Three laws of love psychology

There are different opinions about the psychological law of love. I chose something easy to understand, hoping to help you.

First, the principle of altruism

At the beginning of a relationship, many people are saying "I am willing to give everything for the person I love", but as we spend more and more time together, we will subconsciously only think about what the other party has given us, thus forgetting what we want to give each other.

If you compare love to a bank, the principle is that the more things you deposit, the richer the return. But it is such a simple truth that two people have been together for a long time, but they have not noticed it.

The true meaning of love is not simple sacrifice, but active giving. Psychologically, we call this behavior the principle of altruism. When you give him everything you have, he will feel that it is better for you in turn.

Second, the halo effect

I've told you about the halo effect more than once. Develop strengths and avoid weaknesses, learn to amplify your strengths and weaken your weaknesses in front of your lover, so that he will feel that you are the perfect couples he is destined to be.

Beauty is in the eye of the lover, and the inner feelings have also risen to the extreme. Even if you look ordinary, he will think you are the most beautiful fairy in the world.

There is also the "widowed marriage" that many people often say recently. To put it bluntly, it is the lack of halo effect in love. He can't see your advantages, only your shortcomings, so he will carry out cold violence against you. Try to let him see your goodness, and then enlarge your goodness. I believe he will hold you in his hand.

Third, psychological compensation.

I have a couple by my side. My wife gives me the impression that she loves to talk and laugh, while my husband gives me the impression that she is silent and cold. Therefore, I have never understood why the two have such a big personality gap and can still be attached to each other.

Later, I discovered that there is a kind of "psychological compensation" for their way of getting along. No one in the world is perfect, and everyone's personality is different. When we see that others have our defects, we will be deeply attracted.

The husband likes his wife's glib tongue, and the wife also likes her husband's composure. This is psychological compensation in love. Therefore, when we get along with the other half, we should also compensate each other in character, because with this factor stirring in love, passion and romance will always exist.

Passion and romance can't be possessed at once. When their love reaches a peak, they will appear. Cherish the people who love you, don't think too much. Sometimes guessing is unreliable, but it will directly ruin a good relationship. The real lasting relationship is that you have me and I have you. We work together and grow together.