The eldest daughter was jealous that the second child was favored and beat the younger brother to self-harm. What do you think should be done to educate these two children to live in peace?

This problem is exactly what I am thinking and exploring now. The eldest daughter is four years old and is now in a small kindergarten class. The son is five and a half months old. Since I was pregnant, I have been instilling in my daughter that my mother wants to give her a little brother, who is her good friend and plays with her. She is an elder sister and should take good care of her younger brother. My daughter suddenly matured and began to learn to do many things by herself, saying that she was going to be a sister when she grew up. Sometimes, she will touch my stomach and look up and ask me, "Mom, when will my brother come out to play with me?" I'm anxious! "

When I gave birth to my son, her grandmother was with me in the delivery room before the baby was finished. His father took his brother to the crib in the ward and asked his daughter to look after him. Then he went to wait for me outside the delivery room. When I came out, my son was sleeping, and my daughter stood by and looked at her unblinkingly. Maybe she also wants to know why her brother is so young. The woman in the next bed told me that your daughter has been guarding the baby since she came in, and no one is allowed to get close to her, so she is very tight! I can't help laughing!

I began to understand that, in fact, every child welcomes the arrival of a new life at the beginning, and she also wants to have more siblings, so that she can be less lonely. Only later, the practice of adults gradually hurt her, making her feel less favored, thinking that mom and dad don't love themselves, but only like their younger brother, and there is a big psychological gap at once. Even if adults encounter this situation, their hearts will be unbalanced. What's more, a child of several years old will try to regain the attention of her parents in her own way, whether it is beating her younger brother or self-mutilation, which is the way she can know to get attention. When this happens, do you feel neglected?

When our son was born, we didn't allow our daughter to get close to him because she was too young, because she didn't know the weight, but her daughter liked her brother very much and always liked to touch him. I always yell at him when I see him. The next month, I asked her father to take her to the playground, instead of staying at home to scare the baby.

But something happened that day that changed me. I'm in the bathroom and my son is crying. I hurried out. I saw my daughter who came to our room looking for something running over and patting the baby. Like I usually coax my children, I suddenly feel that I have neglected my daughter after giving birth to a second child. She has grown up and is sensible, which makes me very distressed.

Later, I began to let my daughter gradually participate in the behavior of caring for the baby. I will ask her to help my brother get clothes, tissues, diapers and so on, and then praise her as a good sister in time. She would answer you're welcome shyly, but her expression was very proud. When I am busy, ask her to look after the baby, and she will sing the nursery rhymes we taught her, clap her hands while singing, and the baby will stop crying and look at her. So now they have a good relationship, and my brother is looking forward to playing with her every day after school.

I think children are a blank sheet of paper, and it is the selfish desires of adults that defile this blank sheet of paper. When she has a problem, please find the reason from yourself first, whether it is eccentric or not, it is best to treat her equally, regardless of gender or age.