How many sons does the old man have but no one to raise them?

Nowadays, most families are only children. First, because of the previous family planning, and second, because of the current pressure of life, the growth of newborns after the release of the second child is not too obvious. However, many parents, especially the older generation, still feel that having children is necessary. One more child is not only the companionship of each other, but also the guarantee of future pension.

That's true, but parents can live comfortably after seeing so many people mediating family disputes and not seeing many children. The most chilling event I have ever seen. The old lady gave birth to four children, and even the old house was demolished. In the end, not only did not a suite write its own name, but the children also pushed it around and refused to support it. Giving up filial piety has nothing to do with the poor and the rich, because more children tend to have a psychological effect on each other, thus shirking the responsibility of support.

The more children there are, the less parents provide for the elderly? Psychological proof: Yes.

Bystander effect-dispersion of responsibility

This effect comes from a psychological experiment. The researcher asked a group of people to set up a discussion group with their mobile phones, and one of them was an insider arranged in advance. When chatting with others, the insider will show uncomfortable symptoms such as asthma as planned, depending on the reaction of others.

The results show that the more people, the worse the effect of asking for help. On the contrary, when there is only one person and an insider for a while, they take a very decisive way and immediately carry out rescue. This is the bystander effect. The more onlookers there are, the slower they react when they decide to help each other.

The same is true for families. Old people who obviously have three or four children are not supported in the end. It is because there are many children that there is a bystander effect between them. They think that their parents are not only children, and if they don't do it themselves, other brothers and sisters will do it. Putting the responsibility on others, so it is also called responsibility diffusion.

With more children, the pressure will be dispersed and the responsibilities will be dispersed accordingly.

Most families want to have more children. To put it bluntly, the reason is that they want to have more security when they support the elderly, but their purpose is not pure, and the result is naturally disappointment. Parents think that there is only one child, and when they support their parents in the future, the economy may be very tight and no one will share it. If you have several brothers and sisters, you can take turns to take care of each other and chip in, so that the pressure will not fall on only one person, and it will be easier accordingly.

But at the same time, everyone's responsibilities are also dispersed accordingly, which is easy to cause everyone to shirk their responsibilities. Always think about others taking more responsibility, then you avoid some, then your parents will be kicked around like "balls"

Parents shouldn't have children for the sake of providing for the elderly.

Having said that, the most important thing in raising a child is to bring him up. If we just gather people to support ourselves in the future, the result will be disappointing.

Having children is the continuation of parents' love. As long as the education is good, why worry that no one will raise it in the future?