You're right, me too, workplace communication.

You're right, me too, workplace communication.

When my colleagues visited ten years ago, it was naturally good wine and funny. There is a little smoky smell between flowers and potato chips. The so-called "one article is hot with wine", although it did not "push down the adjacent wall and push down the bed", it did attract "clapping and laughing on the sidelines".

My friend suddenly said to me, "Do you remember when you argued with the people in the finance department in the office next to your boss? It seems that you dropped the phone in a rage for the commission of the business people below you?" The general manager was in the office next door! I felt at that time that you were particularly argumentative, always trying to find out what was ugly. But tonight, you seem to be a different person and don't like to argue. "

I thought about it and said the following:

Brother, first of all, I didn't know the boss was in the next office, so I thought there was no one! Otherwise, you dare not lend me two courage.

A friend smiled knowingly.

Second, not only you, but even I feel that my ideas have changed a lot. Weber Young, an advertising guru, once said, "Some advertisements can't be written before you are old, and you can only write them after you gain some experience in your life." Similarly, there are some truths that you can't understand until you are a certain age and have experienced something. China also has a saying that describes a teenager, a mature man and an old man's three different moods when listening to the rain, from "the red candle is faint" to "the river is wide and the clouds are low, and the geese are whistling in the west wind", and then to "the temples are full of stars, and the joys and sorrows are always ruthless, and the next step is dripping into the morning". As I grew older, I changed from a young man in his prime to a middle-aged man who married a young woman. Many ideas have changed, and I have many feelings. Always feel that today is different from yesterday.

Third, China people like "three", such as "Tao gives birth to one, life gives birth to two, life gives birth to three and life gives birth to everything"; For example, the three moods of listening to the rain just mentioned; For example, the pursuit of career, from "alone on a tall building, looking at the horizon", to "clothes are getting wider and wider, and people are gaunt for Iraq", and then to "suddenly looking back, that person is in the dim light"; Another example is the three realms of Zen: at the beginning of Zen, seeing mountains is mountains, water is water, seeing mountains is not mountains, water is not water, then seeing mountains or mountains, and water is still water. Come to think about it carefully, and barely sum up, this decade's understanding of communication at work has also gone through three stages.

The first stage: "I am right and you are wrong". At this stage, I always feel that everything I say is right and the truth is in my hands. I know the market best in the front line, and people in other departments of the company don't know the market at all, so anything that doesn't conform to what I think is right must be wrong. Of course, you are wrong. If you do this, it will definitely cause losses to the market and will not improve sales performance. It is natural to fight for who is right and who is wrong. At this time, my colleagues around me commented on me the most: Wei Chao is really a very capable person, except for his hot temper.

The friend nodded his head, expressing his great agreement.

The second stage: "I am right, so are you". With more and more work experience, I gradually realize that I may not be right. Although I don't agree with my colleagues around me, others can get good grades and contribute to the company. Many things in those days, now that I think about it, do have other people's reasons. But at this stage, I still think I am right in essence, so the starting point when communicating with my colleagues is: "I was right at first", and then consider "standing in your position, maybe you are right." At this time, there are still many disputes with colleagues around me, and often the final result is that no one can convince anyone.

The third stage is the attitude of "You are right, so am I".

It sounds similar to the second stage, but the starting point at this time is to affirm that colleagues around you are "in your position, according to the information you have, your point of view is right", then consider whether the information you have is accurate, and then listen carefully to colleagues' views on things to see how much the information you have is different from what I understand, instead of judging who is right and who is wrong first. On this basis, finally, let's see if our views can be integrated to form a solution to the problem. You may say: this is not an unprincipled compromise. My experience is that many things are not absolutely right or wrong. Some things seem wrong at first glance, but you can achieve your goal by persisting. When the human resources director of my current company communicates with me, the more I think about it, the more reasonable it becomes, that is, when you think others are completely wrong, others see you the same way. At this stage, my obvious feeling is that there are fewer disputes with colleagues around me, but things are often solved smoothly.

Let me tell another joke: the two armies are at war and the situation is fierce. At this time, Party A gave the order to charge, but a soldier turned around and ran back. The officer of Party A stopped the soldier and asked sharply, "Where are you going?" The soldier replied, "sir, the enemy's firepower in front is too strong." I want to go around the earth and go around the enemy's rear to attack them. "

Do you find it ridiculous? My friend laughed out loud. Why?

You think it's funny, because you think it's obvious that soldiers are afraid of death and want to be deserters, but you just make up an absurd reason to talk nonsense, right? But if I want to tell you that this is a war between planets, they fight by flying saucers, and they only need a short time to circle the earth. Do you still think this soldier wants to be a deserter?

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