How to pass the delivery smoothly? Three psychological preparations for pregnant mothers

Be pregnant in October and give birth once.

In the late pregnancy, are you looking forward to the arrival of the baby on the one hand and worrying about the delivery process on the other?

Can you give birth naturally? Can you cut it horizontally? Can I stand the pain during childbirth? Is my child healthy?

Almost all first-time mothers worry about the delivery process in the last few weeks of pregnancy.

In fact, childbirth is a normal, natural and healthy process. Being mentally prepared before delivery can guide you through the delivery smoothly.

In the process of delivery, what kind of psychological state should pregnant mothers take to meet delivery? What kind of influence will natural delivery and caesarean section have on children?

In this psychological column written for mothers, I talk to you about the psychological preparation of pregnant mothers for childbirth.

1, learn the related knowledge of delivery in advance, and understand the labor process scientifically.

The whole delivery process can be divided into three stages, as shown in the following figure.

▲ Excerpted from Robert S.Feldman's Psychology of Child Development.

The first stage lasts the longest, possibly from a few hours to a day.

The initial contractions generally do not last for pain, but the interval is 10-20 minutes, and each contraction lasts for 20-40 seconds. As this process continues, contractions become more powerful, frequent and regular. The last contractions are about every 2 minutes, each lasting about 2 minutes.

When the baby appears in the birth canal, the second stage of delivery begins.

The second stage takes less time than the first stage, and lasts for a few minutes or hours. The contraction at this time expands the skin around the birth canal and pushes the baby forward.

The doctor will choose whether to perform lateral incision according to the situation at that time. This stage ends when the baby is born.

▲ Excerpted from "The Story of Your Life-Approaching Developmental Psychology" by Spencer Lathers.

In order to clear the obstacles of the baby's respiratory tract, when the baby's head appears from the birth canal, the mucus in his mouth is sucked out. When the baby could breathe by himself, his umbilical cord was broken, and now the mother and the baby are completely separated.

When these procedures are carried out, the mother enters the third stage of delivery.

The duration is from a few minutes to 1 hour or longer. At this stage, the placenta is separated from the uterine wall and excreted through the birth canal, and some bleeding is normal. This stage is the easiest stage in the whole delivery process.

Knowing the whole delivery process is a particularly good help for pregnant mothers. Knowing in advance during pregnancy can reassure you.

2. Learn Lamaze's breathing pain reduction method and use deep breathing to help delivery.

Burke's "Psychology of Lifelong Development" wrote: "An anxious and fearful woman will tighten her muscles during childbirth, turning mild pain accompanied by intense contractions into severe pain."

Therefore, knowing the knowledge of childbirth in advance will keep you in a good psychological state when you encounter childbirth.

Next, I'd like to introduce Rameze's breathing analgesia. I have been using it during pregnancy, which is very helpful for the whole process of delivery.

Lamaze childbirth breathing method is an exercise method for pregnant women before childbirth, also known as psychological preventive childbirth preparation method.

This delivery mode is a learning process of neuromuscular control, prenatal gymnastics and breathing skills training from the seventh month of pregnancy to delivery.

Lamaze childbirth breathing method can effectively make the parturient focus on the control of their own breathing during childbirth, so as to transfer pain, moderately relax muscles, and confidently remain calm during labor and childbirth, so as to speed up the labor process and let the baby be born smoothly.

This method, if expressed in words, is difficult to understand, so I recommend a video for you.

The first half of the video is the introduction of Rameze's breathing pain reduction method, followed by instructions on how to practice. You can try to practice every day, which can effectively relieve the pain caused by uterine contraction.

3, delivery method, follow the trend

At present, most of the articles we read will encourage pregnant women to give birth naturally. There is an image metaphor in obstetrics: babies who give birth naturally come out of the door, and babies who have caesarean section come out of the wall.

In the process of natural childbirth, children will receive the earliest, most important and powerful experience and learning process of touch, vestibule and proprioception.

In particular, the squeezing of the head activates the nerve cells in the child's brain, which is the first time he has actively participated in the "sensory integration" training.

Therefore, many people think that the probability of sensory disorder in children with caesarean section is higher than that in children with natural delivery.

Of course, the choice of delivery method is not for us to decide. I have such a mother around me, bent on giving birth naturally. Results The conditions of the fetus did not meet, so we had to have a caesarean section.

The mother's psychology has always been very guilty, feeling that she was not ready, did not let the child give birth naturally, and owed the child.

Having children has always reminded us that there are many things we can't choose.

There is such a case in Burke's Psychology of Lifelong Development:

From 65438 to 0955, Amy Werner and Ruth Smith began to follow up nearly 700 babies in Kauai. They experienced mild, moderate or severe delivery complications respectively. According to socioeconomic status and race, every baby is matched with a healthy newborn.

The results show that the possibility of long-term problems will increase if the delivery trauma is very serious. But for children with mild or moderate trauma, the best predictor of their later development is the quality of family environment.

Children who grow up in stable families have almost the same intellectual and psychological adaptability as children who give birth naturally.

Research in Kauai tells us that a supportive family environment can restore children's growth as long as the childbirth injury is not devastating.

However, the most interesting cases in this study are a few exceptions. Some children with severe delivery complications and poor family environment eventually grow up to be excellent adults, and they are as good as the control group in terms of career achievements and psychological adaptation.

This is the importance of looking at everything in life from a developmental perspective. Whether it is a natural delivery or a caesarean section, it is not the only key indicator to determine whether a child can grow up healthily.

You see, there is no clear answer to the mode of delivery. Whether it is a natural delivery or a caesarean section, the specific mode needs to be determined according to the situation at that time. Whether the husband can accompany the baby is different from hospital to hospital.

In fact, as mothers, our mentality adjustment is the most important. Face the newborn in the most relaxed way, and accept it completely no matter what the final choice is.

The growth and development of a child depends not only on the initial physiological conditions, but also on the social and material environment in which he lives later. If the environment is better the day after tomorrow, the initial impact will gradually decrease.

So, if your child is born by caesarean section, don't worry too much. He has his own growth rhythm, and there are many sports and lifestyles the day after tomorrow, which can help children grow up healthily.

Let's let go of our anxiety, look forward to the wonderful process of delivery and welcome the arrival of the newborn baby! I believe this mentality is the best gift for newborn babies.

author

Ma Guo Li Xuan: Ma Guo is the founder of reading and a famous storyteller. Disassemble 3-4 books around a theme every month, accompany your mother to grow up with your own cases and interpretations, and relieve her anxiety about parenting. At present, I have read 37 topics, interpreted books 130 Yu Ben, and taught books 1000 for more than days. Sina Weibo @ Malaysia Li Xuan.