My father is eighty years old, and his property and deposits are delayed. How does the child gently bring it up?

Are you in a hurry? Don't worry, it's yours. Nobody can afford it. You can't argue without it.

I especially understand the landlord. If you don't explain the aftermath, it will be really annoying. Don't think that just because you are an only child, it is all yours. That may not be true. First of all, look at whether your mother is here, whether your grandparents are still alive, and if not, you need to provide a series of information such as death certificates. If so, your father's legacy is part of your parents. After grandparents died, this part of the inheritance needs to be shared with other brothers and sisters. That's called chaos. If grandparents don't know their brains, it's even more troublesome. Alas, if they don't know the bank password and then do notarization, if there are no uncles and grandfathers at home and no letters of introduction, then my father will be more lively if he has a mistress, and he will have to prove that his second marriage has no children. You'd better go to the notary office to find out.

It's really hard to ask. Although my father says he is eighty years old, he is still strong. If I bring it up, I'm afraid it will cause unhappiness, especially because I don't want to be an outcrop. What I am most afraid of is not to annoy my father because of this, and the property at home will not reach my own hands. In fact, my father's plan may be that if the will is written early, won't the rest of the day's income be ruined? However, your father should also take care of his childhood feelings. Will the 80-year-old person who hasn't written his will have his property and certificate of deposit corrected? Is this still rare in society now? The children are in pain because they are fighting for property. What brothers and sisters are thrown far away, and the family ties are forgotten. What's more, the dead are put aside, and the brothers and sisters get together to divide the property, and they are very busy. Only the little wealth left by the old people is left in my mind. So is the old man. Why not divide the industry while you are alive? Don't rest until you die Hahaha, tolerate the unbearable things in the world and laugh at the ridiculous people in the world! Let it be! If there is a good family, there will be Qing Yu, but if there is a bad family, there will be more pain in my heart!

I have never done such a thing, and I have no experience to teach you. I'm really sorry.

In Suzhou, there is a saying in the family tradition: a good man does not expect to be rich and wealthy; A good woman doesn't expect a dowry to last a lifetime.

Therefore, it is the freedom and power of the elderly to give their property to the people they love and to the people they want to give. If you don't remember the property of the elderly in good faith and want to keep it for yourself, you will be struck by lightning!

With the teachings of grandfathers, children in Suzhou families can only enjoy themselves with peace of mind if they work hard and earn money by themselves.

After cooking, the first one will be given to the elderly at home, and the rest will go to myself, his wife and children …

I'm really sorry that I didn't help you with your advice and fortune, but I also said so much …

Excuse me! Excuse me!

When the old man is 80 years old, he should tell his family about his bank card, passbook password and other things, as well as the real estate under his name. It is best to give an explanation to the younger generation in advance!

After all, if something happens to him one day, these sequelae, such as inheritance notarization, will be quite troublesome!

My father is 8 1 year-old, but he is as wary of us as a thief to every relative. As long as we mean it, he always deliberately changes the subject.

He agreed to leave the property to his nephew, but he changed his mind two days ago. He said that he could live to be 100 years old, and would not consider the distribution of his inheritance until he fell ill at the age of 99. Let cousin have a good time!

My wife is angry, too: my 80-year-old father actually left his inheritance to his nephew instead of his only daughter!

She asked me to stay in Fuzhou and take good care of the elderly with my nephew-we can't bear the stigma of "unfilial" innocently any more!

In fact, after my mother-in-law died in the Spring Festival in 2005, considering that the old man was lonely in Guangdong, we offered to let him come to Suzhou with us to help look after the children.

But he didn't want to. He found many reasons. In fact, his idea is different from ours. He wanted to find a wife as soon as possible, but because of the traditional thinking of Hakka, he left Jieyang. With the money he earned from doing business after retirement, he bought a two-bedroom apartment at a unit price of more than 5,000 yuan in Baoan District, Shenzhen in March 2005.

Young people go to Shenzhen to start a business, and old people go to Shenzhen to find wives-maybe it is more appropriate to find women. Because since 2005, Shenzhen housing prices have soared, and his heart began to swell.

He thinks it is not cost-effective to find a wife to get married, because at least half of the house will belong to the other party in the future. As a result, he began to be keen on finding a lover, but after all, Shenzhen is the world of young people, and no matter how arrogant a woman is, she will not find an old man who is nearly seventy years old as a lover.

After staying in Shenzhen for five years, I was still alone. The consumption level in Shenzhen was too high, so I went back to my hometown Jieyang on 20 10. We asked him again: I wanted to come to Suzhou to live with us, but he flatly refused!

Anyway, the old man has always been in good health and can take care of himself. The 80-year-old man rode a bicycle faster than the young man and helped to be on duty in the community during the epidemic. These are also quite gratifying.

However, the old man's "playboy" remains the same. He buys food from the roadside, cleans the streets, and even the next-door neighbors. He will hook up with others when he has the chance.

Last month, he hooked up with a married woman in her sixties and took her home. I didn't know her husband found out, so he came to wrestle with you. ...

The old man was pushed down and fractured, and finally he had to be hospitalized. This is the first time he has been hospitalized in 20 years since he retired. Originally, my wife and I wanted to come and visit him immediately, but the old man's nephew in Fuzhou knew about it and drove him back to Fuzhou for treatment overnight.

We are still not at ease. I flew back to Fuzhou from Dali, Yunnan at the beginning of this month to accompany my cousin to take care of my father.

The night before yesterday, the old man told me that he was going to die at my nephew's house and all his property would be left to my nephew! Mainly because he may have been bewitched by my nephew, saying that my wife was originally supported, not her own, and the Hakka custom is to pass on the property to the blood relatives!

My wife flew into a rage and asked me to stay in Fuzhou and take care of the elderly with my cousin. And give me some advice:

1, negotiate with the elderly and cousins, and our two families will share the obligations of caring for the elderly and supporting them in the future, and the property will also be shared;

2. Try to do their ideological work well and give us a reasonable distribution plan: give her the house in Shenzhen, give her cousin the house in Jieyang, the deposit will be used for the medical and nursing expenses of the elderly in the future, and the rest will be divided equally;

3. The most valuable legacy of the elderly is the central house in Baoan District, Shenzhen. Now the market value is about 7 million. Must fight, because in the process of buying a house in 2005, she secretly took out 30 thousand pieces of private money to her father.

But the problem is that this house was bought in full by the old man in his own name after his mother-in-law died. Legally speaking, he can give it to whoever he wants, even the nanny. So my first task in Fuzhou is to try my best not to let the old man make a will for this suite to my nephew;

4. Ask me not to go back to Dali to lie flat, and go to Osaka to lie flat after getting the inheritance.

Of the above four points, to be honest, the third one interests me most-this house in Shenzhen is too valuable! In addition, the nature of this house is different from that of Jieyang. Half of the property rights of Jieyang house belong to her mother-in-law, which needs complicated inheritance procedures to obtain.

But as long as he makes a will for the house in Shenzhen, he will legally support the judgment!

Although the old man is over 80 years old, he is confused about small things and shrewd about big things. It's wishful thinking to transfer the house directly to others in your lifetime! Because he is worried that once the house is given to others, it will be swept out of the house.

Therefore, my cousin will definitely try to fool the old man into making a will and take the house in Shenzhen as his own.

Last night, I stayed up late to learn the new inheritance law and learned the latest policy. I just tried to play it by ear: I encouraged the old man to make a will for my cousin without telling my wife, and suggested going to the notary office for notarization, so that my cousin could have a reassurance first!

Once my cousin gets a notarized will, he will treat the old man differently and will not support him wholeheartedly, so it's my turn to show it.

I must serve the old man wholeheartedly, impress him, and finally beg him to make a new will (just say it by video) and give me the house in Shenzhen directly, because according to the latest inheritance law, the last will shall prevail (the old man doesn't understand, but only comforts me because I haven't asked for notarization yet).

In this way, the will given to my cousin before is actually invalid. ...

On my wife's side, I will pretend that the old man really can't stand his cousin's weakness and made a will to give his cousin the house in Shenzhen.

My wife and cousin are thousands of miles apart, and because their interests are different now, it is estimated that they will not contact each other, so this secret will not be exposed!

Finally, the property right of this house belongs to an outsider! [yi tooth]

Hold your breath, don't worry, this is your territory.

Parents' real estate is worthless and their savings are not much. Many people advised him to give it to his children until he suddenly became demented at the age of 85. My sisters and I take turns to look after it. At first, they didn't want to care about money. Dad put the cash firmly on him and counted it everywhere. After a few days, the money became less and less. When he had to pay a sum of money, it disappeared. It was not until he saw that the cash could not be kept that he began to take over a small amount. Later, it was found that he emptied the drawer where he kept his passbook every day. My father has never paid attention to the economy, so the old man refused to disclose it, and his children could only help the old man live. Many of his peers have told him that my parents' brothers and sisters and cousins have told him that it is even more useless to mention children.

Since the statistics of Qin and Han dynasties, the average life expectancy is often between 30 and 50 years old. That's why we have the admiration that "life is seventy years old and rare". Even extravagant emperors, only five people lived to be over 80 years old in history.

Of course, with the improvement of living standards and medical conditions, the average life expectancy has exceeded 77 years.

In ancient times, when people were over 60, they would worry about whether the shoes they took off tonight could be put on tomorrow morning. Nowadays, people who live to the age of 80 abound, and centenarian villages are all over the country. This may be the reason why some 80-year-old people are not in a hurry to make a distribution will for their property.

But the reality is that people who live to be over 90 years old are, after all, a minority. Your father may have his difficulties and reasons for not wanting to distribute the property. The story of the wall is a big lesson!

But nothing can pass. After 80 years old, you are as mature as a cucumber, and your death may happen at any time. If you don't explain your inheritance in advance, it will inevitably lead to infighting among your children, all of whom are like black-eyed chickens, which is not cost-effective. The older people get, the more stubborn they become, and so do many "fellow villagers". Persuasion of later generations is useless and even counterproductive.

Personally, I think that at the age of 80, I should have a clear will on my own affairs (including property distribution), so as to prevent my descendants from turning against each other for the inheritance after my death, which is not worth it.

Why did the child bring it up? Is it urgent? If there is no will before death, it will be inherited according to the inheritance law, aboveboard and put on the table. It is wise and helpless for an 80-year-old father not to explain. If you confess, the children will fight and fight, and there will never be peace!

Seeing this question, I remembered the true story of a relative's family.

The old man died at the age of ninety, and the old lady died ten years earlier than the old man. In other words, the old man has been taken care of by his daughters since he was 80 years old.

Old people started to work earlier, their retirement salary was higher, their medical expenses were paid in full, and they had some savings.

It is mainly the second daughter who takes care of the elderly. Because the younger daughter is older and unmarried, she has been living with her father, but she has not retired. She goes out early and returns late every day. The eldest daughter is nearly seventy years old and in poor health. She visits her father once or twice a week, and her third daughter goes to work in other places after retirement, and basically does not participate.

He was diagnosed with lung cancer at the age of 87. During the illness, the second daughter was the main care, and the younger daughter also took time off to accompany her in the last few months. The old man said nothing about the distribution of the inheritance, but often recited the name of his little daughter, saying what would she do if he left? In fact, the youngest daughter is almost 50 years old, but it seems that a person is not married.

The doctor gave several critical notices, and the old man's condition went from bad to worse. One day, the son-in-law who suddenly gathered several daughters said that he would hold a family meeting. As a result, he only said one topic about inheritance at the meeting, that is, the house he lives with his little daughter will be owned by her in the future. Everyone has no objection to this. Other property was not mentioned again, and several daughters and sons-in-law looked at each other, but it was not convenient to ask, so the matter had to be put down again.

A few months later, the old man left. The youngest daughter is the main undertaker, and the old man's salary passbook and so on are in her hand. There are hundreds of funeral subsidies alone, so the expenses are also paid by the younger daughter. After the funeral, everyone returned to normal life. Regarding the old man's legacy and the rest of the funeral expenses, the younger daughter also said nothing.

Now the sisters are quitting. The second daughter said, I have taken care of my father for so many years, and I have to have one anyway; The eldest daughter told her that her father gave her 5000 yuan every month when he was alive. My third daughter is very angry. If I knew so much, I would have taken care of it, because her salary for working outside the home is less than 5000 yuan. Although she didn't take care of it, she should have a share according to the inheritance law. The second daughter said that 5000 yuan included the living expenses, and it was not much except the living expenses ... It was very noisy. The original harmonious sisterhood has now become tit for tat.

Let's go back to the subject's question: my father is 80 years old, and the deposits and real estate under his name are delayed. How does the child gently bring it up?

This problem is really tricky. Just like the example above, the death of the old man may cause a lot of trouble. But if you don't mention it well, the old man will have a feeling of urging him to distribute the inheritance, which will lead to psychological discomfort or conflict with his children.

So how do you put it euphemistically? The author believes that the following measures can be taken.

Please come forward with relatives of the same generation and good relationship with the elderly. As a peer, I mentioned this age, so it is more acceptable for the elderly to make arrangements for the aftermath in advance.

The oldest child or someone trusted by the elderly stepped forward. Let's talk about the inheritance distribution of the elderly in other families first, and suggest that the elderly can make some arrangements for this matter in advance.

When it is inconvenient to talk about such topics with the elderly, brothers and sisters can discuss a plan first, and try to be fair and just according to how much they usually take care of the elderly. Once an old man dies, he won't be caught off guard.

What do friends think of this method?