The disadvantages of living together after divorce (some couples still live together after divorce)

Illustration: Stills from the movie "The Man Caught by the Light"

Speaking of divorce, everyone is accustomed to it. Sometimes many couples decide to separate, not because they have encountered big problems. The difficulty was that they had different ideas and no longer wanted to live together reluctantly, so they ended the marriage. Or sometimes the marriage cannot continue because of the discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

As long as you want a divorce, you can always find a suitable reason.

However, there is such a situation in real life, and it is becoming more and more common, that is: divorce without leaving home. Although they are no longer husband and wife, they still live under the same roof. In the eyes of others, they are still the same as before, without much difference.

Some people are divorced but are still willing to live with their loved ones. They hope that their children will not be harmed, but in fact, is it really just for the children? In fact, children are just an excuse. The following practical reasons are really worth pondering.

1: Get used to each other's company

Lin Yutang once said: "On the battlefield of life, husband and wife are the best teammates and partners. In the face of the stormy waves of life, rescue each other. Like the right and left hands."

As a husband and wife, each other has experienced some tests in life. When you were in the most difficult time, the other party gave you the most sincere love and care, so even if you are divorced, you are already used to it. Without each other's company, it is difficult to enter a new life and will want to continue living together. Although the love is gone, the company of the past cannot be separated immediately.

They say they don’t leave home for the sake of their children, but most people actually do it for themselves.

Yu Shan had been married to her ex-husband for six years. She was the kind of girl who needed love to maintain a relationship. However, life after marriage was too trivial. Her husband had become no longer romantic and even There are no surprises on wedding anniversaries.

The two quarreled more and more, and neither of them wanted to make do with each other anymore, but after the divorce, they did not choose to leave home.

In life, each other has become accustomed to their own company and care. In the past, Yu Shan rarely discovered the advantages of her ex-husband, and always felt that all his thoughts were on work.

But after the divorce, I discovered that life with my ex-husband is still relatively comfortable. After she divorced her ex-husband, she tried to live alone. The water pipes at home leaked, or the light bulbs broke, etc. She couldn't handle it without her ex-husband's help.

The same goes for her ex-husband. Without Yu Shan to take care of the housework, he can only eat takeout every day, and there are dirty clothes everywhere in the house that need to be washed. In the end, the two decided not to separate but to continue living together.

They are embarrassed to admit their needs, so they use their children as an excuse, hoping to take better care of their children, but in fact they are inseparable in life.

Two: Not ready to move out

Divorce is very simple. As long as two people agree, they can quickly resume their single life. But some couples didn't really want to divorce. They just said impulsive and extreme words during a quarrel, but they didn't expect it to become a reality in the end. Neither of them is ready to move out and will continue to live together after the divorce.

Single life is not simple. After divorce, you have to find a new place to live. You have lived in your previous home for several years, and you are very familiar with the surrounding environment and people. Under such circumstances, it can be difficult to find a suitable new home.

Therefore, many divorced young people do not know what kind of life they will face after divorce, and they are not ready to move out. Instead, they take it one step at a time.

Three: We still love each other in our hearts

Prudhomme wrote in "The Milky Way": "Understand the pain of being so far away, and understand the infinite alienation in the crowded crowd. , and you and me, like two seemingly adjacent stars, burn out in eternal loneliness.

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Love is so beautiful, but people with different views will have problems in their marriage sooner or later. We used to know each other so well that we thought we could grow old together and never be separated again. But after a divorce, apart from having identical children, if they are completely separated, they will already be strangers to each other.

After moving, the lives of two people will really not have much intersection. . There is no third party, no excessive quarrels, but people who have different ideas and can no longer continue to be husband and wife, but the love in their hearts still exists, will choose to continue living together.

Children are just their excuse. , because they have never let go of each other.

Li Man and her ex-husband have been divorced for more than a year, but they have not separated and still live together. They are college classmates and have always had a good relationship. .

But after getting married, Li Man has a high pursuit of career. She hopes to give her children the best life, but her ex-husband is a man who prefers stability. He wants a simple life and hopes that the couple can live happily together. They were able to spend more time together.

Because they were together less and separated more, the relationship gradually faded. But Li Man actually loved her ex-husband very much, and her ex-husband also had feelings for Li Man. They just want different lives.

Although they have divorced, they still continue to live together, and neither of them has a new partner. In Li Man's heart, her love for her ex-husband has never changed. .

Some couples still live together after divorce. Children are just an excuse. The above three practical reasons are worth pondering.

Habits are a process that is difficult to change, and some couples are in love. , it is difficult to get over the pain after a breakup, let alone a married couple. They live together every day and take care of each other in life, so when they divorce, although the love is no longer there, they have already become accustomed to each other. Companionship will definitely bring a lot of inconvenience.

Especially for men, in marriage, they have their wives to take care of them, so they don’t need to do housework, and they can eat directly when they get home from get off work. After divorcing their ex-wife, they have to deal with everything by themselves, and their lives will definitely lose their direction, so even if they divorce their ex-wife, they will still continue to live together.

Today's young couples have different personalities. They are more self-centered and decide to divorce once they feel uncomfortable.

They are not ready to move out. The reason for not leaving home after divorce is not because of their children, but because they are not doing well. Plan for your future.

A psychologist once said: "Everyone of us has a guide to find his ideal partner subconsciously. ”

But it is a pity that marriage is a process in which ideals are gradually shattered. We once loved each other deeply and thought we were suitable for each other. But when we really entered the marriage, we discovered the path we were going to take. It may not be the same.

For those who continue to live together after divorce, it is because they still love each other. Although they are not willing to accept the true state, love is something that is difficult to control and can only wait. Time takes away all feelings.

It is very common for people to stay home after divorce. After a divorce, some people will find their own problems and be willing to get along with each other again as friends. After getting back together, they will eventually choose to remarry. But some people can only be separated in this life. When one party meets a more suitable partner, the two will take completely different paths.

They have become their own excuses. The real reasons for not leaving home after divorce are just the above. No matter what happens between you, you should treat your feelings rationally and don't make impulsive decisions.

There is no perfect lover in this world. Only by learning to be tolerant and considerate can we cherish our current happiness and strive to live a good life.

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