Why do women become more and more indifferent when raising children by themselves?

human beings are very greedy creatures. He needs enough food, warm clothes, convenient travel, a lot of emotional interaction, all kinds of curiosity and a safe environment.

this needs a lot of money, time and energy as support. In a sense, human cub is a parasite. For a long time, he can't get these resources by himself, and there is no upper limit demand for resources with the growth of time.

China's general wage level, supporting the consumption of these resources, is difficult to reach a satisfactory level for all. Therefore, people often have a choice, of which meeting the needs of survival is of course the first, followed by the education of future survival skills of cubs, and finally the emotional companionship.

the last is often the least enough.

the lack of emotional companionship will certainly lead to the lack of emotional feedback skills. But those who give priority to emotional companionship without considering survival are starving [tears running] [tears running] [tears running] [tears running ]

Single women need help in raising children. The more help she gets, the more perfect children will grow and develop in all aspects. If she doesn't have a partner, or if her partner lives into an urban legend, most of the children she raises will be emotionally lacking because of lack of emotional companionship, which is a bit indifferent to put it bluntly.

This suggestion gives priority to seeking help from parents and grandparents and actively solving the problem of urban legends.

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this is a false proposition. It is not women who bring up children who will become more and more indifferent, but people who let a woman have strong control and or mental dependence on children will make children become more and more indifferent. If a mother is independent in spirit, gives her children enough respect and understanding, and at the same time makes them warm and love in the process of getting along with each other, and can also give them intimate care and guidance when they encounter difficulties and confusion, how can children alienate their indifferent mothers? Broad-minded, warm and caring, and have a certain knowledge of personnel, which is the homework for mothers.

1: Maybe you are short-sighted, and you can't see Mount Tai for one leaf!

2: Maybe the disgruntled woman's emotions affect the children, and there are too many negative emotions.

3. Lack of optimism, cheerfulness and liveliness.

4: unsound personality.

5: Maybe I don't believe there is goodness in the world!

That depends on what this woman is like. If the mother is warm, the child will have temperature, and if the mother is resentful, the child will be cold and heartless.

If you bring up the child from an early age, you should give the child enough love and affirmation to make the child feel safe. Parents love him, get along with the child more, and encourage and strengthen when you see the advantages. Parents should pretend to be weak, for example, when eating, they should give their children a bite, take care of her feelings, and everyone should eat it together, so that she can feel that she is valued, kiss her often, express her love for her excellent places, express her love words, and often accompany her to be happy and tell her happy words

The problems of their respective personalities, effective communication and mutual respect. Even if you are born and brought up by yourself, you should pay attention to the way you get along and strengthen communication and understanding.

a conclusion that is not supported by quantitative data. Why do you ask everyone? Then think about why the more fat you eat, the thinner you get.

Some people say, "Don't persuade others to be kind until they have suffered. If others suffer, they may not be good. "

If a woman brings up a child by herself, you don't know what she's going through, and you don't reach out to help. When you are in trouble, you hope she can help you. If you don't help, you say she is indifferent. Where does this logic come from?

if my mother-in-law and mother don't help with the children, I will take care of them myself, but they have their own rhetoric and words. Bao Ma, I am not only physically tired, but also mentally tired!

My mother-in-law divorced when my husband was six years old, and she lived alone for so many years. She runs a small business selling cloth in her hometown in the countryside, that is, she goes to the market every day to sell some daily necessities such as quilt covers, sheets, small mats and quilts that are commonly used by ordinary people. My mother-in-law goes every day, rain or shine, and she can start her business by setting up a fixed booth. In rural areas, her daily income is ok. Her daily expenses and diabetes drugs and insulin are all spent on her own money. She has never asked us for living expenses, and sometimes even subsidizes us in the name of giving children. I am very grateful to my mother-in-law from the bottom of my heart.

My sister and I have two daughters in our family. According to the rural custom, my sister stayed at home to find a door-to-door son-in-law. It is proper for my mother to help my sister look after the children! At least in my mother's opinion, it should be! It's normal not to babysit for me!

Under normal circumstances in our hometown, there is a default custom that mother-in-law should help look after grandchildren.

After Xuanbao was born, my mother-in-law and my mother came to visit for a few days. Before the second month was finished, they all went back to their hometown with their own excuses. "I can't stop selling cloth." "Your sister's eight-month-old child needs to be taken care of." Later, my husband resigned to help me do the confinement. Xuanbao was brought up by myself all the time, and Mobao is now brought up by myself. Neither my mother-in-law nor my mother came to help. I have no resentment against them from the bottom of my heart. No matter who comes to help me, it is mutual affection. If you don't help me, it is your duty.

In recent years, I have taken care of my children by myself. I have never complained about my mother-in-law or forced my mother to help me, but they have always made me feel tired because of their own face problems!

I didn't want to take care of Xuanbao's parents myself a few years ago. First, in my parents' inherent concept, I have a mother-in-law, and it is only natural for her mother-in-law to help with the children. If my parents bring it, it will make people in the village laugh and even ridicule. Secondly, my parents think that I went to college and didn't go to work, but I took care of my children at home. To put it mildly, it's a pity for me. To put it bluntly, I'm still worried that people in the village will know and gossip. "What about going to college?" Still not taking children at home? " . My mother often says on the phone, "Let your mother-in-law take care of the children! When you finally asked me to call my sister, my sister began to persuade me. Are you able to stay at home now that you have gone to college? If you don't make money, you have to ask your brother-in-law for money! "

every time I go back to my mother's house to live for a period of time, if an outsider comes to my house to play and sees me taking care of the children, he says, "Why don't you help me take care of Xuanbao?" "That's no good. If I go to help take care of Xuanbao, what will outsiders say? Outsiders will say that my mother-in-law is better than her mother-in-law "

I resisted the pressure they gave me, and I still took care of the children myself, even if I took Xuanbao to kindergarten. My parents and my sister will beat me from time to time. I am really upset. I didn't ask them for help, but kept beating me.

My mother-in-law often does business in the market, and it is inevitable that she will meet people or neighbors in our village. I don't know if they are kind or have other meanings. She often asks my mother-in-law why she didn't come to help me with my children. After a long time and more times, my mother-in-law said in front of these people that our couple were selfish and indifferent. As long as Xuanbao had one child, she would help with the children if she wanted a second child! This is just for others. Seriously, my mother-in-law won't help me with my children!

I don't want anything from my mother-in-law and mother. For their own face, they can always find a reasonable excuse to bounce back to me. What can I do?

now that I have Mobao, I'm not taking it myself.

I just want to take care of Xuan Bao and Mo Bao quietly. I can bear the physical fatigue. I can take care of them if I give birth to them! Please also ask my mother-in-law and my mother to live their lives with peace of mind and stop beating me with words, because I don't want to be physically tired and mentally tired at the same time!

please don't call me cold!

where were you when I took care of the children by myself and couldn't eat?

where were you when I took my children to the toilet without help?

if you are in trouble now, how about trying alone?

First of all, it's a personality problem, which I think only accounts for a small part, because a woman who didn't come from a little girl, how simple, considerate and gentle she was at first, was finally defeated by life, and became the most dissatisfied bitch she didn't want to be.

Second,

What is family, and what are the initial intentions and commitments of two people at first? ! Too many families in China are almost the same, all because of the man's inaction after marriage and the mother-in-law's insolence, which leads to the transformation of women! There is no one who doesn't want to be gentle and lovely. Marriage is a life, not a love. After giving birth to a child after marriage, a woman quickly becomes a mother and suddenly becomes a strong woman! It is forced! Of course, China also has good men, husbands, fathers and mothers-in-law, but what is the proportion? ! Three out of ten is good! The rest is to make women more and more indifferent. Women are indifferent and irritable, which affects their children the most. In fact, I don't think every woman wants this and is forced by life! Therefore, the child raised in this way is also indifferent, and if he marries a wife again, he will be the shopkeeper of cutting and training a dissatisfied housewife and strong woman! Generation after generation goes on like this! Although some women have received higher education and want to do well, they will all be defeated by real life, otherwise there will be so many indifferent people!

I just saw one because, after 35 years of marriage, a woman asked for 3, yuan in compensation, and finally the court awarded 2, yuan. Ironically, no! ! Nowadays, society requires women to be beautiful, but also to make money, support their families and take care of their parents! Will have children! In the end, a woman is only worth 2 thousand after she has been a free nanny for a lifetime, so who wants to get married and have children, and can't she live alone? ! !

so don't always talk about how the children brought by the mother are and why the father went! The child ran out of thin air? ! ! Joke!