Why can't you listen?

A calm listener is not only popular everywhere, but also knows many things.

——[USA] Wilson.

The hostess will entertain guests for dinner that day, and the important main course is a rare grouper. In order to perfectly present the delicious taste of the fish in front of the guests, the hostess gave the chef instructions over and over again in detail, including how to steam it, the amount of heat and the length of time.

Finally, the hostess specifically explained how to display the fish: "Remember, use a silver plate to serve this fish, and add your usual decorations around it. Oh, speaking of decorations, I haven't put on makeup yet. !I told you this, do you understand? There should be exquisite decorations around the silver plate, and don’t forget to put a slice of lemon in your mouth.”

The chef nodded, and the hostess was busy dressing herself up. .

During the dinner, the guests and hosts enjoyed themselves. When the climax of the banquet arrived, the last main course of the dinner was served. However, when the chef brought the plate of steamed grouper to the table, the originally pleasant atmosphere at the banquet suddenly became quiet.

The grouper is placed on a silver plate, and it looks good in color, aroma and taste. The food decorations around the silver plate were also just as the hostess had ordered, and the chef who served the dish had a slice of lemon in his mouth, just as the hostess had ordered.

In modern society, the relationship between people is getting closer and closer, and the pace of life is accelerating. It seems that everyone's ability to listen is also decreasing day by day.

There are countless misunderstandings and jokes caused by not paying attention to listening. This story is just one of the easier ones to figure out. If you don't want to have similar consequences in your communication with others, you have to work more on your listening skills.

In addition to the basic courtesy of listening attentively and not interrupting the topic at will, knowing how to ask questions at the right time is an important part of improving listening skills.

The average person's thinking speed is several times faster than the ability to speak. This is true for the speaker, and the same is true for the listener. The main communication misunderstanding, the problem lies here. Because the thinking speed is too fast, the speaker sometimes has difficulty expressing his true feelings, and the listener is more likely to misinterpret the words he hears in his own thinking. In this way, there is a difference of thousands of miles.

The solution lies in listening carefully, repeating the words you cannot fully understand with your own thoughts at the appropriate time, and confirming them with the other party. In this way, the level of misunderstandings in communication will also be minimized.