Does "Don't let the children lose at the starting line" make sense? What do you think of this sentence?

"Don't let the children lose at the starting line", I think this sentence makes no sense. I look at this problem this way:

First, the assumption of the conclusion "Don't let children lose at the starting line" is wrong.

When we come to every conclusion, we are based on some assumption. Similarly, when we judge whether a conclusion is reasonable or not, we should also look at what the hypothesis is.

This premise is that parents in China have a deep-rooted implicit assumption about educating their children: the track assumption.

China's parents have a common, typical and wrong implicit hypothesis: the trajectory hypothesis. The orbit hypothesis directly leads to the typical educational thinking: don't let children lose at the starting line. Those who secretly agree with the track hypothesis believe that life is a long race, and the events of the race are set and there are few winners. So they easily fall into the anxiety of competition and the fear of failure. They may be afraid to try and make mistakes because they are afraid of failure, so they can only run on a track that has been solidified by the outside world step by step.

Is this assumption correct? Not at all. Life is not a long game. Everyone has the right to live the life he wants, instead of being arranged by established social rules or family members.

Jobs once said: Life is a process of connecting dots into lines. Some experiences may not see its significance at first, but they may play a unique role in a few years. You can only connect these points by moving forward. Therefore, life is not a line, but a state in which points are connected into a line and a grid.

Second, parents in China generally have a mentality of keeping up with the joneses in educating their children.

There are friends around me who pay tens of thousands of yuan in tuition fees every year to let their children go to private kindergartens, and also report various interest classes to their children. Some time ago, an article mentioned that a mother with a monthly salary of 20 thousand spent more than 30 thousand on a summer vacation for her children, including various interest classes and handicraft classes. This phenomenon is very common. Vanity girls must buy LV bags when they go out shopping, and their young sisters must take photos to bask in their circle of friends after eating a Michelin meal, all in order to satisfy their vanity and comparison psychology, but they rarely seem to think about those questions that are really meaningful to children: What do children like to do? How to guide children to make their lives meaningful? How to make children become valuable people to society?

Therefore, Chinese parents urgently need to overthrow and rebuild their own educational concept, and must be alert to this kind of comparison psychology, which will not do much good to educate their children, but will produce negative guidance to them.

Third, parents in China have failed to grasp the fundamental problem of educating their children.

Both the trajectory hypothesis and comparative psychology reflect that the general way of thinking of parents in China is comparative thinking, that is, watching other children do what my children do. Under the guidance of this kind of thinking, many parents blindly satisfy their anxiety in constant comparison except comparison and vanity.

For example, some parents and children around me go to high school, and now many high schools have "intensive classes" and so on. Some children don't have enough grades to qualify for intensive classes. However, many parents do not hesitate to go through the back door and find relationships in order to get their children into intensive classes. I don't know, even if their children enter the intensive class, they may be more depressed and tired of learning when faced with classmates several times their own. This behavior reflects parents' behavior under comparative thinking.

This comparative thinking is harmful to people. Contrary to comparative thinking, grasping the essence of things is to peel off the layers of things and go deep into the essence of the problem. Using this way of thinking to guide the education of children, what parents should do is not to rush to send their children to private schools and Olympic math classes, but to think about how to tap their talents and interests, cultivate good habits that can benefit their children for life, and encourage their creativity.

In short, I think there is no "starting line" for children's education. If we really want to find a breakthrough point for children's growth, I think it is "parents' thoughts and patterns."

Do you think the sentence "Don't let children lose at the starting line" makes sense? Welcome to leave your opinion in the comments section.

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