If the pattern determines life, what determines the pattern?

Over the years, we have mentioned one word more and more-pattern.

There is a saying that the stage is as big as the heart.

How big your pattern is, how high your achievements will be. Enlarge the pattern, and your life will have unlimited possibilities.

It is said that pattern determines life, so what determines your pattern?

Mai Shu believes that the so-called pattern is reflected from the depth of your thoughts, the width of your vision, the height of your realm and the breadth of your mind.

The pattern will be innate, but most of it can be cultivated the day after tomorrow.

Many people have a similar idea about reading: I have read so many books, and then I often forget most of them. Is this kind of reading meaningful?

There is an answer on Zhihu, which is recognized by countless people.

In short, the meaning of reading is hidden in every book you have read.

I read a story before, and I was very moved.

A long time ago, a pair of grandchildren were chatting by the river.

Grandson asked: Grandpa, how much do you remember from reading every day? I'm going to forget it anyway, so why watch it?

Grandpa smiled lovingly and said, go and get the bamboo basket with coal. Grandson was puzzled, so he brought the dirty bamboo basket.

Grandpa added: Go to the river to get some water, and the grandson was even more puzzled, but he did it anyway.

Obviously, the bamboo basket won't fit in the water. Grandson asked angrily, Grandpa, what do you want me to do?

Grandpa said: Try again. Repeatedly, the grandson failed to bring water.

Grandpa just smiled and said, look, son, is this the same bamboo basket as before?

Sun Wu was shocked. The bamboo basket that was filled with cinder before has been completely new because it has been washed with clean water for many times.

Grandpa just said:

This is the value of reading.

After reading a book, it is almost impossible to get knowledge supplement and spiritual sublimation immediately. But every time you finish reading a book, it will secretly change you.

I like this passage by writer San Mao very much:

People who like reading have profound thoughts, wise words and naturally enlarged patterns.

If reading is shuttling between lines, look at the world of words. That trip was to learn from famous mountains and rivers and to see the world in the four seas and eight wastes. Reading is an inward search, and traveling is an outward extension.

A person's vision is often related to the world he sees, which determines his cognition and perspective.

There is an old joke.

In winter, three old people squatted in the corner together, basking in the sun and chatting about their ideals.

The old man who picked up the dung said: If I become the emperor, I will order all the dung on the east side of this street to belong to me, and whoever picks it up will send officials to catch it.

The old man who cut wood glared at the old man who picked up dung and said, you know how to pick up dung. If I become an emperor, I will hit a golden axe and use it to cut wood every day.

Hearing this, the beggar laughed and burst into tears. He said, you two are really low-level! Do you still need to work when you become an emperor? If I become an emperor, I will do nothing but sit by the fire and eat baked sweet potatoes every day.

After reading this story, it is estimated that everyone will show a contemptuous smile in their hearts. The pattern of three old men is actually half a catty.

The so-called summer insects can't talk about ice, and well frogs can't talk about Shanghai. This is a fact. If our vision is limited, what we see will be magnified and become a problem rather than a problem.

Why do more and more people want to study in big cities now?

Because going to a big city:

Vision often determines the pattern, and the pattern determines the height of life.

If you don't go out, you think you are in contact with the whole world.

When it comes to studying thousands of books and taking Wan Li Road, I think there is still an important link missing, that is, a famous teacher leading the way.

In our life, we will meet many people, some will help you and some will teach you a lesson. But there will always be one or two people who will bring you a lot of gains and become your life's bole and career's guiding light.

I believe everyone has read the following classic story.

There are three construction workers on the construction site. They are building a wall together in * * *.

One day? A reporter went to the construction site for an interview and asked three people the same question: What are you doing?

Without looking up, the first builder said angrily, "You don't even know this? We are building a wall! "

The second builder looked up and replied, "We are building a house."

The third construction worker sang while working and enthusiastically said:

We are building a very beautiful house. In the near future, it will become a beautiful garden where people will live happily.

The reporter found the answers of the three construction workers very interesting and wrote them into his own report.

A few years later, when the reporter was sorting out the past interview records, he suddenly saw these three answers. So he is curious to see how these three construction workers are doing now.

To his great surprise, the first man is still a builder who can only build walls. The second man became the captain of the construction team, and the third man was the boss of a real estate company. The first two people worked for him.

I think this is the level of the realm.

Sun Tzu's art of war has a cloud: take it and you will get it; Take it, take it; Take it, and you'll get nothing!

This means:

The realm is determined by a person's attitude and the depth of seeing the problem.

Different perspectives lead to different realms, and a person's realm directly affects his future.

Nine times out of ten things in life are unpleasant. If you want to be happier, don't think about it, think about it often.

If you do well, others will be jealous of you, then do it to the extreme, crush it with strength and dump him for dozens of streets. If you don't do well, people will make fun of you and say that you don't do anything all day and can't do anything.

No one said who behind his back, and no one said who in front.

Therefore, whether we do well or not, others will gossip, which is beyond your control. But you can adjust your mood and open your mind.

The story of Han Xin, almost a household name, is the founding hero of the Western Han Dynasty. He is good at using soldiers and is praised as a "soldier fairy" by later generations.

But Han Xin was down and out in his early years, and often ate the last meal without the next.

One day, Han Xin met some gangsters in the street. They saw Han Xin with a long sword around his waist, and wanted to see how brave he was.

A punk stopped Han Xin in downtown and said, "Draw your sword and stab me if you have courage;" If you are a coward, get under my crotch. "

The onlookers knew that this was a deliberate act of finding fault and humiliating Han Xin, and they didn't know what Han Xin would do. See Han Xin thought for a moment, without saying a word, just emerged from the man's crotch.

Everyone present at that time laughed and thought that Han Xin was a timid person with no courage.

Later, Han Xin helped Liu Bang conquer the world, and he was also named King Chu. When he returned to Chu again, he summoned the gangsters who insulted him. At that time, the gangster was probably scared to pee.

But surprisingly, Han Xin did not kill him, but made him an official and told the generals:

This is the story of "leg humiliation" handed down later.

Everyone is proud, and Han Xin is no exception.

But he is rational, and he knows there is no need to get angry with street hooligans. If the plan is quick, killing is undoubtedly making trouble for yourself, as long as you don't argue with him.

The ancients said, "You can only be a gentleman if you can tolerate a villain."

So, what about being bitten by a mad dog? You can't bite back, otherwise what's the difference between you and a mad dog?

Or Ma Yun said it well: "A person's mind is wronged. The more wronged, the bigger the mind."

A person who cares about the world will not lose his mind for the gain and loss of one thing. He has a clear goal, a firm belief and fights for it to the end.

Only by standing high can a person see far.

The books you read, the roads you walk, and the people you meet will all affect your mind and get closer to the pattern.

How big your mind is, how much you have achieved.

Life is like a chess game, and your victory or defeat will be decided by the pattern of this chess game. To win the final result, the key is to grasp every movement.

Only the big realm can have a big mind, and the big pattern can make great achievements. What kind of pattern, what kind of fate.