To what extent can relatives hurt you?

In fact, the people who hurt you the most are often relatives. We usually get together with our relatives, but the relationship between relatives is often the most realistic and hypocritical.

First, the affection between relatives is indifferent

Why do you say this? First of all, we all feel that relatives are easy to get close to and understand, giving people a warm feeling. But in practice, there will be many problems. Many brothers and sisters who are related by blood think that we are a family, so they do whatever they want with their relatives around them, thinking that relatives will not care. But it is such a thought that it often hurts people's hearts.

There is selfishness between brothers and sisters. If parents have some property, they will fight for it, have no affection at all, and become like enemies. Other brothers and sisters usually like parties, and you come and go. On the surface, everyone has a good relationship and makes people feel very United. But when faced with interests and responsibilities, they choose to stay away on the grounds of excuses. Some brothers and sisters are too poor to love the rich. Those who are in good conditions like it, and those who are in bad conditions are demolished and looked down upon. Some brothers and sisters never talk to each other after a little dispute, and they walk with strangers. This relationship is not as good as that of some friends. Family seems so indifferent.

Second, there is hypocrisy in blood relationship.

Usually, everyone gets along very well. They often come and go, and they don't argue or make noise. They are kind and sweet. If you encounter unhappy troubles, your brothers and sisters will come to comfort you, persuade you and enlighten you. Maybe you think they are really good and grateful. However, when one day you need help when you are in trouble, these brothers and sisters who are usually close to each other will start to find reasons to stay away from you and will not help you. Some may even say ugly words to hurt your self-esteem, so there will be no conflict of interests between brothers and sisters, which will benefit everyone, but when it happens, they will become another person. They all like to treat their relatives around them with hypocrisy, and their relatives are hypocritical to each other. They always like to say whatever they want under the slogan that we are a family. They think that you will not be angry, that you should be criticized, that your feelings are completely ignored, and sometimes they will hurt people. Usually, on the surface, brothers and sisters are good at getting along with each other. The caring greetings they usually give turn into cold words when they really need them. Some brothers and sisters will earn money because their parents have no land to requisition, and finally they have no affection. Some also calculate each other, thinking that the so-called family relationship has become insignificant in the face of interests.

The blood relationship is, at best, kinship, but at worst, hatred.

Children raised by their parents with painstaking efforts have their own lives when they grow up, and they are busy with their lives and go their separate ways, even though the contact is very dull. In addition, when they grow up, they have different personalities and mentality, which makes them seem normal in getting along. After a long time, they are indifferent to each other, and some of them are worse than outsiders. Ordinary friends who don't usually contact often give you a pair of warm hands when you need them, while relatives become indifferent when you are in trouble.

most of the relatives have the psychology of being too poor and loving the rich, and they also think they are relatives. Let yourself criticize this and that and think it is right, and never hurt you intentionally or unintentionally regardless of your feelings. Those who are brought into MLM organizations also try to pull their relatives in and harm themselves to harm their relatives, so it is not others but the closest relatives who hurt you in this world.

When you understand this, do you still have to forgive and hurt your loved ones in the second and third? Will you still say that it's all a family that doesn't care? Then if you can forgive, prove that they will continue to hurt you.

Life is full of flavors. See the facts clearly and be yourself.