Should we have such a boyfriend and life? Fudan? Sun Yat-sen University?

Hello:

First of all, as an outsider, let me try to guess what you are thinking. Your narrative lists many advantages of Shanghai. But still hesitant. The biggest weight in Zhongshan is just your boyfriend. It can be assumed that you love him very much and are even dependent on him at least now. But the pursuit of wealth and work is equally important to you. Judging from the narrative, your considerations are relatively practical. I'm afraid he is not the kind of person who is willing to give up those things for the so-called love.

So my suggestion is Fudan. The reasons are as follows:

First: Putting aside those romantic ideas of working alone, the so-called family relationships and real estate are indeed very big advantages. Staying in Shanghai for development, combined with your academic qualifications and intelligence, you can predict that you will be more successful than going elsewhere. Such resources should be put to good use. As for your concerns about "This makes me feel like I am trapped in Shanghai for the rest of my life and can never go out. My job and real estate will firmly tie me down. This makes me feel scared." You don't have enough freedom from your parents. I think objectively speaking, transportation is so developed now. Just because you have lived in a city since childhood does not mean that you cannot appreciate the outside world. If a person has control over his life, free time, money and a free heart, he will never be trapped anywhere. Instead, the real constraint is financial constraints. Countless young people are trapped in their jobs because they have no advantages, working from nine to five without any interest in work. This is the dilemma. This is why I suggest you stay in Shanghai and focus on developing your career.

Second: To be honest, feelings are really unstable. It's good to have one, but sacrificing your own advantages for it is really not a wise move. Countless lessons learned from the past. I don't want to say more than that. Besides, when you go there for the exam, it will take four hours to go back and forth for the meeting. Having sex for only a few hours a day, the two of them were exhausted from meeting each other, which was not much different from a long-distance relationship. As the old saying goes, if love lasts for a long time, how can it last forever? You are only in high school, so you may be reluctant to let go now, but there are too many variables in the future. It's better to let nature take its course. If it’s him, that’s who he is. If it’s not him, no matter how hard you work, that’s the result.

The above are my suggestions. Of course, other people’s words can only serve as a reference. Hope this helps you

Good luck:-D