Why are you so afraid of being denied by others?

When you are afraid of being denied, it is easy to have a sense of confrontation and insist on defending your subjective views.

So the point is this "fear of being denied" thing. What is this thing?

Perhaps it can be said that this is because a person is used to being denied, and then gives himself a "hint", or feels that some intentional or unintentional behaviors of others have been denied or will be denied by language. What is this phenomenon called again? The story of "suspicious neighbor stealing axe" The name of this story seems to express a story. A person has heard or seen others or his own personal experience, and the axe was stolen. This neighbor represents the neighbor, right? It was the neighbor who did it, so his food, cats and dogs may make up for anything missing. This is a subjective "small mind". Of course, I don't know what this story is really like. ...

If you think it is a kind of "negation" that others disagree with their own views, then this thing, this negation, will happen occasionally, from time to time, and it is often so natural. Why is it called "nature"? One person, two people, three people, in their own position, express their views, no matter how they want to express themselves, no matter how much they see and think of others.

What is the deep fear of "negation"? I am looking for a sense of identity, a sense of security, a concern, understanding, support and support that I am afraid of being regarded as different.

So, if you are like this, so is the second person, and the other person is at a loss in confusion, what kind of result will this produce?

The results are often varied, from this "fear of being denied" consciousness to conflict, or to others?

Affirmation and persistence in the result is another thing that matches it.

Why do you say that? For example.

Xiaoming, Xiaohong and Xiaodong are going to eat. Xiaoming thinks it's good to eat simple and economical fast food. Xiaohong thinks he doesn't want to eat, eat noodles, or eat some mala Tang. Xiao Dong is from Hunan. He usually prefers to go to Maojia restaurant, a Hunan restaurant.

..... oh ...

Three people discuss it together,

One may be due to economic considerations, one is determined by one's own appetite, and the other is based on one's own habits.

Three people don't want to be separated, but they are still separated. Everyone thought it was incredible. They could have eaten together and walked in the park together. They stick to their "results" and eat their own meals.

Of course, this is not to say that the result is not good, right, you know.

It is a rare or common thing here. It is rare and unlikely to happen in eating, but it often happens in the nature of eating. The collision and friction between people's different subjective ideas, the fear of being denied, and the pull of the result can't let go. I don't see more possibilities. ...

Then the problem is coming. What should I do if I encounter this kind of thing or not?

I hope it won't cause you any trouble. If so, you may not know how to end my trouble. Where is it? Stay in Gongzong | troublesome ending method |, but this is a "fishing" and you need to master it yourself.