If you have already chosen to forgive the other person, shouldn’t you settle the old score again?

If your heart is like a vast ocean, no stone can make you surge;

For the thorn that comes from cheating, the same principle applies, expand your heart capacity, so that its proportion becomes smaller and smaller, and it cannot control your life.

Min, who came to consult Sister Si, has been living in a model family. Her husband is gentle and considerate, and her children are obedient and sensible, which are envied by others, and she herself is very content. Marriage is basically her whole life.

So, when she accidentally discovered that her husband had been having an improper relationship with the company for half a year, Min chose to commit suicide. Fortunately, she was discovered by the other party in time. Her husband knelt in front of her and begged her. She forgives. Min has lost hope in life. She doesn't want to forgive and doesn't know how to forgive. Every time she thinks of the love words she saw, her heart hurts like a knife.

This makes the road we have walked together, the ups and downs and sweet life we ??have experienced together, all look like a joke.

The family we have worked so hard to manage and the dedication we have put in for more than ten years seem to have lost their meaning.

The happiness we hold in our hands is mixed with impurities. We are angry, scared, helpless, and afraid. We don’t want to lose it. We asked him to atone over and over again to confirm that he still loved me and he would not leave me.

At the same time, we feel that he has done something wrong and should admit it and ask for our forgiveness.

So, we feel that he should feel guilty, he should return, he should atone for his sins, and he should continue to work hard for our little family.

But, first, can we really forgive? That thorn deep into the bone marrow reminds us all the time that he has slept with others and loved others.

If you choose to forgive your cheating partner, you will have to bear more costs.

Because you still have feelings for him, you endured the severe pain and forgave him for hurting you. You have to bear it, and in the future relationship, you have to break it into pieces and swallow it in your stomach.

First of all, you can't bring up old things again. This is called settling old scores. Choosing to forgive is equivalent to letting the matter go over and you start over.

Don’t have bad emotions again, as this will make your relationship disharmonious after all.