The so-called push your luck, that is, there is no discretion!

The so-called push your luck, that is, there is no discretion!

Without proper restrictions, it is easy to take others' preferences for granted; Without proper restrictions, people will not be satisfied with their studies.

Just like the beggar in the story, if you give him ten dollars a day, he will hate you as long as you don't give it or give it less a day. This is a man without discretion!

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Writer San Mao once said: "No matter how close a friend is, don't lose your sense of proportion." We thought we were familiar with each other. As a result, we were isolated. " .

There's a problem on Zhihu. Can you accept that your boyfriend and other girls drink the same bowl of hot soup?

The top three answers:

Any relationship should keep a certain distance.

Too much is too late!

China people always pay attention to "degree".

"full loss, little gain",

"If the water is clear, there will be no fish, and if people look at it, there will be no disciples."

"the injury will not last long" and "joy begets sorrow"

This "degree" is a measure.

Good friends of the opposite sex who are single with each other can, of course, talk about everything and get along at will. But once one party has a boyfriend and girlfriend, the other party should pay attention to the square inch and know how to avoid suspicion. This is not alienation, but the wisdom and boundary of growth. Grasping the appropriate boundaries in the communication between friends of the opposite sex is a respect for others and for yourself.

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We all like sincerity and know that no one is perfect, but those who often stab you with a knife may love you, but they are certainly not the best lovers.

As Zhou said, "sincerity will become a joke if you don't talk about the object and the sense of proportion."

When friends have a dinner party, a woman who talks about her husband in public may love him, but she must not be the best lover.

People who speak directly always say that they are outspoken. At the smallest, they did not measure; To the greatest extent, they are selfish.

The same is true between lovers. Small works are pleasing to the eye, while big works hurt the body.

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Geoffrey said in The Root of the Pain of Family Relations: China people generally lack a sense of boundaries.

If you don't grasp this boundary well, you will inevitably lose your sense of proportion. It is easy to attach your own affairs to others, and others will accuse and hold grudges if they don't reply.

As everyone knows, you can only do your own thing.

Sometimes, when a friend spits out his partner to us, all a friend needs is your listening, not your comments; This is your company, not an afterthought.

I hope that each of us can find our own position properly and grasp our own discretion.

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Being a suitable person is the highest level. In fact, mastering the scale of life is equivalent to mastering your own destiny. Doing things just right is also a science of life!

Some people are successful not only because of their intelligence and diligence, but also because of their insight into human nature. They know what is appropriate, what is just and what is good. In short, they can master the sense of proportion.

1. Being straightforward doesn't mean you have no scruples in your words.

Pay attention to some skills when you speak. Don't always use honesty as an excuse to be outspoken. Don't always say "I am a straightforward person, don't mind!" " A straightforward temper cannot be a reason to expose people's shortcomings!

Regardless of the occasion, regardless of other people's words, it is easy to make people embarrassed, and it is bound to be hated.

2, meet people to say three words.

Be careful what you say. It's always harmless to be careful. A person who has no talent and talks endlessly will be unpopular because he looks shallow and vulgar and lacks self-restraint. As the saying goes, God gives people one mouth and two ears to listen more and talk less.

3. Don't be outspoken.

Don't try to pry into others' privacy; Don't deliberately exaggerate and publicize each other's mistakes; Leave room for speech; Can't be forced; You can't talk without looking at the timing.

4, good topics should be enough.

Even if it is a good topic, you should speak moderately, not too long, or you will be very tired. If you can't get the other person to talk, or if you have to support it, you must find another topic to keep the other person's interest.

5, read more books, avoid being shallow and ignorant.

No one likes a person who is shallow and ignorant and full of rude words, so it is very helpful for your life to read and study more and be a connotative person.

The friendship between adults should be: mutual non-infiltration, non-verification, non-confidence, professional respect and personality trust.

Great friendship is not to participate in each other's lives in details, but to maintain harmony while appreciating each other's differences.

The so-called good relationship has its own limits.

I wish you all great friendship and best lovers.

I hope everyone can stand in their own position, grasp the discretion and become the best people.