Look at how Americans view our parents of international students

Abstract: Mothers of international students from all over the world come to the United States to visit their children. Most of them stay in hotels. They arrange their itinerary in an orderly manner before departure, so as not to disturb the normal life order of their children. They either invite their children to travel with them on weekends, or have dinner with them at their own hotel. They wished each other well as they parted ways with their children. But mothers of Chinese international students are different. What is the difference?

Mothers of international students from all over the world come to the United States to visit their children. Most of them stay in hotels. They arrange their itineraries in an orderly manner before setting off, so as not to disturb their children's normal life.

They either invite their children to travel with them on the weekends, or have dinner with their children at their own hotel. Then when walking around the city, there are very few daily necessities brought in large and small bags. Parents who are familiar with American culture will not spend energy bringing daily necessities that their children do not need and impose them on their children. When they break up with their children, they wish each other well, wish you happiness, wish you happiness, wish you good luck, mother loves you, etc.

Chinese mothers are different. Although many people also know that the United States is extremely rich in material, they must bring a lot of things when they come to visit their children. They must live in the children’s dormitories. Regardless of whether they have money or not, they must live with their children. , even though businessmen in coastal cities have the money and financial strength to stay in high-end hotels. This is our way of life. Living together with our children is the only way to be close to them. Then the mothers began to practice, helping their children wash clothes and cooking for their children. Whether the children liked it or not, they had to make a refrigerator full of steamed buns, dumplings, and braised pork. In fact, these international students are very busy studying and have no time to come back for lunch. The Chinese mother looks at the child helplessly and asks, "Then you won't come back?" That expression means that you can't spare time to spend more time with your mother. ?

Of course the child couldn't bear it. His mother traveled across the ocean to see him, so couldn't he come back early for lunch? He would come back for lunch every day for a month. After studying in the afternoon, I came back for dinner. Sometimes when we go home and have dinner and we get excited and talk, the Chinese mother rubs her feet, pats her back, and massages her neck beside her, which makes her child fall into a soft family relationship and not want to go to evening study. In one month, I failed all three subjects.

A Chinese mother, an English professor at a well-known university in Shanghai, came to visit her son. My son attends a high school. I told her that American law stipulates that parents cannot live with children of the opposite sex who are over 5 years old. Don't talk about sharing a bed. She smiled, said gently and elegantly, "It doesn't matter, I am his mother and no one else."

I once solemnly told her that American neighbors have a strong sense of citizenship and they will report it. She refused to listen to me and said: I will only stay for a month. She and her son share a room and bed. As a result, she was reported by her roommate, and the court ruled that she was sexually abused and deported.

Chinese mothers often cry when they part with their sons, and tell them to be careful, as if they are surrounded by liars and life is a trap. Children are also told to be careful when they go to school, put away their schoolbags and computers, while American mothers often say have fun.

Who can send their children to study abroad without money? Some Chinese mothers are very high-profile because they have money, and wear all brand-name clothes. Chinese people who have lived in the United States for a long time will laugh at them as "bumpkin blossoms." Where is the soil? What clothes Americans wear on different occasions and what daily necessities they use are very detailed. Even if a homeless person picks up rags and stuff like this, he will put it to this type of use and refuse to mix it up. Take handbags as an example. Rich Americans usually use small handbags and wear dark and bright clothes when they go out to eat or attend events at night. Flashy clothes cannot be worn during the day. You can’t use LV bags when traveling, which makes people laugh. You should use outdoor bags, bags for outdoor activities. Chinese mothers’ LV bags are suitable for shopping for groceries and swimming.

Chinese mothers like to walk around in pajamas and regard pajamas as casual wear. Their children are several students sharing a house. *** uses the kitchen and *** uses the bathroom. Chinese mothers must live in the dormitory for their children. Went in and out wearing pajamas and pajamas.

When someone tried to dissuade her and told her that pajamas should be worn in the bedroom, the mothers looked disapproving. These children are all like my son and have nothing to do with my old lady. As a result, he was unfortunately sued by a local international student for sexual harassment and was evicted by his landlord as an unwelcome tenant. Everything in America is controlled under the law. The landlord evicting the tenant is not what we imagined, it means that he won't let you live and will move out next month. Go to court to apply for an eviction order. Once this order is issued, you must move out within a limited time, and you will have to leave a very bad record. It will be very difficult to find a house or a job in the future, and it may even affect your immigration application for a green card.

A Chinese mother from Hainan, a university professor, likes to cook. In the United States, most people eat milk and coffee for breakfast and a sandwich, fruits and vegetables for lunch. The open kitchen does not fry, pays attention to health, and does not eat random food, even deep-fried food. My mother from Hainan, China, has to fry egg pancakes, steam fish, cook porridge, and cook soup for two hours for breakfast. She gets up very early every day to cook. All houses in the United States have smoke-sensitive alarms. The alarms go off whenever she cooks. In order to prevent the alarms from going off, she built a ladder and covered the smoke-sensitive alarms with plastic bags. As a result, he was sued by his roommate for damaging facilities. The alarms are all connected to the fire station. Her child’s roommate had an eye surgery and could not see clearly. Another felony was added: violating the right of disabled people to live. It’s really impossible to wash yourself away by jumping into the Yellow River.

Chinese mothers are often worried about their children choosing a major in college. However, Americans can start over at any time in life. They can change majors at any time after entering college. Generally, American college students will change their majors during college. Go. When Chinese mothers choose a major for their children, they first focus on popularity, thinking that it will make it easier to find a job. They rarely consider their children’s hobbies and potential, and often let their children realize their unrealized life regrets.

A boy from Dalian, whose mother had been divorced since he was born, worked alone to make money, went out to give lectures and lived frugally, and suffered from various chronic diseases. When her son chose his favorite major in the United States, his mother was so angry that he had a heart attack. Then his aunt, grandma, and father lined up to persuade him to change his major. The child answered several phone calls every day to listen to instructions. This is incredible for American parent educators. Later, her mother died of a heart attack after resuscitation failed. The child also committed suicide after hearing the news of her mother's death. This is the story of a Chinese mother who once caused a sensation in a community school.

The most common saying among Chinese mothers is that the child belongs to me, I gave birth to it, and I raised it. I am responsible for his life and I want to dedicate his life to him. In fact, mothers really don’t understand that everyone is just a small part of someone else’s life. The lingering affection that Chinese mothers have for their children is something that even American mothers would be unable to understand even to death. This is a deep cultural background difference. There was an old professor who brought 100,000 yuan to the United States to buy a house for her children, but she cut her own hair in front of the mirror.

The emergence of the "Chinese Mom" ??cultural phenomenon may not lie in understanding the specific laws of a certain country, but in the huge differences between lifestyles and concepts and other countries in the world. But no matter what, the original intention of Chinese mothers is the most selfless, and it can even be said that they sacrifice themselves to help their children.

This year, May 10th is Mother’s Day. On this day, many people will send carnations to their mothers.

Why give carnations as Mother’s Day gifts? This originated from the first Mother’s Day commemorative stamps issued by the United States in May 1934. On the stamp, a kind mother puts her hands on her knees and looks with joy at a bouquet of bright and beautiful carnations in the vase in front of her. With the spread of stamps, many people associate Mother's Day with carnations. Carnations have become a flower that symbolizes maternal love and are respected by people. Carnations are associated with Mother’s Day. People place their feelings of missing and honoring their mothers on carnations, and carnations have become an indispensable and precious gift for mothers.

The flower language of carnations is warmth.

Most carnations represent love, charm and respect. Light red represents admiration and dark red represents deep love and care. Pure white represents pure love and luck; patterned carnations represent an apology when rejecting a advances. Pink carnations have the most important symbolic and historical significance, so pink carnations have become a symbol of immortal maternal love.

Carnation: the great, sacred and kind mother

Red carnation: I wish my mother health and longevity

Pink carnation: I wish my mother to be young and beautiful forever

Yellow carnations: long-lasting friendship

White carnations: pure friendship

I hope it will be helpful to you and hope you will adopt it.