Why do you have to speak clearly and appropriately?

Xiao Qi went to a client to talk about business and returned to the company at 6 pm. Only one female employee in the company was still working. Qi Xin thought: She is so serious, it's time to have a rest. But when it comes out, it becomes: "Hey, why are you still in the company?"

As a result, the other party looked unhappy and said angrily, "Go back now!"

I tried to comfort her, but it made her angry. If this goes on, it will not only be misunderstood by her, but also affect her future work. The problem lies in the sentence "Why are you still in the company?" Listening to the other person's ear, this sentence seems to be: "Why didn't you go back earlier?" Besides, with the question word "yi", it is no wonder that she will have such a reaction. If it's a conversation between male colleagues, maybe a "what? No! " I made a joke, but the situation is different when the other person is a woman. Obviously, it was his poor choice of words.

In addition, everyone is familiar with such a joke: Zhang San invited four friends, A, B, C and D, to dinner. B, C and D arrived as scheduled, only A was late.

Zhang San looked at his watch and said to himself, "Why hasn't it come yet?" Hearing this, B asked unhappily, "So, I shouldn't come?" With that, he left angrily.

Zhang San sighed again and again: "Hey, I shouldn't go anymore!" " C felt that Zhang Sanxian had an implication, and thought, since B shouldn't go, should he go by himself? He also left without saying goodbye.

Zhang Sangeng was anxious: "I'm not talking about him!" Ding, who stood by, couldn't help it any longer. He thought, "since it's not C, it can only be me." He also left quietly.

After a while, A came, and Zhang San sighed: "I shouldn't have left." A listened to his words and thought I should go, so I left, too.

As a result, none of the guests left, leaving only Zhang San who was at a loss.

In the first case, what should Qi do? First of all, he should understand some taboos of female colleagues and say less things that make them unhappy. It is easy to make female colleagues feel inconsiderate. What makes female colleagues angry is: "You are all right now, help me." "If I were another person, I wouldn't have to worry." "I told you you didn't have that skill." "Why is it always wrong!" "This matter should have ended long ago. Why do you always procrastinate? " Wait a minute. What makes female colleagues feel impolite is: "Hey, listen!" "Wait a minute, what's the hurry?" "Idiot, even this can't be done well!" "What are you still doing?" "Don't you have ears? Lean back. " Wait a minute. What annoys female colleagues is: "You are getting fatter and fatter." "Your makeup is really like a ghost." "This dress is out of date." "Women are really troublesome." "So-and-so looks better than all the girls in our company!" "You look old, like a 40-year-old man." Wait a minute.

If you accidentally say something similar, don't hesitate to apologize immediately and apologize loudly with a volume that surprises her. Then, take a deep breath and gently explain, "I put my foot in my mouth." Actually, I feel embarrassed to let you stay and work. Oh, my mouth is so stupid! "In most cases, the other party will feel better when they hear this, and it is good to talk a few more words. If the other person still ignores it, then don't continue. The next morning, when you meet her, ask her loudly first, and her unhappiness will disappear.

In daily communication, it is often pleasant to talk with people, but sometimes what you say will be misunderstood by others. Because many words in our daily conversation are used in different situations, they often have different meanings, and some even have opposite meanings, which brings us a lot of trouble, just as Zhang San said in the second case. For this kind of rhetoric, we must treat it with caution and don't act rashly.

Therefore ... words must be clear, specific and properly worded. Never use ambiguous sentences to avoid misunderstanding.

-Quoted from Yanbian People's Publishing House, eloquence makes life.