On the eve of the wedding, the husband-in-law talks back and doesn't give the bride price. What if the woman refuses to accept it?

Once a woman is with a man, she will want to marry him, have children with him and grow old together, but this kind of thing cannot be wishful thinking and needs your love. Women always think that men will marry her as long as they are good enough. In fact, in the eyes of a man, he can be with you, but it doesn't mean he will marry you.

Because marriage needs careful consideration in men's eyes, men are often more rational in this matter. Many men are more worried about the bride price, which is unavoidable for many people who want to get married. In the eyes of men, bride price is a bad habit and should be abolished. However, in the eyes of women, the bride price is a custom and a test to verify how much men love themselves.

The reason why men object to the bride price is that they think it is not worth it or can't give it. They think that a woman who wants a bride price is money worship, but not a bride price is true love. They even said that this is the "selling daughter" of the woman's family. In fact, the original intention of most women's families is to know their daughter's position in the man's heart, and they are afraid that their daughter will marry and suffer hardships because they are eager to love her.

However, if the man really has difficulties and really loves this woman, I believe most parents still want their children to be happy. Both men and women take a step back, as long as the children live well.

What women can't accept is that they have given everything for each other, but in the end they are used as an excuse to "not give the bride price". This is unacceptable to any woman, and all kinds of calculations have been made for her from the beginning, so this marriage is not worth mentioning.

As a woman, it is easy to suffer emotionally, especially for girls who fall in love with their brains. Such women are often easily calculated by men. Recently, a reader shared her story with me. I hope you can take it as a warning.

Hello, I am your loyal reader. I have read every article of yours. I've always wanted to tell you my story. I hope you can read my private letter.

I never thought that I would encounter such a painful thing. A month ago, I looked forward to my wedding with great joy. Unexpectedly, on the eve of the wedding, I saw the true face of the man I love deeply. I am in pain. I never knew that my efforts were actually an act of "belittling myself" in his eyes.

I met him at school. I had no feelings for him at first, but he was very kind to me. I was moved by him and stayed with him. Together for half a year, facing graduation. In order to save rent, he proposed to live together. I hesitated. He promised me that he would marry me. I looked at him and swore that I believed him. In this way, we lived together.

I really didn't think so much at that time, because I recognized him from the beginning, and thought that since he could pursue me so attentively, he must love me, and I also believed that he would marry me.

When we first started living together, we were very sweet. He is also very concerned about me and very accommodating to me. I am also willing to do laundry and cook for him. I felt very happy at that time. Although I rented a house, I feel like a home. They feel very warm and happy like husband and wife.

At first, my salary was not as high as his. He is responsible for the rent and I am responsible for the daily living expenses. Actually, I spent a lot of money. I am responsible for their daily necessities and usual meals. I was considerate of him. Even if he never bought me a gift, I comforted myself in my heart: as long as he has motivation.

A lot of unpleasantness happened during this period. When he is dissatisfied with his work, he will take it out on me, and then he will apologize to me and say that he is afraid that I will dislike him and leave him. I feel that he loves me very much, and some couples forgive him if they don't quarrel.

In this way, after quarreling for three years, my parents felt that I was not young and urged me to get married. I propose to see my parents. He always said that he was busy and that his career was on the rise at that time, which was not suitable for him to be distracted from other things. I don't think he has worked so hard for so long that it can't affect his work. My parents were also considerate at that time, knowing that it was not easy to work hard outside.

But I didn't expect him to have a relationship with another woman outside. He said that he was a customer, and he was a normal social worker. He said that he did it for our happiness and told me not to be grumpy. I feel wronged and useless, but I still can't help quarreling with him. He broke up with me as soon as he was in a hurry. I never thought he would break up with me. I can't accept it. I knelt down and begged him not to leave me. I said it was my fault. He said at that time that he didn't want to be separated from me either. I thought it was because I was oversensitive.

Later, I was promoted and my salary went up. I asked him when he was going to get married. He hesitated for a long time and finally said let me give him some time to discuss with his parents. I was so happy.

That was the first time I met his parents. His family conditions are actually ok. His parents are retired workers. As soon as his mother saw me, she took my hand and asked questions. At that time, I felt that I had met a good husband's family. She also took my hand and said that she wanted to eat my cooking. I didn't think so much at that time, so I readily agreed. She kept telling me what her boyfriend likes and dislikes, and then at dinner, she said I was.

Although it was strange at the time, I couldn't say it, so I didn't take it to heart. After a night, we came back the next day.

After coming back, my boyfriend told me that his parents agreed to our marriage. Let me talk to my parents. My parents asked him how much bride price he was going to give. It doesn't matter how much my parents say, what matters is his mind, and he always responds. After meeting my parents, I planned the wedding with great expectation.

My parents have been confiscating the bride price and asked me to ask my boyfriend. At that time, he said that according to the custom of his hometown, the bride price was given only the day before the wedding, which reassured me. But unexpectedly, on the eve of the wedding, my parents had not seen the bride price, and at this time my parents had told all my relatives and friends about my marriage.

I had to call my boyfriend out and ask him what was going on. Unexpectedly, he brought his mother with him. His mother changed her previous smile and stared at me with an ugly face. I don't know what I did wrong. She said, "Why the bride price?" I refuse to accept it. Before I could speak, his mother said, "It's good for my son to marry a woman like you!" " I was at a loss and asked her, "What kind of woman am I?" His mother called me shameless, cohabited with a man before marriage, and had to pay a bride price for five years, calling me wishful thinking!

I looked at my boyfriend in disbelief. Unexpectedly, he said, "Forget it, my mother is right. The bride price is just a form. We have been together for a long time. Being deadlocked is not good for you. " I cried at that time. I looked at my boyfriend as if I were a stranger. I think my efforts are a joke. I regret wasting my youth on such a man.

In a rage, I poured a glass of water on my boyfriend and turned around and left. When I came back, I told my parents about it, and my parents insisted on canceling the wedding, saying that such a man could not marry.

Although this matter has passed, I still feel bitter in my heart. I hate being blind.

This reader's story is not uncommon, but many women still make this mistake, so I think it is necessary to write it. Once a woman is moved by feelings, it is easy to plunge into it and pay for a man who has no bottom line. You'll hurt yourself in the end.

Many people ask me if I want to live together before marriage. In fact, cohabitation before marriage is very risky. No matter for men or women, the one who loses the most is always the one who has no bottom line. If two people live together for a long time, there will definitely be contradictions, which is very risky for women.

If a man really loves you, he won't wait until everything is ready to marry you. A man who really loves you will only cherish your efforts more, because he loves you more because of your efforts. The man who really wants to marry you will not disrespect you and trample on your devotion to him.

Whether in love or marriage, women should understand one thing: as a woman, you can love a man and pay for him, but please don't forget to love yourself and cherish yourself!