Boyfriend fell in love for the first time. I am helpless to him. What should I do?

Expressing love to the person you love is not only a man's right, as a woman, you can also do it beautifully. But timing is the most important thing. If the "appearance" is not timely enough, I am afraid it is a waste of feelings; If the "appearance rate" is too high, it will make him get used to it. When to take the initiative depends on how smart you are to improvise.

1, when he "miscalculated"

Han Sheng faces a major choice: go left, have a smooth career, endure for another year and a half, and be in the right position; Go ahead, friends call to join, and one-on-one hit a department vice president. The annual salary is as high as the risk. Whether to stay or not is a dilemma. Ye Zhi looked at her husband's embarrassment, but she didn't give him any advice. She expressed her greatest trust and understanding to her husband in a calm state, and she wanted her husband to feel that "choice" itself is a form of life. It was late and Hansen couldn't sleep, so he got up and went to the balcony to smoke. Ye Zhi sent him tea and clothes. Hansen asked: "If you are an official, you may be stable and lack momentum; If you do business, you may suffer.

Which of these two do you want? "Ye Zhi said," it doesn't matter what you do, what matters is yourself. Anyway, I support you. "When I got up the next day, I found Ye Zhi's message on the breakfast table with milk and bread: First, think on the bright side. Second, learn to give up. Hansheng finally went into the sea and became a pioneer in the field of environmental protection building materials two years later. However, his heart touched by Ye Zhi will always remember that it was his wife who turned on the traffic lights for him when he was at the crossroads of his life.

Comments: When men are ambiguous, indecisive and in a dilemma, women's encouragement plays a powerful role. In fact, Hansen has made his own decision subconsciously, but he needs repeated doubts to prove whether it is correct, and the inspiration he got from his wife Ye Zhi undoubtedly gave him powerful and amplified energy.

Operation difficulty coefficient ★★★★

2. When he is "aphasia"

Angela Sun has a problem with bragging. He can even make up news that he had dinner with Hillary the day before yesterday. Whether it is true or not, everyone knows that he is only joking, and no one will take him seriously.

One day, when her mother-in-law came, Angela Sun did the same thing again, coaxing the old lady with a fake necklace, saying it was real gold. Unexpectedly, she dropped the receipt on the ground and the old lady was sharp-eyed and picked it up. She was happy: "This boy loved to coax me when he was a child, and now he still makes up lies?" Angela Sun was very uncomfortable, but Ruth "praised" and said, No, he didn't lie. It won't make you happy. ...

Comments: Men's big talk is all vanity, but the time of "aphasia" is the time when women are captured by their wonderful hands. The key point is that Ruth never exposed them, let him climb to the top along the pole, and hand over the ladder if he can't get down. This will not only lose face, but also hit the nail on the head, and then let him implement it obediently.

Operation difficulty coefficient ★★

3, when he "oversight"

Jin Jun was lucky to marry a good wife, and Nini's generosity, beauty and talent made him sit up and take notice of the development of married life. No matter at home or outside, Nini is fine. When Jin Jun was in a good mood, she also found that Nini always lost no time to show more surprising advantages or specialties. Jin Jun has always prided himself on being a computer expert. These days, he is designing a complicated personal homepage. He was quite proud in the middle, showing off to Nini. Nini praised him a few words, but casually improved several animation effects, and the level was obviously above him. The value of Jin Jun is jaw-dropping: "When will there be this hand?"

Comments: The beauty of Nini lies in surprising her husband again and again. She didn't win by being sharp and overwhelming, she was sure. This is: icing on the cake when entertaining my husband, let him know that I am actually better than you expected.

Operation difficulty coefficient ★★

4. When he is "twisted"

Hong has a highly inflated fermentation period, and he is further arrogant. Arrogance, to say the least. Anyway, some people feel too good about themselves. Because he published several academic papers in authoritative journals, he was promoted to several titles all the way, and he was somewhat complacent. Liu Xin is a cautious wife, and she is worried about her husband's arrogance.

Once, she and her husband were cooking in the kitchen together, shouting that they were afraid to kill fish. Her husband strolled over and said, "Get out of the way, who is better than me?" Liu Xin pretended to be frightened and said, "This fish is fierce and difficult to deal with."

This is the first time Hong killed a fish. He thought it was a piece of cake, but at first he couldn't catch it. When he really goes under the knife, his hands will tremble, and the cut fish will die and jump up and down. Hong was flustered, his hands and body were covered with blood, and he left the kitchen knife and fled the scene. After some tossing, Liu Xin scraped the scale and said, "Honey, is there anything you can't figure out?" Hong also pretends to be arrogant: "Hum, it is awesome, and there is more awesome than it." Liu Xin replied meaningfully: "Yes, no one should go too far. There are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside. " Hong leng, a long time not to talk, the process of killing fish has become a living life advice. ...

Comments: In ancient times, there was a drama of "killing dogs to persuade husbands". Liu Xin just warned her husband to hold back. Men are prone to deformation and distortion at the peak, and the so-called ecstasy will inevitably bring future troubles. Liu Xinzhi's action of killing fish seems thrilling, but in fact it is closely linked and highly targeted. He stopped at the "bloody" lesson and was not worried about her husband's "not forgetting".

Operation difficulty coefficient ★★★★

5. When he was "lovelorn"

Anjie is the business director of a company, and his enthusiasm for order production is no less than the pursuit of Lisa's concentration and persistence. Lisa said that career is his "second love" and his second emotional sustenance. What's more, his performance has been impressive, and his income and position have been rising. But taking care of the family is a bit lazy. This is not so much a shortcoming as an ornament of success. However, during this time, Anjie felt "lovelorn"-first, the customer stood me up, then several businesses stood me up repeatedly, and then she was temporarily stranded in the company's personnel changes. The strong frustration made Anjie depressed. Lisa arranged a birthday dinner, two short trips, and went to the sports center with friends for a lively tennis and swimming competition ... In silence, Lisa showed that she was more dependent on her husband in life and admired him in her ability. Her husband was quietly captured by the happiness she created. She said to herself, "Family and health deserve special attention. My wife's intention has been accepted."

Comments: Angie's situation is very common among men. Lisa's cleverness lies in helping love in time. A frustrated husband is the most vulnerable, and the power to impress him is particularly touching. At the same time, the best way to touch his weakness is to divert his "lovelorn" sight and create him a sense of relaxation and accomplishment beyond pressure.

Operation difficulty coefficient ★★★★★★★

6. When he is "out of control"

Ann is over 30 years old, and she is getting tired of a quiet life. His temper is getting worse every day and he doesn't want to see anything. This time, I accompanied my wife Hui to the concert. When you go out, you worry about a street lamp that doesn't work in the community. When I took a taxi, I thought the music played by the driver was too loud ... The whole night was filled with indignation and the evil fire was "angry". It is said that Hui's good mood was destroyed, but she took the patience to coax the child and accompanied him to "shh". She added two words to what her husband said. It was not until he entered the house that Anan complained that the lighting switch at the door was too high, and Hui simply pretended to be "angry" and said that someone would smash the wall and take out the stitches tomorrow. The husband was stupefied and asked, "Are you so unhappy?" Hui smiled and said, "Anything you are unhappy with is something I want to overthrow." The husband understands that the wife only deals with him as he deals with you. After the concert, Ann reminded me that it was time to control myself.

Comments: Men are sometimes as headstrong as children. A Nan just "spoiled". Hui is addicted to playing "angry" games with him, creating a braking point for her husband's "out of control". Like a speeding train, she found a reducer with a smooth transition, and her husband's anger gradually died out.

Operation difficulty coefficient ★★★★

What's the secret of being a beloved person who wants to be together for life? In fact, it is very simple, but few people can be consistent from beginning to end. Aside from other love factors, if you want to be an ideal lover that everyone loves, you only need to abide by the following six rules to ensure that you enjoy life and fall in love smoothly.

1. Happy

Smiling can make people refreshed at any time. Always keep a cheerful heart, don't care too much about everything, don't go into a dead end, don't complain, and of course don't lose your temper! Even if you were supposed to go for an outing and suddenly caught in heavy rain, or if you wanted to see an electric film but it was turned off, or if you wanted to go to a restaurant but were turned away ..., no matter what happens, the ideal lover will not change his original good mood because of these small situations, let alone make an irrational behavior of immediately striking the table or turning around and leaving. On the contrary, I will come up with another idea to keep the date going, and I won't make the other person feel embarrassed or sorry. This is a good partner.

Full of energy

It's not beauty that makes you handsome or beautiful these days. You must be full of energy. Generally speaking, girls can surpass all so-called natural beauty as long as they are fresh and clean. Boys shouldn't be slovenly, slovenly. They should dress appropriately and wear whatever clothes they want on any occasion. Every time we meet, people will feel full of energy, and of course lovers will be in a good mood. Even if two people have known each other for a long time, they should pretend to be themselves for the first time. Because who in this world doesn't like to see beautiful things?

Be gentle

A man's gentleness can soften everything. Try not to increase the decibel. It's not that you pretend to be delicate and disgusting to please each other, but that you get along carefully. For example, when you talk to the other person, you should listen attentively with great interest and encourage him to continue talking with your eyes from time to time, so that they will be very happy. What doesn't that person love, face to face or on the phone?

4. eloquence

Not everyone is as fluent as a salesman or politician, but as an ideal lover, you must have the ability to perceive words and say beautiful and heartfelt words at the right time to make the other person feel comfortable. No matter whether the other person is frustrated or happy, you should use your eloquence appropriately to express your feelings and thoughts. Especially in dating, don't ask questions. It doesn't matter what you ask. Make him like chatting with you, make him feel that chatting with you is more interesting than anything else, and want to listen to it every day, then it will be successful!

trust

No matter what others say, it is not easy to trust someone from the bottom of my heart. But if you love him, you should trust him and don't be suspicious. Every day, like interrogating a prisoner, I always ask questions, and I call every three hours to check my attendance, for fear that he will elope with others! Or often force him to ask, "Do you love me? How long will you love? " If it is, it's over! I suggest you don't say immediately, "I want to break up with you, even if it is a small quarrel!" " This kind of words, or: "You have changed, you were not like this before!" " And so on. People will think after listening to it: What is the relationship?

respect

When listening to each other, you always look them in the eye seriously. As long as the person you like is on the scene, you seldom talk to other members of the opposite sex, and seldom talk about the length of other members of the opposite sex, let alone criticize your lover in front of outsiders. Who doesn't want people who respect each other and think of each other everywhere?

In the process of love, there are many reasons why the two sides lose their mutual attraction. It can be caused by unilateral reasons, for example, one party doesn't like the other, causing the dissatisfaction of the other party, or it can be caused by the reasons of both parties, such as different world outlook, disharmony in personality, psychological maladjustment, etc. It can also be an objective reason, such as the isolation in time and space, which makes the flower of feelings wither gradually due to lack of watering, or it can be a psychological reason-

That is, the mystery between two people disappeared.

The so-called mystery refers to the fresh, strange and unfathomable experience caused by the gender differences between men and women (including physiology and psychology). It plays a special role in the whole process of love, even in the life of married couples. The mystery between men and women arouses curiosity between men and women. Driven by this curiosity, the two need to contact and explore each other. In the process of contact and exploration, if they appreciate each other and are attractive, they will have a good impression. On the basis of goodwill, attraction is produced by the mystery of the other party. Through further understanding, if we find a lot of glowing things from each other, then love will come into being.

If there is no exploration of this mystery between the opposite sex, then the attraction between the two will not be produced, and love will be impossible.

Although the process of love is a process of mutual understanding, it should be lucky to know and understand each other, but it is not good for love to know too thoroughly, and even some things that don't need to be understood make each other's mystery disappear. Every man and woman should have a personal world, and they should have their own mysterious world that no one knows. Therefore, if couples are attracted to each other, they should first play with each other and keep a sense of mystery. This kind of mystery is not fixed, its content is constantly explored and discovered by the other party, becoming something that is not mysterious, and it is constantly enriched and replaced by new content.

The renewal of this mysterious content needs to be enriched by everyone's knowledge and wisdom. Some people who are beautiful in appearance but not rich in inner cultivation can only make people feel happy for a while: once they get along with them for a long time, they will soon lose their attraction because of insufficient knowledge, depth and mystery. Therefore, in the process of love, in addition to strengthening all aspects of self-cultivation, we should also pay attention not to expose ourselves too quickly and fully, including talent, specialty, experience, figure and so on. And learn to "flow slowly". I think this is probably one of the secrets of love. In order to enhance the mystery and maintain the attraction between lovers, the following specific measures can be taken:

First, take an interest in life and change a single, day-to-day and unchanging life. For example, surprise each other suddenly, or change your clothes, change your hairstyle, or change your room layout and so on. It will make lovers feel fresh and happy.

Second, be polite and respect each other. Although two people are madly in love, regardless of you and me, we should be as polite as when we first fell in love, and don't lose our original tenderness and consideration, because any words and deeds that don't respect each other will greatly damage each other's attraction.

Third, do a short separation once in a while. Love does not lie in the morning and evening. As the saying goes, marriage is better than parting. Especially after some conflicts, the short separation not only gives the two sides time to think and reflect calmly, but also doubles the mystery when they meet after separation.

Fourth, try to avoid and reduce physical contact. Sexual behaviors such as kissing, hugging and touching in love are beyond reproach. They can beautify and promote love between two people, but the frequency should not be too frequent. This is the same as our diet. Eat less and taste more, eat more and taste less.

For premarital sexual intercourse, it is not suitable from the perspective of sexual physiology and psychology. Never expose yourself to your lover frequently, which will make you lose the mystery of sex. Everyone's physiological reaction to sexual intercourse is basically similar, but their psychological state is different. Pursuing the mystery and freshness of sex is the psychological motivation and motivation of those who like the new and hate the old.

It is a very difficult art to keep men and women attracted to each other, and its specific methods are far more than the above points, hoping to draw inferences from others. However, keeping a sense of mystery is by no means mystifying, hiding from each other or cheating. Otherwise, it will be self-defeating

There are three things in this world that cannot be easily believed: men's promises, men's feelings and men's reasons. But at the same time, please remember that there are three most precious things in the world: a man's promise, a man's feelings and a man's heart. Men in the world are sincere when they promise you, but they are also sincere when they betray you. When he no longer loves you, it is obvious that he has changed his mind, and he will only feel that all the advantages that attracted him at the beginning are gone.

1. Please remember that if a man is sorry for you, please break up with him resolutely. You should also remember, never lose your temper and break up gently. If you lose your temper, the reason why you break up will be based on disagreement. Breaking up gently is just a miss, but it is a regret in the world. Honey, give men more regrets. Regret has always been a beautiful scenery in men's hearts. Most men don't know how to cherish. They believe that what they can't get is the most beautiful, and what they lose is always poetic. Letting him lose you is psychologically superior to losing him.

Don't try to conquer a man over 30 who has never been married and has no fixed girlfriend. This kind of man is either impotent or impotent, and most of them have psychological problems in sexual orientation. Dear, don't be an injured woman.

The best way to see if a man loves you is to see if he has brought you into his world and life.

4. To appease a man, you must be kind to him. As the saying goes, softness can win steel. But don't always be fine, just take care of him when he is sick. Remember: don't get used to men, don't let him get used to it, think that this is what you should do and what you like to do.

There is a word called myth in this world. What is a myth? Please listen to men express their love to you! There is another word in this world called legend. Want to know what a legend is? Please listen to the man's promise to you! All women in this world have dreams, and dreams are women's reactions when they come into contact with myths and legends.

6. As a woman, you should actually trust men. It's like wanting to believe that world peace will come, although you know, there is a constant world war now.

7. Every woman must be stupid at least once in her life. It is not a woman who is stupid twice or more, but a sow, who deserves to be cheated and dumped. If you are fooled, you'd better hold the mentality of "losing your virginity after drinking, don't take it seriously". In this way, although you can't have love, you can at least save face.

8. If you call your boyfriend (husband) and you don't call back or turn off your phone, there is absolutely no need to call again, because it is really a bad thing to ruin other people's happy time. The key is to embarrass yourself.

9. Never look at a man's cell phone text messages, check posts, chase him, and make him feel that you care about him. Let him care about you and pay attention to you.

10. Never believe gossip about your boyfriend (husband) unless you are caught red-handed. If we want to continue, please be consistent with the outside world, drive away foreign invaders, and finally solve internal contradictions. Wash your dirty linen in public, men want to save their only face. If you feel unbearable, just let it out and let this bad man know the tragic end of betraying a woman.

1 1. Don't try to surprise each other when you are on a business trip, don't make a surprise attack, and don't come back or visit each other without saying hello. I believe that all women don't want to see some scenes that make them regret for a lifetime.

12. Dear woman, as an animal, men can easily mislead you. At first, you thought he was Prince Charming, but in the end you found that he was a toad with white eyes. But there are also excellent men in this world. He is gentle, kind, considerate, full of interest, very responsible, and it is best to have some property, but most importantly, he loves you! At this time, dear babies, remember to seize every opportunity and try to marry the man you love.