No matter how well the old man speaks or refuses to go to a nursing home, an 80-year-old woman: the instinct of life is to survive.

(A) the elderly do not want to live in a nursing home full of decadent atmosphere.

I have read a book about how to face death before, which explains why the old people don't want to live in a nursing home, because the smell of decay is everywhere and the room remains unchanged. Every once in a while, an old man dies, and the feeling of living in a nursing home is to move to the crematorium and wait in line ... every day, looking at the people around you, suddenly one day passes ... the psychological pressure can't bear it.

In the conversation with the elderly in the nursing home, I heard the words of the old man's heartbreak.

"What kind of life is to live."

Living in a nursing home is no different from waiting to die. Anyone who can walk will definitely live at home. If you don't go in at ordinary times, please take turns to take care of the two aunts. You can always find time to see it yourself on weekends.

It is better for children to provide for the aged than for nursing homes. Most importantly, staying with young people is completely different from staying among a group of old men and women.

(2) The nursing home is actually a river and lake!

Between the elderly, between the elderly and caregivers, between caregivers and caregivers, between caregivers and leaders, between caregivers and their families, between hospital leaders and their families, this interpersonal relationship is subtle and unpredictable!

A nursing home is a place where people with different backgrounds and personalities gather together. To put it bluntly, it is a small river lake. Where there are rivers and lakes, there are strong and weak points. Here, there are no children, no rich capital, only being bullied, and it is still the kind of ravages that are knocked out and swallowed.

The contempt chain of nursing homes: the elderly whose children often visit > the elderly who can call their children quickly by telephone > the elderly whose children are difficult to call in other places > the elderly who have no children at all.

Old people who have no children at all are really cautious in nursing homes. No one dares to provoke them, even the old people in the next bed, because others can ask their children to support them.

As for the care workers, I dare not provoke them, because I have no strength to get out of bed and walk, and I will never be able to defend my rights on my own.

(3) There are many things in nursing homes.

Working in a nursing home during menstruation. Menstruation says that it is inconvenient for some elderly people to urinate, and nursing staff will not feed too much, just not hungry. The nursing union tied up some old people and prevented them from walking around at will, which was convenient for management. Don't think that the leaders of nursing homes will take care of it, and if they know it, they will pretend not to see it. Some caregivers who are not toys beat and scold the elderly and drag them to the unattended toilet. The elderly and children reported that neither the caregivers nor the hospital admitted that the elderly were confused and had to be monitored and could not see anything. If they don't live, they will leave, that's all. Of course, rich people are comfortable everywhere. You can choose a big room facing the sun and open a small stove to order food. I have seen the video taken by my mother. If you have no money, don't consider going to a nursing home.

(4) Money is useless at this time!

Disabled childless old people, if they are still rich, are like three-year-old children crossing the market with gold.

If the child suddenly loses his parents and has no guardian, all the parents' property will be entrusted to the kindergarten for custody and withheld and remitted according to the needs of the kindergarten.

What do you think will happen to this child?

Don't say that kindergartens manage property, even if many uncles and aunts manage property, terrible things will happen.

After the elderly are disabled, their physical strength and intelligence begin to deteriorate rapidly, and the ability of the disabled elderly to survive in society is almost the same as that of a three-year-old child.

It is absolutely impossible to have no guardian at this time.

At this time, the significance of children's existence is not only to pay for living expenses, but also to be a potential deterrent and restraint force for nursing homes.

Your children may not make a scene in nursing homes, or seek the exposure of journalists, but they need this potential.

Just like a nuclear weapon, you may never need it, but you can't live without it.

Money can solve many problems, but it can't solve all problems, because people are in charge of money in the end.

(5) Dink is telling jokes when he goes to a nursing home when he is old.

Dinks who were alive and kicking when they were young and didn't want to get married or even married and had no children said that they could go to nursing homes for the elderly when they were old, which was just a joke.

No matter how much money you have, when you can't go out to buy things and cook, even if you can afford a full-time nanny, can the nanny bully you on purpose?

What's wrong with bullying you? No one will stand up for you anyway! At that time, money will have no real effect on you, but will bite back.

Having your own children may not be good for you when you are old, but once outsiders dare to bully you when you are old and weak or even greedy for your money, your children will immediately stand up and support you. . . This is the real meaning of raising children to prevent old age.

Maybe you won't realize the misery when you are old and disabled. Imagine that when a young man is sick and can't get out of bed, eating and bathing are all problems, and life will be chaotic immediately?

(6) The instinct of life is to survive!

Some people say that they are puzzled by this "loss of quality of life" but still alive, and I understand.

But the so-called life, its instinct is to survive, at least for most people. You often don't have the courage to choose to end when your consciousness and body are still normal. But when you can't stand the pain, you have lost the ability to choose to end it.

As for euthanasia, it is another complicated issue, namely, legal identity, cultural identity and attitude towards family.

(7) This is the trend of society. You and I will go to the nursing home. How can we change the status quo?

1, the guardian of the child is the parents, but what if the parents abuse the child? Don't say all parents love their children. In fact, there are many parents who abuse their children. Foreign countries have special child protection organizations set up by the government to supervise parents.

For nursing homes, the state should also have relevant supervision departments, and the corresponding responsible persons should regularly visit and inspect the situation of nursing homes. If the elderly have any opinions or are hurt or abused, they can complain.

2. Improve the treatment of nursing workers and make them cherish this job. When recruiting nursing staff, at least choose people with normal personality. Regularly train and learn nursing workers, including nursing skills and psychological counseling, so that nursing workers can have at least professional ethics and literacy.

3. Install monitoring for the elderly's rooms, and the regulatory authorities can conduct spot checks at any time. High-end nursing homes, high-end should not only be reflected in hardware facilities, but also include the quality of personnel and services.

4. Decorate the room with the most memorable things in the family and get a pet.

5, and kindergarten * * * built, there are old people and children * * * with the park; The data shows that the vitality of the elderly has improved.

My humble opinion, if you think it is wrong, please correct me in the comments section.