When you are at your lowest point, don’t bother anyone.

Text | Xu Chaomu · Anchor | Han Dan

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Things in the world are unpredictable, life is ups and downs, and anyone can reach the top, and everyone can reach the top. You will accidentally fall into a trough.

Just as Lu Yu said in "Encounter": "No matter who we are, we have all experienced or are experiencing the darkest moments of our lives. It is a long, dark, cold, and desperate road. Tunnel. "

This tunnel is a difficult trough and a trial in life. There is no one around us, and the only one we can rely on is ourselves.

If you want to survive, you must learn to strengthen your heart, save yourself, and don't bother others easily, let alone rely on others at will.

When you are at a low point, human relationships are as thin as paper

In the movie "Flying Life", Zhang Chi was once a famous "car god" and won many rally championships.

Later, he was banned from racing for 5 years and paid a huge amount of compensation for participating in illegal racing.

After the ban was lifted, he wanted to return to the competition, so he went to find his team partners who had been together through life and death, hoping to get vehicle sponsorship.

Unexpectedly, seeing that his glory had faded, those friends were unwilling to lend him their cars.

Mr. Yang Jiang once said: "When you are in a high position, all you see are flashy dreams; when you are in a humble position, you have the opportunity to see the truth of the world."

< p> Indeed, if you are prosperous, many people will try their best to cling to you, but when you are down and out, they will avoid you.

Before Guo Degang became famous, he visited Beijing three times.

He studied under teachers everywhere, but no one thought highly of him. They either asked him to do odd jobs in the theater troupe, or simply turned him away.

Finally, I got an opera singing job and negotiated a price. After he finished singing, the other party turned against him and refused to give him any money.

He once joked about himself at that time: I was willing to be a dog for others, but others were afraid that I would bite him.

These experiences of being left out made him determined to stand out and work hard to make his cross talk better and better.

Nowadays, he has become a very important figure in the cross talk world. There is no longer any cold eyebrows. Everyone greets him with a smile, respects him and calls him "Teacher Guo".

"Historical Records" says: All the bustle in the world is for benefit, and the hustle and bustle in the world is for benefit.

What can bring people together is often not deep friendship, but mutual interests.

Therefore, if you disturb others during your downturn, not only will you not get much benefit or help, but you will also attract cynicism and even add insult to injury.

Instead of relying on past friendships or seeking help from others, it is better to make yourself stronger.

When you are down, no one understands the joys and sorrows

The writer Maugham said: "Each of us is a product of loneliness on this planet, because we are all experiencing unique Experience. ”

Because of this uniqueness, there is no real empathy between people, and we can only spend the winter in a lonely world.

After my friend Nannan failed to take the postgraduate entrance examination, she took a job she didn’t like. Her relationship with her boyfriend was in crisis, and she also had constant conflicts with her roommates.

From time to time, she would complain to her colleagues around her, but everyone would just lightly advise her: "What a big deal, just get over it."

Once, she At the door of the company's tea room, I heard my colleagues exaggerating what happened to her and telling others as a joke. From time to time, someone would echo her words: "She is so unlucky.", "She didn't deserve what happened to her."

Only then did she realize that her heart-wrenching experiences were just stories for others.

Xinyiwu said in "Shan Yue Doesn't Know What's in His Heart": "Our hearts, our flesh, grow on each of us. The ups and downs, bitterness and spicyness, and the taste we taste, only we know.

Don't place your hopes on others, don't ask others to understand your feelings, no matter how loud you scream, it will be in vain.

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During the low period, it is best not to disturb others, as no one will feel the same as your pain and despair.

Those who hate you are watching your jokes, and those who hate you are watching your jokes. People who care about you can only increase their worries.

In the novel "My First Half of Life", Luo Zijun, a stay-at-home wife, was betrayed by her husband and kicked out.

Her friend Tang Jing tried her best to help her find a job and a house.

But Zijun would sigh and complain to Tang Jing endlessly every day. Jing couldn't bear the disturbance, and she told Zijun sternly: "You are only allowed to complain for ten minutes a day. You can't wallow in the sea of ??pain and treat it as a kind of enjoyment. ”

When encountering difficulties, not trying to find a way out, but just wallowing and complaining, is the most dishonorable depravity and the most inappropriate interruption.

Some roads can only be walked alone. , some things can only be carried by one person. The only one who can be responsible for our lives is ourselves.

No matter how hard it is, we can only overcome it by ourselves

The recent TV series "An Jia" is popular. , the talk show host Wang Zijian, who has not appeared for a long time, returned to the audience as an actor.

A few years ago, he hosted a well-known program "Tonight's Post-80s Talk Show" on Taiwan. He was full of witty remarks and was affectionately called "Little Prince" by the audience.

His career was at its peak, but he suffered one after another from domestic violence. He also secretly transferred their marital property, and he was forced to leave the house.

At the same time, his program was suspended by the TV station due to unstable broadcast time. .

Wang Zijian, whose relationship was unsatisfactory, his career was gone, and he was almost penniless, not only suffered from insomnia and severe weight loss, but also suffered from severe depression.

He did not publicize his misery. , instead of falling into despair, he worked hard to get his life back on track.

He read a lot of books on psychoanalysis and used the knowledge he learned to save himself while receiving professional advice. After nearly two years of treatment, he finally got out of the bottom

Moreover, he also found a new direction of development and had a broader life.

Sanmao. He once wrote in "Send You a Horse": "How the heart feels, it is like a maze thousands of miles away, in which there is no boat to ferry people, except for crossing by myself, there is nothing others can do to help. ”

No one can save us from fire and water. The real ferryman is always ourselves.

Life is a lonely journey, and everyone has his own difficulties. Only weak people go around talking about their misfortunes, while strong people will grow up quietly.

Don’t give in to life and walk a long road alone; don’t give in to fate and swallow hard things. Suffering will eventually become stronger and stronger.

Only by facing hardships bravely and stepping through them firmly can you live like a mountain. It's a new life

Haruki Murakami said in "Kafka on the Shore": "After the storm is over, you won't remember how you survived, and you won't even be sure that the storm is really over.

But one thing is for sure: when you go through the storm, you are no longer the same person. ”

It is true that only by surviving the darkest moments in life can we gain a better self.

Those wounds licked alone will become the light that will bloom in the future; Only through the lonely and helpless winter nights can we welcome the bright and brilliant spring.

He who helps himself will be helped by God. If he is not impetuous and does not blame others, there will be no insurmountable abyss.

May you and I have the courage to survive the storm and usher in a new life

Background music | "Memories Of Chopin"

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