother-in-law was right, and public said that public was right.

From ancient times to the present, all kinds of daughter-in-law spit out the voice of her mother-in-law. What kind of things will make mother-in-law unhappy? It's really difficult for an honest official to break housework.

I can also understand the difficulty of being a daughter-in-law. After all, as a daughter-in-law, I still have to take care of my husband's face. If I am caught in the middle, it will be difficult for my husband to be a man.

Ms. Zhou said; My husband and I are fellow villagers, and we are free to fall in love. Now my mother-in-law is in a bad mood and wants to go back to her hometown. If she really goes back, she is afraid that her neighbors will laugh at herself and make it difficult for her parents to be human. After all, she belongs to the same town and will meet frequently. So Ms. Zhou wants everyone to do something.

You can see many daughters-in-law complaining about their mother-in-law on the internet, and their relationship with her mother-in-law is like an enemy.

What my mother-in-law does seems to be wrong: confinement is wrong, confinement is wrong; It is wrong not to help children, and the concept of helping children is different and wrong; It is wrong not to pay for a house, and it is also wrong to pay for a house to help decorate it; Don't talk is don't care. If you do, your daughter-in-law doesn't feel good either. Husbands should not listen to their mother-in-law, which also affects the feelings between husband and wife.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not harmonious. Is it because the mother-in-law is unreasonable or the daughter-in-law is too picky? First of all, it must be clear that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are two independent individuals, and there will inevitably be contradictions and conflicts. Secondly, even if the mother-in-law knows it's her fault, she can't stand the younger generation pointing at herself, so the daughter-in-law should have skills in communication with her mother-in-law.

As a mother-in-law, how to have a good relationship with her daughter-in-law? To put it simply, the mother-in-law should take care of her hands and live a good life with her husband. Don't worry about it all the time, but always want to get involved in her son's family. Otherwise, don't say you didn't contribute. Even if you do, you may not be able to please your son and daughter-in-law, but you may be accused. In fact, there are boundaries between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

If the son's family really needs help to take care of the children, they can pay for a nanny. If they must live together, they should not always pretend to be elders and "experienced people". Don't force your daughter-in-law to obey herself completely, don't tell her what to do casually, and don't complain to your son, undermining the relationship between your son and your daughter-in-law.

Of course, if you meet an evil daughter-in-law, you don't have to endure and compromise for your son. Old people have an obligation to help their children, not to help them.

As the old saying goes, the fragrance is far away and the taste is near. If possible, it's best to live separately. Don't interfere with the young couple's family, and don't interfere with the raising of grandchildren.