My brother and sister-in-law quarreled and divorced, and I didn't want to stop the fight!

Since they got married, quarreling is the norm. Perhaps my life experience is not enough, and I don't quite understand why two married people can quarrel every day.

But things in life are reasonable if they exist, and we need to accept things we don't understand.

Yesterday, they quarreled again, saying that they wanted a divorce. My brother told me that they wanted a divorce, and my sister-in-law told me that they wanted a divorce, which was quite a headache.

My elder sister has something to do. Let me go and see what's going on and persuade her to fight.

I don't want to go. I don't want to go at all. I don't think I can handle such a thing well. Even if I go, it won't help.

Sister told me that when you go, you should first explain that you are wrong about things, and admit what is wrong first, so as to maintain a fair position.

As soon as I heard this, I lost control of my emotions, spoke faster and spoke twice louder.

How can I judge the right or wrong in their marriage? I am not qualified to be a judge. I'm just a sister, and I don't have that authority!

besides, if I think one of them is wrong, they may not necessarily think they are wrong.

Besides, if they can realize their mistakes, they don't need any advice from outsiders at all.

The situation now is that they all feel that they are not wrong. If I say that he (she) is wrong, it will simply add fuel to the fire.

when I say that my brother is wrong, he will feel wronged and even his own family will not help him.

if I say that my sister-in-law is wrong, she will think that it is even worse for our brother and sister to unite to bully her.

marriage is like drinking water, and you know it well.

My brother is my relative, but I am just an outsider in their marriage. Only they know what the real situation is. I can't judge who is right or wrong, and I don't want to participate in their lives.

However, there are several lessons to be learned from their marriage.

First of all, present yourself truly in front of the other party, and don't be an actor.

Before we got married, my brother had a tough attitude towards my sister-in-law, and my sister-in-law showed gentleness and obedience to a great extent.

When I went to dinner, I said that my brother would eat whatever he ate. When I went to see my mother, I helped with the cleaning and cooking. When they quarreled, she was the one who let my brother go.

at that time, I was a little uneasy. She was too good, too good to be true, beyond ordinary people.

but my brother said that your sister-in-law didn't mind our family conditions and was willing to live a hard life with me, which was too rare, so they got married.

After marriage, my sister-in-law's personality has undergone a 18-degree change. To put it mildly, she has changed from a slave to a slave owner.

The frequency of quarreling between two people has changed from a big quarrel every five days to a big quarrel every two days, and a small quarrel every day is all about trivial matters.

there must be a reason for my brother's quarrel, which cannot be denied.

But at first, my sister-in-law did too well and expected too much from him, which caused a lot of contradictions between them after marriage.

It is suggested that everyone should be what they are before marriage, and don't hide their own shortcomings and deficiencies, which is not good for both sides.

if a person can't accept your shortcomings and deficiencies, then whether to continue together becomes a matter worthy of careful consideration.

Secondly, marriage is a compromise between two people. As long as it is not a matter of principle, you can make appropriate concessions.

Every time they quarrel, they will try their best to prove that it is the other party's fault, that the other party is not doing well, and that the person who wants to change is the other party, who has been unable to change his character for so many years and refuses to compromise at all.

But home is never a reasonable place. Home is a place to talk about love.

don't always expect the other person to let you go and coax you, and give blindly without returning, and anyone will feel tired and unloved.

In the past, I quarreled with my husband and just waited for him to coax me.

But later, I will slowly hold his hand to show that I am wrong, which makes him understand my tolerance and understanding, and their feelings are getting better and better.

finally, don't get pregnant before marriage, don't get pregnant before marriage, don't get pregnant before marriage, when you haven't decided yet.

I don't mean not to have sex before marriage. I mean not to get pregnant before marriage, especially when you are not ready to spend your life with this man and become a mother.

Originally, love was only between you two, but adding a new life will break many of your plans, and some things will be out of hand.

My brother and my sister-in-law got pregnant before marriage and then got married.

In fact, at that time, they had many contradictions and were not ready to get married, let alone welcome a child.

In the end, everything came, so I had to be in a hurry and deal with it with exhaustion.

in the final analysis, we should treat those closest to us, whether we are partners or relatives and friends, with gentleness, instead of being reckless and hurting each other by virtue of our close relationship.

Marriage is their business after all. Let them decide how to go!

(This is the baby's mood, don't spit if you don't like it)