How to educate the bride about sex in ancient times? Sex education of ancient women

In ancient times, the concept of sex was extremely conservative, so what if on their wedding night, girls knew nothing and knew nothing? In fact, before marriage, ancient women generally received sex education.

In ancient times, adult women were not allowed to contact strange men before marriage, let alone cultivate feelings with their fiance before marriage. On their wedding day, they will have real sex with strange men.

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Will definitely avoid the bride's period. In the past, it was necessary to choose an auspicious day for marriage, which was called "wedding day" or "watching the day". Generally, the man looks for local geomantic omen, and calculates the best wedding date according to the zodiac signs and birth dates of both men and women. After the "wedding day" is set, the man should entrust the matchmaker to bring some gifts to the woman's house to "send the day". If the woman's family receives this day, the big day will be fixed. If the date is returned by the woman's family, it means that there is something wrong with this date and it needs to be rescheduled. So what's the problem?

It's not that the days are unlucky, mainly because girls can't have sex during their periods. At this time, the man's parents will bring gifts and ask Mr. Feng Shui to set a date again. The date set by Mr. Feng Shui must be about 15 days later or earlier than last time. Because menstruation is extremely sensitive, people can't ask it directly, so they use this method of "celebrating a happy day" to solve this thorny problem. The matchmaker sends a new wedding day, and the family follows. However, as we all know, the delay or advance of menstrual period is about 15 days, which happens to be the ovulation period of women, and there are no good contraceptive measures before, so it is not uncommon for newlyweds to get pregnant on their honeymoon.

Modern medicine has proved that both husband and wife are not suitable for having children because of fatigue, drinking and other factors when they are newly married, so Mr. Feng Shui at that time knew the date, but did not know the knowledge of reproductive health. There is also a kind of "happy event", that is, Mr. Feng Shui chooses two days at a time, one day in the first half of the year and one day in the second half of the year for the woman's mother to choose, also to avoid the bride's menstrual period.

Ambiguous sex education

In the past, people were very conservative. Many newlyweds blush at a glance before they get married. What's more, they got engaged just through a word from the matchmaker. It is very embarrassing for two people who have never met to have intimate contact at night. Therefore, the day before the bride's wedding, the mother should make a surprise attack and do a good job in her daughter's sex education, so as to avoid her daughter being scared silly by the real knife and gun.

There is a special sex education tool called "wardrobe bottom". Most of the civilian houses are porcelain cups and dishes, while the aristocratic houses are carved out of ivory with "yellow paintings" painted inside, so that the bride has a basic psychological preparation. Making trouble in the bridal chamber is also a kind of sex education. As the saying goes, "a new wife won't last three days." After entering the bridal chamber, men and women, old and young, can enter the room to "see the new wife", the Doby bride, and turn the shy yellow flower girl into a generous daughter-in-law.

More importantly, when making trouble in the bridal chamber, everyone should let the couple do all kinds of intimate, hidden but targeted actions to dispel the strangeness and shyness of the bride and groom and pave the way for that exciting moment. This is the "foreplay" in which everyone participates. Making trouble in the bridal chamber is actually expressing an ambiguous sex education: that's it, that's it.

After the evolution of dynasties and the different customs in different places, the form of the wedding night will change endlessly. No matter how it changes, it is related to sex education, so "education" is not important, but related to sex. It is said that there was a wedding custom in Ming dynasty, that is, putting a flower mat upside down on the bride's bed and asking the bride to turn it over. Someone asked, "Did you turn it over?"

The bride is naturally ashamed to answer, but the troublemaker will definitely pursue it until the bride blushes and says, "It's overturned!" " "This is probably the most civilized version of the bridal chamber swearing. On such occasions, yellow jokes can naturally be popular, and pornographic lantern riddles are commonplace. So many shy girls grow into crazy young women overnight, probably because of the sex education of those who have sex. In the erotic novel "The Meat Futon" by Li Yu, a scholar in Qing Dynasty, the daughter of Tiefei Daochang is "fragrant" and "as beautiful as flowers and jade, no one can compare with her". "After reading the whole book, she can write all the poems and songs". But this girl has never been out of the house, and she only has book knowledge about things outside. " His boudoir is strict, he doesn't burn incense, and he doesn't come out to watch the meeting. /kloc-at the age of 0/6, he never appeared in his early years. "

How can such a girl have sex education?

After the protagonist Weiyangsheng married her, she found some erotic paintings to show her, which is actually a kind of sexual inspiration.

Another way is to solve the problem by "disturbing the room". In the old society, men and women often never met before they got married. Through this reckless "disturbing the room", the two newcomers became more or less familiar before entering the bridal chamber.

At the same time, we can also strengthen the progressive explanation and education through this noise.

In some places, the bridal chamber is noisy, and it is amazing that my mother-in-law actually teaches new people in the bridal chamber night.