Can a 33-year-old female graduate student still have children when she asks for marriage but is ridiculed by the group? what do you think?

In the self-report, the female graduate students' words were full of conceit. In the end, Ms. Dou understood the reason for her failure and was angry.

A 33-year-old 985 female graduate student asked for marriage and was ridiculed after making three demands: Can she have children?

I am 80 years old, 33 years old and unmarried.

Maybe you think it's strange, why don't I get married at the age of 33? It's not that I can't find a boyfriend, but that my life focuses on my studies.

Since primary school, I have been a veritable schoolmaster. From primary school to university, I have been the position of monitor. In the eyes of my classmates' parents, I am "someone else's child".

In 2006, I was admitted to a very famous 985 university. After graduation, I was sent to our graduate school, and now I work in a famous foreign company.

Frankly speaking, I don't want to get married, but people exist in the world, and the most fundamental attribute is to reproduce. I can't stand my parents' nagging and phone bombing, so I decided to propose.

I also know in my heart that for many girls, 30 is a hurdle. After the age of 30, a woman's skin and body will deteriorate, and it may be very troublesome not to get married.

However, I am in a good mood. I am a 985 graduate student, working in a foreign company, and my appearance is above average. With such good conditions, will I not find a husband?

What a joke.

So, although I'm over 30 years old, I'm not going to wronged myself. I will marry any man. A man worthy of me must meet at least the following three conditions:

I am a neat freak. I must be an unmarried man. There is a house and a car at home, and there is no loan. I don't want to be stuck in the bank all my life;

My annual salary is 200,000 now, and my husband's annual salary can't be less than 300,000. Men's wages are higher than women's, isn't it too much? There is also a bride price of not less than 200,000, and the income after marriage belongs to me;

(3) you can't have children within 2 years after marriage. The focus of my life is still on my work. I can't live with old people in the future. I don't want to have a mother-in-law relationship or share housework.

Do you think these three requirements are too much? I think it makes sense. I also have some good girlfriends around me. The men they marry are all good men.

However, things are completely different from what I thought.

At first, I chatted with several men, but when I heard my three demands, they immediately backed out and plausibly said:

"You're asking too much. Can you relax?"

Please, I'm looking for a husband, not a charity. If you can't accept it, leave! Some men secretly satirized me after I left and thought I was "unrealistic".

Hehe, is my request too high? I don't think so, maybe there are too few good men!

After seeing the blind date request of the 985 hostess, Ms. Dou was really shocked, and netizens also left messages below after seeing her post.

Netizen a: the idea is unrealistic.

What happened to Master 985? What's wrong with working in a foreign company? For men, these are not very important, are they? Look at your age, 33. If you say something unpleasant, you will soon be described as "old Huang"!

A man with an annual salary of 300 thousand, a car, a house and no loan, why did he choose an old woman with such good conditions? People are not short of money, so why not choose a beautiful young girl?

My own conditions are not bad, but I am already a "leftover woman". Women are different from men, but men will be more mature and popular when they get older.

Let me give you a suggestion. If you really want to get married, you should lower the marriage conditions, with an annual salary of 200,000 yuan and a bride price of 65,438+10,000 yuan, otherwise you will never find a man.

Netizen B: Can you have children?

To tell the truth, these three requirements, that is, 1, are all reasonable, but the most unreasonable one is the third one.

If you don't want a mother-in-law relationship, don't? What do you take your mother-in-law for? This is the master's degree? Have no breeding at all.

Also, don't have children within 2 years after marriage. You are 33 years old now, and you will be 35 years old in two years. Even if you don't consider the fetus, don't you consider your own body?

Under normal circumstances, women's fertility will decline after the age of 30, and the risk of fertility will increase significantly after the age of 35.

I think you just don't want children. People like you, "can you have children?"

Netizen c: you are too material!

Girl, you are too materialistic. Even if you want to get married, you have to talk about feelings first, right You put these three conditions on, who dares to come?

There is still a little 2, and the income after marriage is up to you! You married, not the man's son-in-law. Why should I give you all the money?

It's selfish of you to calculate each other before the marriage begins. No wonder I can't find the object. Really deserved it! What men need is a home, and there will be no good life with you!

What should the "older leftover women" pay attention to on blind date?

Everyone has the right to pursue love, but they also have different choices. It is understandable that women have their own requirements for marriage.

However, women should also learn to recognize the present situation and think from the man's point of view, otherwise marriage will fail.

1. Correct your mind.

"Older leftover women" want to get rid of orders, so they should keep a correct attitude and not always take their own conditions as an advantage.

For women, age is their greatest advantage, and when this advantage disappears, other advantages may be difficult to make up for this shortcoming.

So, on this basis, women decide what qualities the most suitable man has, a man with integrity and good character? A successful divorced man? Ordinary people with average conditions?

Of course, the marriage of "older women" is not simply resignation and demotion, but learning to tolerate each other's shortcomings, see each other's advantages and find the taste of love.

If you get married for the sake of marriage, it will only become a tool for reproduction, and the focus is still on feelings.

2. Charge yourself and keep your inner beauty.

Single women should learn to "recharge their batteries" and make themselves better and better. Although they may grow old with age, their temperament and connotation will not change, so that they can meet the right person in the best state.

3. Learn to adjust the marital conditions flexibly

Rules are dead, people are alive! If your marriage conditions are rejected by the man one after another, then what you consider is not whether the other person is not good enough, but whether you are too harsh.

At this time, you can appropriately lower the conditions and then test the man. If the other party agrees, it will prove that our conditions are outrageous.

"Older leftover women" should find out why they are single and rejected by the other party, so as to find the right other half.