Do you know how to praise your children? Don’t say you are awesome or you are so good. Parents should learn how to do it

Language has always been an art and charm. How to correctly master the way and propriety of speaking tests a person's emotional intelligence and language talent. In the education of their children, many parents will also face a problem, that is, it is difficult to communicate with their children.

This is not only because of the generation gap problem, but also because the way of expressing the language is not correct. In life, children will do well in many aspects. Parents want to praise but can't find the right words. In the end, both the children and themselves fall into an embarrassing situation. In the past, people often used words to praise their children: "You are awesome"! "Well done"! wait.

But with the advancement of the times, such embarrassing praise will make children feel that their parents are perfunctory to them. What should parents do correctly to make their children realize that they are really good and feel the encouragement and warmth of their parents? This has to talk about education methods.

Xiaolin’s parents are quite busy and rarely put much effort into Xiaolin’s education. Fortunately, Xiaolin's academic performance is relatively good, so her parents rarely worry about her. On this day, as usual, Xiaolin came home with a perfect score report. After reading the scores, her mother, who was watching TV at the side, said to Xiaolin: "You did well in the test. Mom will take you to buy whatever you want." However, Xiaolin was not happy. She was tired of hearing these words and thought her mother was perfunctory about her.

Many parents don’t know how to balance the contradiction between praise and criticism. After all, if they want to truly let their children grow, both are indispensable. If you praise your children too much, they will not realize their own shortcomings and blindly praise their abilities too much, which is also undesirable. This not only prevents them from correctly viewing their abilities, but sometimes also shows arrogance.

Once someone stronger than him appears one day, they will feel dissatisfied with themselves, and it will not be that easy to accept their own mediocrity. But blindly criticizing your children will not only make them feel inferior to their own conditions, but will also often be detrimental to their development. As a parent, if you have tried many methods but still failed, then it is necessary for you to use the following methods

Only with correct praise can children feel the care of their parents

Gifted people Everyone has it, but hard work is not.

There are too many examples worth illustrating. Now there is a meaningful article in middle school for children, which tells such a story. Because he knew exactly what areas he was talented in, he thought that success would be a good thing that would bring pie to the world. In the end, he exhausted his talents but got nothing.

Today’s children are very smart and indeed gifted in many special things. It is good for parents to be good at discovering their children's talents, but they should not let their children forget the importance of hard work. It is also necessary to praise children so that they can clearly understand their strengths. When your child does well, you cannot praise your child for being smart, but tell him that you have seen his efforts and that he will get better. Only in this way can children be down-to-earth and not exaggerated. This quality is rare.

List the facts and don’t praise exaggeratedly

Nowadays, many parents greet each other in a polite way. When they hear their children’s achievements, they often praise them, your children are really smart. This way of getting along seems to increase the relationship between parents, but it is really detrimental to the child.

Children don’t know what makes them good, and they can’t extract the reasons from adults’ conversations. This approach is too perfunctory. Parents should pay attention to the details of education, and the same goes for praising their children. Only by pointing out what their children have done well in certain aspects can they clarify their own goals.

Some children are not so talented and often encounter difficulties in their studies.

They don't have innate talents like other children, but they know how to get the fruits of their labor through their own efforts.

If parents only focus on their children's performance and think that their children's growth is a mess, it will only put psychological pressure on their children, and their enthusiasm and efforts will become the parents' joke overnight. This approach is not advisable. Of course, this should start with small things, such as asking children to do housework, and don't worry about whether the hygiene is clean in the end. If your children are willing to work hard, they will not become very bad people in the future, and they will be more serious in doing things.

While praising, don’t forget to criticize appropriately.

Some parents often praise their children in the hope that they will develop into persons with sound personalities. However, such parents do not realize that the result of praising their children easily is that the children will be too confident in something and think they can do everything well. Once they fall down, they will often cry miserably.

Don’t let your child think he is a perfect person from the beginning. Occasionally criticizing can stimulate his potential. However, you need to pay attention to methods when doing things. If the criticism is too strong, the child will feel insecure, which is also detrimental to the development of the problem. How can a child put effort into doing something well when he can get compliments casually?

Use body language

Sometimes body language can comfort children more than words. Some parents are anxious and cannot control their emotions, but they can consider that they should not be angry with their children during the process. This quality is relatively rare.

Sometimes a smile is more encouraging than a "You're awesome", whether it's a look in the eyes or a thumbs up. Only when parents don't hesitate to praise can they cultivate outstanding children. . By the way, another advantage of this method is that it prevents parents from praising their children, and it can also alleviate the shortcomings caused by light language and allow children to better understand their own intentions.

Every child is unique and has their own personality. Regarding the cultivation of character, parents should take a correct view. Whether it is lively and cheerful, or introverted and careful, each has its own benefits. But being too introverted or too extroverted can easily cause children to become extreme people.

Therefore, the task of parents is to constantly find a balance so that their children can grow effectively. Of course, this is inseparable from the way children are educated. Encouragement is always a magic weapon to make children move forward, and parents must use it rationally.

The above methods can be tried in any family growing environment. The purpose of education is to make children better and more confident. If your child is also introverted, don't rush to deny that his personality will affect his future development. The most important thing is to guide your child to establish self-awareness.