Why don’t I have any friends?

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Because I am busy and tired, I often stay in front of the computer to make plans or type out articles. More than once, a friend used to examine aliens. He stared at me with eyes like this and said in great surprise: "Oh my God, I've never seen you go out to play with your friends. Won't you get sick if you trap yourself in a 'cage' every day? Be careful that you're 'autistic' even I don’t have any friends either.”

I really couldn’t laugh or cry about this, and I couldn’t understand it. Who says you don’t have friends if you like to be alone?

I once read an article on the Internet. There is a sentence in the article that is very true to my heart. It says, "Between friends, the simpler, the better. If you have anything to do, just contact each other. If there is nothing, everyone should be busy."

I think this is a good attitude towards making friends nowadays. In an increasingly busy and even anxious life, time is divided into countless places, and even reading has become popular in a "fragmented" way. Time is really True scarcity is like a rare treasure. When you are tired, perhaps what you are more willing to do is to read a book or take a long nap, and use time alone to recuperate your body and mind, instead of hanging out with friends, running around, or even drinking and reveling all night long. .

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I have a good friend L who I have been with since junior high school but have not seen each other for many years. When we were still in school, we went to and from get out of class together every day and had meals together. On weekends, we drive together and play together, go shopping and buy clothes, and provide each other with advice. We are like what people call "good friends" in the world, and it's so good.

Later, due to learning differences, we had to go our separate ways, resulting in no contact for a period of time.

But when we found each other from our busy lives, there was no blame, no stranger, we still inquired about each other and talked without barriers as before.

One day L called and asked where I was? I said I was in Guangzhou, and he said with some joy: "I have also come to Guangzhou, and I am ready to settle down in Guangzhou. I rented a shop some time ago and it is currently being renovated. It will be opened in a few days. Come and sit down. ..." I said without hesitation: "No problem!" My heart was full of joy and excitement. We chatted like this for several hours, and when he was about to hang up, he added another sentence: "Write a calligraphy work for me when you have time. Jing and Ren will write it separately. If it's big enough to hang up...", I was a little bit He said ashamedly: "Okay, but I haven't practiced calligraphy for a long time. When I have time, I will practice..." and chatted for a while before hanging up the phone. No matter what happens next, this kind of friendship with no politeness and mutual trust fills the heart with stability and reality.

When I first graduated and started working, a college roommate whom I hadn’t contacted for a long time lost some money because of his brother’s stock trading. His life was in trouble, so he resorted to borrowing money from his network of contacts to make ends meet. Of course, they also called me and asked me how much I could have, and said I would give it to you when my salary came down. Because I was a close friend in college, I said I would try my best, and then I gave 5,000 of whatever I could afford at the time. Yuan turned around. Of course he was as excited as if he had found a life-saving straw. There were probably only a few friends who provided help. Afterwards, he sent a message on WeChat Moments with emotion: "Thank you for not saying anything when I was in such embarrassment." He helped me and came out to eat when I had time. I’ll treat you!”

I left a message at the end: “Then you have to work hard to save money. Next time we meet, I’ll order the most expensive one!” Buddha jumped over the wall!"

A month later, he gratefully returned all the loans and treated him to a feast. Who says you don’t have friends if you like to be alone? A true friend is someone who, even if they rarely meet, still has you in his heart, especially when he has achieved success, he can think of you and share the results with you, or he can do his best when you have difficulties. to help you. 3.

Mr. Zhu Guangqian wrote a passage in "Talk about Making Friends", which I personally like very much. In my opinion, this passage can also be used as a summary of the word friend. He said: "Everyone knows that having a true good friend is a joy in life. Human beings are social animals. They are born with sympathy and need sympathy. Read a good poem and see a beautiful scenery. There was no one around who could tell him, "This is great! "I felt like there was something wrong with it.

When you encounter a big happy event and no one shares your joy, your joy will be reduced by seventy or eight points; when you encounter a big disaster and no one is sad with you, your sorrow will increase by seventy or eight points; a lonely person People can't sing, tell jokes, play ball, dance, quarrel, in short, they can't do anything happy. ”

Fortunately, I would like to thank the old man for writing such a paragraph, which I can use as my own declaration of friendship.

Think about your circle of friends. It is indeed composed of people who once The number of friends has become less and less. I used to think that having many friends is an interpersonal asset. The key is that I was influenced by those old sayings, such as "having more friends makes life easier" and "relying on parents at home and relying on friends when going out" Wait, think about it now, in this era, your down-to-earth efforts are the real assets.

Fortunately, among the few remaining friends, they are becoming more and more important. Because they have me in their hearts, and I have him in my heart, and there is a mysterious tacit relationship between them. ▼4.

Some people may ask, what do you mean? Do good friends have to maintain this kind of relationship? No.

I certainly don’t advocate staying in isolation and relying on this kind of relationship to maintain the distance between friends. Friendship must still be maintained through necessary connections, because everyone has different understandings and views of friendship, and more communication will be a great promotion for the enrichment of the soul and the exchange of ideas.

Remembering that in recent years, I have attended gatherings of some friends one after another. Some of them were just passing by on a business trip and we met each other. Some of them were to catch up after returning from abroad. Some of them were to celebrate the success of the exam together. , some are due to irregular meetings or birthday parties, etc.

I try my best to attend these gatherings. In my opinion, communication is a kind of fun, and the fun in it is. Of course, it is not selfish to find "writing tips". I am just happy to find mutual recognition, mutual love and mutual help, mutual tolerance and understanding between friendships that are so close that there is no barrier. Busy things, listening to what they saw and heard after being separated from me for a long time, and even some complaints and dissatisfaction.

The greatest joy of communication is that you can gain new insights from each other's face-to-face communication. /p>

For example, a male friend will give you some career advice and love experience. You can also talk about your favorite sports stars, your vision and development in life, and you are also likely to discover business experience and cooperation that are not usually available. You may not be able to get these touches even if you read for ten years.

Female friends will pay more attention to life and emotions, and provide you with their own food experiences or travel tips. It can help you find a partner, or tell you which old classmate in your class got married and found what kind of happiness. You can always find a hint of encouragement in it. You must work hard to get out of singles this year.

Look, I’m not necessarily bored just because I’m alone. I’m even so boring that I don’t even have friends. But among all the parties and fun, one thing that needs to be reminded is: the outside world is so big and there are so many friends. Even if you spend your whole life, you may not be able to dig out the tip of the iceberg, and even if you dig out your own heart, you may not be able to find a true good friend. However, it is not necessarily a good thing to retreat to make progress and let your restless heart gain new nutrients in solitude. Bad things