I have been biting my nails and fingers. From a few years old to more than 30 years old now, I have been biting my nails, especially before the age of 20, and I often bite my nails and bleed. ...

Peter, an American psychologist, believes that about half of the people in the world are prone to abuse. They feel that they are full of shortcomings, everything goes against their wishes, they lose confidence, and they are willing to let others put pressure on them.

Recently, the word "self-abuse" is very popular, and stars always come up with the trick of "self-abuse" to make more people

Pay attention to yourself, even travel agencies have launched "self-abuse tours" in their tourist routes to attract customers. Some people even post some experiences of self-abuse and love abuse or some pictures of "suicide and self-mutilation" on the Internet to communicate with more people and set up their own special websites and clubs. Zheng Xiaohua, chief expert of Changchun Psychological Hospital and director of Changchun Institute of Mental Health, said in an interview that this abuse of "self-abuse" for hype is not conducive to people's mental health.

Masochists don't want to open up.

Since divorcing her husband, Ms. Pei has always felt that she can't do anything, thinking that the fault of divorce is entirely her own, and she is unhappy all day. Once when she was sewing, she was accidentally pricked by a needle. At that time, she felt that this feeling was wonderful and made her feel very comfortable. So every few days, she pricks herself with a needle. After a long time, she felt that acupuncture was not enough, so she tried to bury the first needle in her body. She thinks that needles feel better in the body than acupuncture. In this way, every five or six days, she buried a needle in her body until the last needle pierced the sciatic nerve, which made her unable to walk normally. She went to the hospital for treatment. At that time, more than 30 needles had been buried in her body.

Some people know that they have a masochistic mentality or tendency. Professor Zheng Xiaohua told reporters that masochists never reveal their feelings to others. Some people worry that others will laugh at or don't understand their practices when they know, and they will be opposed by others. Therefore, they are always silently suffering from the pleasure of self-abuse. If the needle didn't affect her normal life, a patient like Ms. Pei wouldn't ask for help. But as family members or friends, we should help patients get out of this bad psychological state in time after discovering the problem.

Self-discipline and self-harm are not equal to self-abuse.

Some people will study all night in the face of exams, do not rest on time, and do not eat on time; Some people control their appetite in order to lose weight, even if they are hungry. Or when you break up with your lover, you will take some extreme measures, such as burning with cigarette butts, not eating, not sleeping, and pricking with needles, just to make the other person blame himself and change his mind. Professor Zheng said that in fact, these practices are not a manifestation of self-abuse, but a manifestation of self-discipline and self-harm. There is an essential difference between true self-abuse and these behaviors. Self-abuse, including physical self-abuse and mental self-abuse, is a kind of behavior or way imposed on yourself when you are depressed, and it is a kind of abnormal psychology. Most masochists don't agree with themselves, they mean to punish themselves, and it is difficult to get rid of them in other ways. They get spiritual pleasure, and the abused dare not say "no" or "pain". Self-mutilation and self-discipline have a certain purpose, which is a temporary pain to achieve a certain purpose or goal.

Never imitate self-abuse.

Mr. Zhang overheard a friend talking about self-abuse websites. Out of curiosity, he also visited the self-abuse websites. At that time, he saw some photos and posts of self-abuse, and he felt that the people who did this were really stupid, abnormal and even abnormal. After a long time, he made a big mistake in his work and was severely criticized by the leaders of the unit and by the whole company. He couldn't get rid of his anguish, and suddenly he thought of the photos he saw on the Internet stabbing himself in the leg with a knife. So he quickly found his own fruit knife, mercilessly, and stuck it down. For the first time, he felt very painful, not as painful as he thought, but slowly, he felt that the knife no longer hurt, but the coolness of the knife sliding across the skin was very cool. Later, every ten days or so, he couldn't wait to feel the coolness.

Professor Zheng said that many people who abuse themselves learn to abuse themselves through imitation. Now, we should not easily read or even imitate such websites and posts, which will easily lead to bad psychological hints. In addition, people have different feelings about this practice. If you follow it, you may not find the pleasure you want, which will make you regret it more easily, and your sense of inferiority will be further aggravated, thus entering a vicious circle.

Talking will free you from self-abuse.

A netizen who often abused himself posted on the Internet, saying, "When mental self-abuse can't get rid of the present pain, the body becomes a walking corpse that even he hates. So I tortured my body, anesthetized my nerves with alcohol, blackened my lungs with smoke, tortured my stomach with hunger, and eroded my god with crazy staying up late. In addition to taking drugs, I tried every means to torture myself, only hating that I was not dead. "

Professor Zheng said that people who have a tendency to be abused are suffering and want to get rid of this tendency as soon as possible. However, it is not enough to just smash things and shout. The way to get rid of this feeling completely is to improve your self-confidence, don't criticize yourself in everything, learn to analyze and look at problems objectively and comprehensively, and more importantly, learn to communicate with others, express your confusion and dissatisfaction to others, and avoid masochism and masochism.

Professor Zheng said that people with masochistic tendencies and masochistic psychology should not be afraid, so don't shut themselves off. When individuals can't get rid of this kind of psychology, they must seek medical advice in time. With the help of doctors, they can completely get rid of this bad psychological state. Don't be afraid of medical treatment.