Parents, it is better to force your children than to force yourself

If you don’t want your children to lose at the starting line, the best way as a parent is to push yourself hard from now on, so that you can get closer to excellence.

1. The excellence of children hides the shadow of their parents

On the weekend, my daughter, who is in the fourth grade of elementary school, was invited to play at the home of her classmate Xiao Meng.

I sent my daughter there. At Xiao Meng’s house, I saw that although there was no decent furniture in her home, the large bookcase in the study occupied an entire wall domineeringly, becoming a part of Xiao Meng’s house. The most gorgeous scenery.

I was very surprised and asked Xiao Meng’s mother: “Why do you have so many books at home?”

Xiao Meng’s mother told me: “Every month, there are The number of books purchased is basically more than ten, so as time goes by, the collection of books at home becomes larger.”

I remembered that my daughter said that Xiao Meng was a master of composition in the class, and after seeing so many books, I found them. The answer to why Xiao Meng’s composition is so good.

I remembered that I bought some books for my daughter but didn’t read many. I was very disappointed. I didn’t want to miss this opportunity to learn from the experience. I asked Xiao Meng’s mother: “How did you seduce Xiao Meng? Reading?"

Xiao Meng's mother bent over with a smile when she heard the word "temptation".

"There is no need for temptation. Reading and learning are not just for children. The reason why Mengmeng loves reading is mainly due to the influence of me and her father."

Xiao Meng's mother Tell me, because the couple set themselves the task of reading at least five books a month, and they also had to write no less than 2,000 words of reading notes after reading each book.

Therefore, Xiao Meng also followed the practices of his parents and set a task for himself to read at least five books a month, and each reading note should be no less than 800 words.

I asked to see Xiao Mengdi’s reading notes, and Xiao Meng’s mother took out several notebooks bound with plaid manuscript paper.

Opening one of them is an article written by Xiao Meng about his thoughts after reading "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms".

Xiao Meng neatly wrote in the article: "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms describes the historical events of nearly a hundred years from the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty to the early years of the Western Jin Dynasty. It mainly focuses on war stories between men, but The person I admire most is the beautiful Diao Chan. Her achievements were not only in helping to destroy the cruel, selfish and ambitious Dong Zhuo, but also in repaying the kindness of her adoptive father Wang Yun in raising her. ·······"

When it comes to "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms", the most familiar characters are Zhuge Liang, Cao Cao, Liu Bei, Guan Yu, Zhang Fei, Zhao Yun, a ten-year-old The little girl, through reading, has her own unique insights into the characters of "Three Kingdoms", and knows that repaying kindness is a person's "sparkling point", which is really admirable.

After seeing Xiao Meng’s reading notes, I realized that her parents’ shadow was hidden in her excellence.

How well parents do is the starting point that affects their children’s cognition.

Therefore, when parents have a strong awareness of their own improvement, their children will be more likely to win.

2. Parents are the starting line for children

Rabindranath Tagore, the world-famous poet, writer, and philosopher, was expelled from school because of poor study when he was a child.

Tagore’s father reflected on his education and decided to use his example to influence his son.

Every morning, his father woke Tagore up, and the father and son recited ancient poems together.

After breakfast, his father asked Tagore to sit down and quietly listen to himself reciting scriptures.

My father also taught Tagore to learn English every day.

My father showed Tagore the collection of books at home, and he and Tagore read through the books together.

In the evening, the two of them stayed up late reading together.

My father took advantage of the opportunity of accompanying Tagore for a walk and also lost no time in teaching him various knowledge.

Under the influence of his father’s learning ability, Tagore’s thirst for knowledge became stronger and stronger. After the age of 13, he published "Wild Flowers", "Poet's Story", etc.

Tagore eventually became a world-famous writer and became the first Asian to win the Nobel Prize for Literature.

Making progress together with children, so that children can build a good knowledge reserve on the road of seeking knowledge, is the guarantee for children to achieve results.

When it comes to celebrity education, Liu Yong is also a model.

Liu Yong is not only a best-selling author and speaker in the Chinese world, but also a painter.

The pair of outstanding sons and daughters he trained have become lesson plans for parents to learn from.

Liu Xuan, Liu Yong’s son, is a top student at the Juilliard School of Music in the United States, a prose columnist and host. His work "Why not?" Give yourself some freedom", "Find Yourself", "The Trembling Earth" and so on.

In 2016, "Help You Have Good Luck, Luck is Within Your Fingertips" won the first Cross-Strait Best Book Award for Emerging Writers and became a best-seller in bookstores such as Eslite.

Liu Xuan’s success in literature is inseparable from the influence of his father, the writer Liu Yong.

Liu Yong will e-mail an article to his son Liu Xuan every month. The father and son talk about everything from food, clothing, housing and transportation to social hot topics. The help of his father Liu Yong and his son Liu Xuan in writing materials and writing skills cannot be ignored.

In the end, Liu Xuan became another "inspirational writer" after his father.

Liu Yong’s daughter Liu Yifan won the “U.S. Presidential Award” at the age of 15 and was admitted to Columbia University at the age of 18. After graduating from college, she gave up the comfortable and comfortable life in the United States and chose to "drift to the North."

Once, Liu Yifan said in a text message to his father: "I hope that one day, when someone introduces you, they can say that this is Liu Yifan's father."

Liu Yong is serious Reply: "Dad, I believe this day will not be too far away."

Liu Yong is nearly 70 years old and is still writing, publishing books, giving lectures, and holding art exhibitions.

Let your children do not need to compare with others. You are your child's best teacher and your child's starting line.

3 When parents lose, it’s hard for children to win.

I remember a colleague talking about his children who didn’t like to read, and asked his colleagues for advice, how can we make children fall in love with reading?

Knowing that this colleague is not a person who loves to read and study, a colleague gave me advice: "You can often hold a book in front of your children and pretend to read."

However, But the colleague said: "I get a headache when I pick up the book and I can't pretend it."

The two colleagues present almost said in unison: "Then it's hopeless."

It’s a joke that parents don’t read but ask their children to fall in love with reading.

As a parent, instead of ordering your children to read sternly, it is better to spend time reading usefully with your children.

Just imagine, a mother who spends her time playing mahjong day and night, constantly asking her children to study hard and read more. How can children have the desire to actively learn when faced with parents who don't seek to make progress?

Books are a family necessity. Parents who are not interested in reading and learning are like not providing spiritual nutrition to their children.

Children are weak and imbecile because they lack the ability to learn. If parents have no awareness of learning and do not seek to make progress, it is not surprising that children are weak and imbecile.

To make children fall in love with reading, parents must first use books to awaken the sleeping learning cells in their hearts, influence their children, and make books a ladder for parents and children to progress together.

I once saw a survey on the Internet that what parents often do in their spare time will affect their children's academic performance.

Parents who read books and newspapers in their spare time have a higher rate of their children getting excellent grades. On the contrary, parents who spend their free time gathering to play cards and entertain their children have a lower rate of their children getting excellent grades.

When parents lose, it is difficult for children to win.

Parents who are unmotivated will become a stumbling block for their children's growth. Use the same force that forces their children to force themselves, and that is the correct way to give their children a running start.

4 Parents’ example is better than words

? “Don’t let your children lose at the hands of their parents” is a required course for parents. Parents are the first people in society that children come into contact with. Parents’ learning Consciousness represents a child’s understanding of people in society.

When Yang Lan talked about his educational experience, he said: "Being a parent is not easy, and teaching by example is more convincing than words."

What parents cannot do by themselves, force Asking a child to do it will result in either rebellion if he can't do it, or contempt for his parents if he does it.

It is better to force your children than to force yourself. Parents have a strong sense of learning. Although there is no guarantee that their children will be better than others, at least they will not let their children lose at their own hands.

Parents are bows, responsible for providing their children with a high level of intellectual curiosity. Children are arrows, carrying the boosting power of parents' own continuous learning to shoot farther.

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