How to educate children and make them sensible and obedient?

Children’s disobedience is a common occurrence in life. The root cause is poor communication of information, and parents simply do not speak in a way that their children can understand and enforce them. If the child cannot digest the information, the parents will start to reprimand the child. The child is actually very aggrieved. So how can we prevent our children from the above situations? Don’t worry, today we will learn how to use four tricks to have an obedient child.

First, use silent actions to provide concrete demonstrations rather than abstract instructions

Is your child always disobedient? You have told the child a hundred times that he has not listened, and will destroy everything he sees. He will dance excitedly when the destruction is successful. You ask him to sit quietly, but he jumps up and down like a little monkey, climbing up and down. Be honest, move around and make you yell and get angry?

To make your child "obedient", you must first make sure that the child really understands. For children, they usually don't understand the instructions you give, and they are used to the state of "not understanding".

Silent movements allow children to directly see the meaning of the instructions you give, which are simple, clear, and easy to understand and understand. Therefore, concrete demonstrations with silent actions are better than abstract instructions. The method is for parents to demonstrate it themselves so that their children can see it more clearly.

For example: If you say "Quiet, don't make a sound" to your child, you have to shut your mouth quietly and don't speak to demonstrate for yourself what "quiet, don't make a sound" means. .

If you tell your child "put on a mask", you should put on the mask first and show it to your child.

So, for a child, less abstract instructions and more specific demonstrations of how to do it will help the child understand. So, what are abstract instructions? Which situation is an abstract instruction?

Abstract instructions are instructions using abstract language.

For example: You say to your child: "Sit well", because you only say "sit well", but you do not tell the child how to sit to be called "sit well". In the child's eyes, kneeling on the chair may It’s also called “sit tight”! So the instructions you give often have little effect. And when the instructions you give to your children are simple behavioral standards, such as "butt next to the chair", then the children will understand it as soon as they hear it.

Therefore, it turns out that in order for preschool children to understand and obey, specific and direct visual stimulation is more effective, and abstract language is too difficult for them to respond. Therefore, if you can demonstrate, demonstrate as often as possible. A silent action from a parent is worth a thousand words.

Second, split complex tasks into multiple simple tasks

“No matter what parents say, the children just don’t understand!” Do your children also behave like this? In fact, the reason why children behave this way is because the task is too difficult and the children simply don’t know where to start. The most effective way is to split tasks.

For children, the more direct and simple instructions are easier to understand, and simple tasks are often easier to complete. Tasks that are too complex may really be incomprehensible to them. Therefore, splitting complex tasks into multiple simple tasks is the best choice for children to understand.

Splitting complex tasks into multiple simple tasks means splitting each complex task into multiple simple tasks that the child can perform.

The principle is to make children listen to their parents' instructions. This is particularly important, so we must pay special attention to cultivating children's ability to "obey" and break down all instructions so that children can understand them.

The specific method of splitting is to divide simple things into several steps, with gestures and demonstrations. Parents practice with their children, talking and demonstrating, to ensure that the children remember these contents so that as soon as the instructions are given, they can say and perform these steps like a conditioned reflex.

For example, if you ask the child to fold the quilt well, if you say "Baby fold the quilt well," it will be more general, and it will be difficult for the children to follow it because they simply don't know how to "fold the quilt well."

And when you demonstrate and say step by step: "Step 1, the baby first lays the quilt flat on the bed, then lifts both ends of the quilt and folds it back 1/4. This leaves the quilt One fold.

In the second step, we fold the quilt 1/3 from left to right.

The next step is to fold the quilt 1/3 from right to left. Fold the quilt into three layers.

In the final step 4, the baby folds the quilt from back to front into a square, then turns the quilt over and wraps it up with the remaining quilt. "At this time, you can summarize to your child: "Look, the quilt folded like this is neat and not easy to fall apart. Has your baby learned this? ”

After many trainings, the children will understand what “folding the quilt” means.

In fact, there are many instructions in life that you think are very simple, such as washing hands. , change clothes, put on shoes, but it is very complicated for children, and you need to patiently break down the steps. Don't assume that children can understand you. In fact, they may not understand.