If I have a house, a car and a high salary in a big city, why should I marry you?

About marriage, it is more like a two-way multiple-choice question. Men can choose women, and women can choose men. This is true fairness, but in real life, many people don't understand this truth.

Perhaps because there are more men than women, they always think that women can occupy an absolute advantage in this process, and everyone can choose the other half they want at will, but they ignore that qualified men are often as picky as women, and they also want to find the right other half.

Based on this, in the process of selection, everyone should proceed according to their own actual situation, so as not to leave the impression that they are overreached.

Most women want to marry a man with good economic conditions, which is understandable, but everyone should also consider their own conditions and see if they have the capital to do so.

If you are a girl with good economic conditions, it is understandable that you want to marry a man who suits you or is better than you. After all, in marriage, everyone has always followed the principle of bowing their heads and marrying their daughters.

But if you are just a very ordinary woman, but want to marry a man with a house and a car and good economic conditions, it is equivalent to not knowing yourself. Under such circumstances, you are likely to miss the really suitable person.

Even if you marry a suitable person for various reasons and because he is not good enough, all kinds of complaints will have a very bad influence on your marriage.

Ma Hongtao is 30 years old and works in a factory. His monthly income is about 5000 yuan. Maybe many people think his income is really a little low. It seems that it is not so easy to support your family and yourself. It's already a good thing.

In fact, everyone is wrong. Everyone has a different lifestyle. This 5000 yuan is really hard to live in a first-tier city.

If it is placed in a second-tier city, it is also a poor household, but in a small county, the result is completely different. Ma Hongtao works in a fourth-tier city, but his hometown is a small county.

In fact, for the people of the county, his conditions are not bad. He has a house in the county and bought a cheap car. Because his work place is not far from the county seat, he often goes back to his hometown.

His wife has no job and has been a full-time wife since she got married, but their married life is not so happy. Mainly because his wife always thinks that he has no future and likes to compare with all kinds of people.

Ma Hongtao and his wife met on a blind date. From the beginning, his wife turned a deaf ear to him, but two years later, they came together.

Some people say this is fate, but only Ma Tao knows it clearly. After two years, your wife found that you couldn't choose a better Ma Hongtao at all, but the conditions were good, so she chose to make do.

In fact, to outsiders, their family has always been very happy and have a good life, but his wife doesn't think so. She always thought that she had lost her marriage, perhaps because of this, they often argued about all kinds of things.

At first, Ma Hongtao would let his wife, after all, good men don't fight with women, let alone his wife. After a long time, Ma Hongtao would feel very angry. After all, no man wants to live such a humbled life.

My wife especially likes to compare Ma Hongtao with her brother-in-law. There is a big difference between the two.

Ma Hongtao has a house in his hometown in the county, nothing in a big city, and his income is not very high, so he is just the most mediocre person in the world.

His brother-in-law is completely different. His brother-in-law is the surgical director of a hospital, and his annual income is very considerable, so their life is also very rich. Maybe that's why his wife cares so much.

Recently, they quarreled over some trivial matters. Ma Hongtao said that although he is not as good as his brother-in-law, he still has a house and a car, so his wife should not compare with others.

The wife said, "Is this called having a house and a car? Can houses in the county be built? You drive a car for tens of thousands of dollars, and you dare to say that you have a car. You are so poor, I really don't know why I married you in the first place! "

This is not the first time his wife has said these words, but Ma Hongtao has always been a very patient person. He tried not to quarrel with his wife for the sake of family harmony.

Even if there is any contradiction with his wife, he will choose silence, but this time it is different. He felt that his self-esteem had been seriously hurt.

He knows he is not a good person, but he thinks he is more than enough for his wife. In the eyes of his wife, he is not an incompetent person.

So he was very angry and shouted to his wife, "My conditions are really ordinary, but I married you because I am ordinary." If I have a house, car and high salary in a big city, why should I marry you? " So many excellent women, I can't find them? "

Actually, what Ma Hongtao said was not angry words. To be precise, he also said a normal sentence. His wife's condition is very general, her height is not too high, her appearance is not beautiful, and her education is not high, so the two of them are actually a good match.

After all, the old people often say that the dragon matches lobster and shrimp, and the brother-in-law is excellent. This is true, but why the wife and sister can marry such an excellent man is not only because she is highly educated and beautiful.

Although they are sisters, they are very different in all aspects, so it is normal for them to have different fates. Obviously not at the same level, but having to compare it will only make people feel particularly depressed.

They haven't spoken for several days because of this quarrel. Even after their marriage, they had the longest cold war, and Ma Hongtao did not intend to compromise. He feels that there is something wrong with his wife's thinking, and if it is not corrected, it is likely to get worse.

In this case, it is better to suppress it from the beginning and let her know her true strength, so as not to be dissatisfied with others all day.

Comparison without self-knowledge will turn you into a joke.

Everyone living in this world wants to have a happy life, and it is inevitable to compare with others, but everyone should not be too obsessed with this matter.

If you have good conditions and want to live a better life, it is normal to take others as your goal, but if you are obviously not on the same level, but you have to keep up with each other, you will find that you are unhappy, which is not good for everyone's life.

Everyone has his own life state, everyone has different abilities and different lifestyles, so there is no need to compare them. For marriage, we should be content and cherish the people in front of us, instead of abandoning each other without self-knowledge.

Everyone must understand that what kind of person you marry usually means what class you belong to. If you are particularly excellent, you can't marry a particularly mediocre man.

Since you have done this, it proves that you and he are very compatible in some aspects, so after marriage, don't complain, don't look down on each other, and don't raise yourself. Now that you can become a family, it proves that you are the same person.

The most taboo in marriage is arrogance and contempt for the lover. You think this is normal, but this is the root cause of family disharmony.

In this world, no one wants to be treated like this, even a few ordinary words often leave people with incomparable scars.

Based on this, it is better for everyone to pay attention to and face life with a rational attitude, instead of all kinds of comparisons, all kinds of dissatisfaction, and even forget who they are.