How to teach children who are afraid of being laughed at?

I once found in a children's playground in a park that a group of children were playing together, but one child would take the lead and stand in a row, breaking into waves and not playing with another child. Isolate another child and say to the isolated child, "Followers, we won't play with you." Other children who are assigned to a wave will also say "We don't want to play with followers".

I don't know the cause and effect, but it hurts me to see the neglected child's wronged expression.

Our doll once came back from kindergarten and was very depressed. She told me after I asked again and again. When playing games together in kindergarten, she didn't behave well. When their first team lost, some small classmates secretly called her "idiot".

I asked some mothers around me. When Eva encounters such a situation, people usually educate her children in these three ways:

In fact, these three methods are all solutions to problems, but relatively speaking, I prefer the third one.

Why do I prefer the third one? Because this expression will give children a higher "psychological status."

Children usually start to laugh at the language, not really want to laugh, but more want to attract the attention of the other party, attract attention or peer recognition. This language is more of a game for them.

She uses language to remotely control the victim's emotions, just like a remote control, and the words "idiot, fool" she says to you are more like a remote control, controlling your emotions. As soon as I touch this remote control, as long as you react, the bully will be emotional, and his behavior will be more exaggerated and further. As a result, the bully will repeatedly ridicule and the victim will be angry. ...

At this time, no matter whether you respond to the bully in the first or second way mentioned above, the bully gets feedback and he will only behave worse. At this time, you choose to ignore her. When she sees that her words have no effect on you again and again, she will not continue.

We usually encounter situations in which children are bullied. What measures should we take to solve them?

Children who are scolded or bullied outside must be in a bad mood. You should be happy to talk to your mother. At least if you have any problems, you should tell your parents. At this time, you must not ignore them or be absent-minded. I also want to ask my mother for comfort and help. First of all, you should calm your emotions and know more details. You can hold the baby and say:

Generally speaking, it is always the first step to know the specific situation to your baby in a peaceful mood. You can't ignore it, you can't be emotional, just go to theory yourself.

Be sure to tell your child that when others scold you or bully you, you can bravely stand up and say no to the bully.

If after communicating with your child, the child still bullies you in language or grabs your toys, you can leave this environment and seek help from teachers or parents.

What should the child do next after fighting back?

Ignore him and go somewhere else or find other children to play with.

Tell the child to leave after fighting back, and don't be angered by his language. Otherwise, after a period of time, two people may even make trouble. If you leave him alone, he will find it boring and will stop talking.

In this step, we can tell our children how to "trip" through scene demonstration at home. After a few more demonstrations, the children will have the confidence to implement it outside.

Through this example, we can see that firmly expressing one's position reflects the courage and momentum of the child to a certain extent, and also tells the other party their bottom line and principles:

I'm not afraid that your behavior offended me, and I have the confidence to fight back, but I choose to give you a chance to apologize to me, and stop being bullied now, and don't give the other party a chance to continue bullying yourself.

In reality, in too many cases, children are afraid to make their own reactions in unfamiliar environments, so they are silently wronged. When we encounter situations, we must communicate with our children more, do more situational performances and take more actions, and the children will take their own brave steps.