"Just kidding! Very humorous! Humor or attack? Those who listen have the final say.

Humor is actually an attitude towards life. If a well-informed and modest person speaks lightly, every sentence is in place, which will often make people agree and then laugh. This is the art of humor. A sense of humor can be cultivated, but I think the effect is limited. It is even more embarrassing for a person who lacks life experience, knowledge and rigid thinking to deliberately cultivate a sense of humor.

"It's just a joke", "You can't afford to joke", "It makes you angry, you have no sense of humor" ... Everyone should have had some unpleasant experiences with these words when growing up, or in the student days, some people often played pranks. In adolescence, we can't tell jokes from tricks, care too much about the eyes of our peers, or just need each other to add "I'm kidding"

When I grow up and step into the workplace, I often wonder if I am too serious and lack a sense of humor when I face the yellow jokes in the office and sometimes even the women beside me laugh with me. Or do the women who follow the conversation feel funny from the bottom of their hearts?

What's so funny?

Humor is up to those who "listen"!

According to a statistic of 20 19, the sense of humor of people in Taiwan Province province ranks. Ranked 15 in 22 countries, compared with men in other countries, men in Taiwan Province Province are the best at using offensive humor. I think "offensive humor" is the worst. I think it's quite funny, teasing each other's physical or psychological defects, and then adding, "I'm joking, so I'm angry and have no sense of humor!" " Defending yourself, even accusing the other party of not measuring enough, getting angry and irritable, is really turning right from wrong. The quality of humor is not determined by the speaker, but by the listener.

Humor is difficult to cultivate for people with limited knowledge and rigid thinking.

Humor is actually an attitude towards life. If a well-informed and modest person speaks lightly, every sentence is in place, which will often make people agree and then laugh. This is the art of humor. A sense of humor can be cultivated, but I think the effect is limited. A person who lacks life experience, knowledge and rigid thinking deliberately cultivates a sense of humor, which is even more embarrassing. People who use offensive humor often have a set of absolute views and standards that no one can surpass. It's stressful to get along with such people.

If you encounter offensive humor, you can fight back like this.

The next time you encounter offensive humor, in addition to responding: "This is not funny" and "Not funny at all", you can also say this:

"There are many kinds of humor, with affinity, self-mockery and aggression. You call this offensive humor, which is the most annoying one. 」

"Self-righteous humor, as a fig leaf of attack, just makes the nature of their ignorance clear at a glance. 」

"I don't need to empathize with your so-called humor, nor do I want to be assimilated by your rudeness and ignorance. 」

The principle of these responses is the same, that is, don't laugh awkwardly, don't be silent, and don't use your forbearance and obedience to gain the approval and pleasure of others. This will only make you more and more depressed and cynical, and become an adult who likes to complain about everything and hates yourself.

In order to make yourself more lovely, when facing offensive humor, we should fight back moderately.

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"This article is the author's view on cooperative innovation, not his position."